There are so many good things that keep happening around us. But, our brain is wired to scan our environment for any signal that might be threatening. This unconscious processing is innate, and emerged because our ancestors had to choose correctly whether or not they should approach something - or avoid it. Clearly, we need this type of stress response allowing us to either fight-or-flight. It is what helped us humans survive.
Today, we are facing a new kind of threat. We are constantly bombarded with the threats that come with modern life. And as a result, many of us find ourselves feeling irritable and overwhelmed from time to time. It´s not about avoiding stressful sitations, rather, it is all about learning how to better respond and cope with them.
So, how can we be at our best when life and our surroundings become too demanding? Fortunately, there are things that can be done to turn things around for the better. Following are 3 simple ways that work for me, resulting in much less mental and emotional stress.
I´m not suggesting you increase your screen time! I´m talking about actual relationships with significant others. Focus on fostering healthy and meaningful relationships. Personally, I believe in having few, close friends - than many acquintances.
Cut down on energy drains and stay connected
Further, it is useful to identify parts of our live that drain us from energy. It could be anything from a person who is always brining negative energy or high demands, to a messy workspace, or a situation/event you wish you could avoid. By identifying these things we can slowly but surely eliminate them and cut down on anything that feels overwhelming or emotionally draining.
Many struggle with learning how to overcome our fear of missing out on things, and focus on what is important to us. What makes you happy? And is is really worth it? Make more room for what makes YOU happy. People will make time for anything if they really want to, and we don´t "have to" do anything just because we feel that it is expected of us. Once you´ve mastered the skill to say NO, it´s a game changer.
Identify what is important to you