A few days ago we celebrated Valentine's day, named after a priest who believed in love and later was executed because of that! fortunately, he is a saint today.
This day made me reflect on this thing about being feminine,- is it hot or not.
For those who have the courage to stand up for themselves as a woman, it's hot and in my opinion very sexy.
Many women chose to be both sexes. masculine/ feminine in one time. I don't think that's the plan dear peeps!
I'm not talking yin/yan here!
There is a reason why men and women are different from each other, otherwise, we wouldn't be attracted to each other.
Originally I am from Denmark and have now lived nearly seven years here in Austria.
Love brought me here.
One of the things I noticed when I visited Austria the first time was how gallant the men were.My man always open doors for me, help me take my jacket off when we are out, pull out the chair for me when we are out dining e.t.c. This was new for me. No offence but the Nordic men are completely different. I guess it´s because women have fought more for equality than the Austrian women have.
The consequence is maybe not in all directions beneficial.The women seem to have forgotten to enjoy the benefit of being a woman and the men don't have a clue about how to be a gentleman anymore that's pretty sad in my opinion.
I love the feeling of being cared about and have my man's masculine attention maybe a bit old school, but I don't care.
I am a huge fan of teamwork in a relationship, otherwise, it doesn't work optimally, I have tried that too. But we don't want men who are winy and week do we?
Don't we need this strong chest to lean our head upon?
Are we done with the admiration of a strong masculine biceps to carry us if we need it, or do we (women) have so strong a biceps ourselves so we don't need/ want to ask for help anymore?
My biceps are strong, but there are things where I love to play Miss.Helpless even though my man knows I can fix the television carry a ton, do the lawn. e.t.c. i like to do those things anyway but you know what I really like that there are "men things" and" woman things."
As a woman I have the caring/sharing gene, I am true to my female nature. and proud of it,- That means I get treated with another kind of respect from my man because I stand up for my sex and for who I am.
Think about the stone-age, what was our purpose at that time some of them was to gather the family around the fire, to give birth, to cook, take care of the kids ,- basic stuff that doesn't fit 100% to 2018,-easy now I know ;)
I think it would be good to transform this metafor into our time. in other words to accept the difference between us instead of fighting against it.
we don't want to be the same, and it was never ment to be so. It would mean the same as to lose respect for each other, I think that's the main reason why so many people get divorced, we feel the need to change each other to something we think would fit better, I say, don't change your man or woman but change yourself if you truly love this person. In the second you accept that ,your happiness begins, I know it because "have been there done that."
Today I live in a relationship with a wonderful man, he is a real man meaning he cooks when he likes to, pasta, is his favorite, loud Italian music in the background and a glass of red wine next to the stove, he doesn't clean the house or do any other "housewife-things". He is a protector the masculine way, he loves when I compliment him for doing whatever;).
He has a very strong masculine gene. said with a smile ;)
Do I fight against it, in the beginning of our life together I did, but pretty figured out that the benefits of having such a man were bigger than my nordic complaining was?
I decided to accept him as he is and he did the same to me. So no! I don't, I deal with it .We have a balance between us, that doesn't need words.
You might think holy moly how can a nordic woman accept to live a life like that!
He gives me much more by being 100 % him and showing me that he is true to his values, than allowing me to change him into something he really isnt .If I want to be with him I must accept that.
He is doing things I cant do and I do things he , and with this balance things works out in a great way.
My point is,- accept each other as you are ,or leave it
Dear Woman: Be true to your beautiful feminine site its sexy and powerful, men love a strong feminine woman.
Dear Men: Allow your woman to be feminine and tell her daily how wonderful you think she is.
That's my recipe for a good relationship.
Happy valentine <3