People often see one kind of disability shown on the media. They see that girl who was in a car accident and then she ends up in a wheelchair, but she never gave up and got a good life stay positive even tho she could never walk again, or they see that one girl who ends up in a wheelchair after a car accident and then she fights and fight even tho the doctors told her that she would never walk again, she never gave up and she ended up walking again.
Those two scenarios happen, they are real. it happens to people that they end up in a wheelchair after an accident or they end up with a disability after an accident, or they overcome it or end up happy. I’m not saying this doesn’t happen. It does. I’m asking about the other disability, which is almost never shown in the media. Those who were born with a disability, those who always has been in a wheelchair. Those who didn’t get there because of anything, but was born like that.
I know you all are wondering what the point of this is? to make you understand that some disabilities are not showing on the media? and so what? we still need representation in other eras like more black, Asian, India, Latina people, etc I can’t argue against that, I agreed, we still need representation in all these eras. I just want to tell you why we need it in this era, and why I don’t want your prayer.
I grow up in christen family, I went to church every Sunday, in the danish church early in the morning and in the Africa church in the afternoon. I was told from a young age “If I pray hard, maybe God will listen and make me walk”, I was often taken to other church so people could pray for me, and so I could have a normal life. I'm sure some of you with a religious background are sitting and thinking “what is so wrong with that? people wanted you to have a better life? why is that such a bad thing”.. Let me explain.
When you are praying for something, often it is because you are either grateful and want to thank God, or you need something from God. From a young age, people decide that I need a new body, so they pray to God for me, I wasn’t aware that my body was defected until all this, of course, I know my body was different but I never thought it was wrong until people started praying for me to “be healthy”. My life was never normal, but I didn’t know it wasn’t normal, I didn’t know I was supposed to want another body until people made me aware of that.
The “pray to God” create an illusion that I could be normal if I just pray hard enough, it also makes it seem like no one was accepting me for who I was, cause everyone wanted me to have a “better” body, but what if my body was good enough for me before this? Before someone made me aware that I should be able to jump and run without breaking anything? what if all of sudden this made me aware of all the things my body should be able to do and not what it could do? The praying also created an illusion that I had to be good for God to noticed me and reward me with a normal body, which in the end made me think that I had done something bad since God gave me this body, to begin with. In reality, the intention was good, but the result ends up with bad self-esteem. It ends up being told by a young age that you are not supposed to be in this body, something is wrong with this body.
By praying for a person who is born with a disability, you are actually saying to them that they are not enough, that their body is not enough, and that not only do you wish for them to have another body but others want it too, you tell them that again and again. Instead of learned them to accepted and loved their body, and be grateful. If the person also learns to walk or get more mobility, you also take away their hard work, because they didn’t do it, all the sudden it about god gave them the opportunity. Not them doing all the work. The intention is good but often ends up being more harmful in the long run.