I love Stockholm but it’s safe to say that I started missing Marbella when the sun went down at 1PM today haha...
Now we have a 7-month-old baby and I often get the question how we share responsibility at home and with Nate. People want advice, they want to hear what works and what doesn't. So now I'm making a whole post about this because I think it's important - and well, I want my child to grow up in an as equal home as possible!
During the nights we both usually wake up and feed Nate, so for example I hold Nate and comfort him while Thomas is making him formula, then Nate sits in my lap while Thomas feeds him and so on. When I was still breastfeeding, Thomas picked up Nate and brought him to me and then I fed Nate while laying down, half asleep haha.
If Thomas is at home, during weekends and vacations, he usually wakes up with Nate at 7 in the morning and I get to sleep a couple of more hours before I get up with them. When Thomas is working, we both wake up at 7. And when my mom is here we both get to sleep in the morning hehe. Right now, after a rough night when Nate decided to be awake from 4-6AM, I slept from 7-8:30 and then we switched so Thomas gets to sleep for some hours, which he is doing at the moment.
Thomas is pretty much in charge of the cleaning in our home, so every night before he goes to bed he cleans the kitchen and once a week he cleans pretty much the whole house. And in contrast to this I'm usually the one who makes dinner and food overall, and I always go grocery shopping since I like that as well.
In addition to these basic things we often spend time together all three of us when we're not at work etc. But we also "take turns" spending some quality time with Nate so both me and my husband get some me-time.
What's most important to me in our family is that Nate grows up and thinks it's as common for his dad to clean or cook as it is for his mom. That he doesn't grow up with these old thoughts of what a "man and a woman should do at home" you know?! I love that Thomas and Nate spends Saturday mornings cleaning our bathroom and I love that Nate gets to do all these everyday things with both me and my husband. We try to be as equal as possible with everything but obviously there are some things that aren't perfect since Thomas is working a lot and I'm the one who spends more time at home with Nate.
(Full outfit from Noa Noa & Nate's full outfit from Noa Noa miniature)
So... Spontaneously my husband decided to buy us new flight tickets home one week earlier, so 12 hours before the flight left we made a booking and well, now we're back in Stockholm although we were supposed to stay in Marbella a bit longer haha... This is what life with a crazy (but lovely) husband looks like!
It's COLD and DARK here but it's also pretty nice to be home after almost 4 weeks abroad. Our apartment is packed with stuff since we are moving in a couple of weeks and already have gotten lots of new furniture etc. I'm trying to organize everything so we're ready to move asap!
One thing that's good about being home is that I can tell Nate feels much more comfortable and happy in his "safe place". Being away for a month with a 6-month-old baby wasn't maybe the best decision, but now we know that and are one experience richer! And I can say that I enjoyed Spain and the sun 100 more than my boys hehe... I feel recharged and ready for 2020!!