"When a flower doesn't bloom you change the environment in which it grows, not the flower."
- Alexander Den Heijer
Whenever I see that my situation gets hard, or I feel things don't work for me - I try to take "a step back", evaluate my position and come up with a multitude of ideas and ways to change things for the better.
It might never be 100% perfect, but at least I know that I have tried and done my best part for a better positive change, in any situation.
I should not be the one to change myself for another person or for a certain situation, but instead help out anyway that I can without changing my own personality, my looks, my job, my hobbies or other that's important and personal.
Never ask anyone else to change either who they are for yourself or for something. Instead, help them grow beyond what is here and now. Also know that you can't and shouldn't change someone who doesn't want to change.