Helping going through books, papers and other in my parents office I stumbled upon this absolute gem! 😍
My dad have at some point taken a photo copy of an old family portrait of my relatives from my grandmother's side - the early Lindström [Lindstroem] family.
Had to get some help from my Nan to interpret some of the names documented but all was not 100% we think.

Father: Per Olov. Lindström, born 21st of Nov., 1867
Mother: Tekla Antonia Lindström, born 15th of Feb., 1865
Wedded on the 21st of Nov., 1888

Children:
• Vendela Karol ___, born 8th of Jan., 1889
• Edla Antonia, born 19th of April, 1890
• Gunhild Olivia, born 28th of June, 1891
• Olof Hjalmar, born 18th of Sep., 1892
• Helga Edit(?), born 17th of May, 1894
• Singhild, born 2nd of Jan., 1896
• Nanna, born 30th of Sep., 1897
• Sigurd, born 16th of Feb., 1899
• Sigrid, born 28th of Jan., 1901
• Knut Alvar, born 5th of Sep., 1902
• John Viktor, born 22nd of March, 1904
• Göte, born 4th of Oct., 1906

Göte is not shown because Tekla is currently pregnant with him as the picture was taken.
Per Olof was a butcher for farmers in the village of Wendenäs (currently Vännäs) and a mean drunk apparently.
He was also unfaithful to Tekla and eventually divorced and left her for another woman.
Tekla lived unmarried until her dying days and buried in Vännäs cemetery, where also her youngest son Göte also lies in the save grave as her.

Olof Hjalmar is my grandmother's great grandfather.
I think he is the boy with short hair to the very left of the image.

Let's talk about the elephant 🐘 in the room.
Because I am at a point where I will either speak up or close down my social medias, and I rather talk about it.

It's come to my attention that some people feel it's necessary to take notice👀 of what I do, say and post - and then notify various family members of my activities.
Why is this necessary? 🤷🏼‍♀️
What do you think you gain from stalking my activity? 🤔
Is it really necessary to take notice and talk to others about me behind my back, wouldn't it be better if you talk to me directly? 👌🏼

I'm not angry, but I am tad saddened and confused over this behavior 😐
Because I have no issues with inviting you to my house - come over to talk (if know where I live, have my phone number or you can contact me via social media) and I will gladly buy you a cup of coffee and we can chat if you're confused or concerned or need clarification about me and my life and I will happily talk to you.

My life is pretty much an open book 📖 I don't have anything to hide really or have issues discussing hard topics about me what I do what I say what I post what I like and dislike, sell or buy.
However, what I do have an issue about is talking about me behind my back to other people and finding out about it.

So here's my formal invitation to you who wants to talk about me:
Come over/Call me.
Let's pour a cup of coffee ☕ (my treat) and let's chat/hang out. I'm not even mad.
Isn't it better to talk with me or to me, than about me?

It's okej.
It's okej not to be okej all the time.
It's even okej to feel bad about yourself, even though you're trying to feel better.

You try to do whatever it takes to feel good again.
A new style.
A new hobby.
New haircut.
A new experience.
But no matter what it may be, make YOURSELF happy. It's important too.

Whenever I feel bad about myself, I force myself into a situation I don't wanna be in - because then I will challenge myself to accept what is.
I have to accept the situation.
Ex. When I feel bad about myself for a time, I force myself to wear nice clothes. I force myself into those sexy underwear, wear that thong or skinny dress/tight pants/etc... because then after a while (half a day or so) I feel a little bit better.

If you have body problems, self-esteem issues or in general have a hard time accepting yourself, remember it's okej to wash your laundry or do the dishes in high heels, vacuum in a dress, water your plants in cosplay, or go naked around the house.
Or perhaps do a spa-day: paint your face, take a shower/bath, hair treatment, foot bath, mani/pedi...

You're allowing yourself self-help treatment in a safe environment with items/clothing that make you happy and feel good.
And why shouldn't you look your best and feel good on your lower days?
You're awesome even then!

So tell me in the comments: what's your favorite thing to do when you feel down?

📷 | @ladyinaafoose

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