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hat: Zara Girls / coat: H&M / jumper: FB Sister / jeans: Second-hand / boots: Second-hand

Yesterday went pretty smoothly and I managed to keep my secret Valentine's surprise from my boyfriend which was that I build us a hut into our living room out of pillows and blankets and baked him his favourite blueberry pie. There we munched on the pie and talked and laughed until our cat decided it was enough and destroyed my construction on us hahah.

Today I have been feeling pretty ill and sick but as I feel crappy I wanted to do something nice to keep my mood up, so I put on some makeup, nice comfortable clothes and went to our balcony to take some photos. Otherwise I've been downing liters of ginger lemon tea and coffee and ate some vegan pizza from last night. I hope this will pass on quickly since I have a lot of school stuff to do on the weekend, and next week will be busyyyy even though it's supposed to be a holiday week here.

How did your Valentine's day go? Did you get surprised?


xx Johanna

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glasses: Nissen(oldies) / coat: H&M / sweater: Mango / trousers: H&M / bag: Amisu / boots: Second-hand

Have been feeling a little sick so comfy outfit is called for! I keep on wearing this coat everyday but what can I help when it's near perfect for this weather and looks damn great? I don't normally wear my glasses unless I work on the computer but I thought they fit pretty well with this outfit so I left them on when I went to photograph. I also put on some bright orange red lipstick, just really felt like it and it matches the colours real nice. Now I need some more coffee and tea before heading out.


xx Johanna

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Something a little different upon this Valentine's day, usually we talk about love but I wanted to write about self-acceptance.

Accepting yourself, it's different than loving yourself, on a totally wider range, and truly selfish in it's good and bad ways.

Learning self-acceptance has really opened me many doors forward backward inward outward everywhere. It has given me the chance to be me as I am always and everyday. It doesn't matter how I feel on a certain day or what thoughts I have about myself or others, even if they might be the baddest things your brain can produce it's still okay they're just thoughts, and feelings can be analyzed and there usually is something behind them and they can be discussed with others to make them understandable.

I think it's total bull when people say you can't love anyone else before you love yourself! I haven't loved myself for many years now (I'm very realistic about myself and analytical which makes it hard) but I have always loved other people in my life. I'm very loving and even when I'm down I still love my boyfriend, cat, family and friends maybe it feels dimmer at that point since nice feelings get number then but it doesn't change what I feel towards others. When I feel down it's usually towards myself, I feel encouraged or bad about something I have thought/said/felt or just a let down.

But these things are just thoughts and then I get feelings regarding them. Thoughts that aren't necessary can be put aside and just forgotten but feelings should be dealt with either by yourself or with someone. With self-acceptance I have learned I can talk about my feelings whether because of a thought or hunch and that it's very often better to discuss it rather than just leave it be because as I am like this it will probably come and hunt me in my sleep.

Many things I just analyze within my mind and by myself but talking with your s/o, family members, friends, a pet etc. will most definitely help. And as you just say how you feel and accept that feeling yourself it's easier for others to accept it and maybe make themselves open to you more as almost all people have these feelings and they can be confusing. But the key to this is just accepting the fact that we are thinking, feeling and loving beings in good and bad. There can be positive thoughts negative thoughts everything in-between but they don't necessarily define you but the way you treat others and what actions you decide to take regarding these feelings and thoughts.

Not one person is truly altruistic or "good" we all get bad thoughts and feelings and that was for me the biggest stone in my way. I thought I can't be inherently good if I get any negative thoughts about myself or others or negative feelings because of them and letting them known was a nightmare to me! But nowadays learning that they are as normal to some people as breathing and it's better to time to time let them out it's easier to say "I don't like what you said, That made me sad, I'm just feeling really angry right now". But also it's easier for me to say "I care about you, How are you really feeling, Do you want to talk about something?".

Letting yourself and others be humans that change and feel and think anything and everything is the key to happy life. Accepting that you are good every day and any day despite your thoughts and feelings, they don't define you as a person but your actions and how you deal with them.


Hoping you will have a nice Valentine's, Galentine's, Friend's day whichever whatever you choose and wish it to be!

You are dear and important!


xx Johanna

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