the thing about me you have noticed is that I’m black. Something that I now am proud of but wasn’t before. It’s an of my identity from my defend curls to the media I consume. I'm ethnically Somali and reseed in Sweden. However, I was never raised to see the beauty in my skin color, because everything from the people around me to the people I was on tv never looked like me. Therefore, I must be the odd one out. The first time I ever had another black person as classmate as when I started 4th grade, where thoughts and concepts of beauty already were established. So learning about Black history month in my early teenage years changed the way I look at my self. Becuse i saw beautyfull black women who were porud of theri big lips and curly hair, so why should i not be pround as well? Funny that the race which didn’t even have a written language, let alone a single functional civilization prior to white colonialism would have an entire month of the calendar dedicated to their history, which every white nation is politically obligated to acknowledge.
Obviously, we as a society need to learn to view women as more than just their physical appearance and to start complimenting them because of their talents and skills rather than their looks, that I agree with. What I don’t agree with is the horde of white feminists acting like a celebration of black beauty somehow promotes these harmful patriarchal standards about women being nothing but their looks.
Black women (especially dark skin ones) have been ostracized and humiliated for their physical appearance for hundreds of years, so many young black girls grow up nowadays depressed and wanting to bleach their skin and get plastic surgeries to look “less black” because society has indoctrinated them into believing blackness is inherently ugly, teaching these black girls to love themselves and telling them their natural features are indeed beautiful is in no way antifeminist or promoting patriarchal beauty standards! Antiblackness is a globalized phenomenon and beauty standards in most countries and cultures are extremely antiblack anyways, promoting natural black beauty is directly fighting against those patriarchal expectations!
Black women are beautiful! This is a fact! Stop telling me I’m supporting an industry that profits off of women’s self-hatred for refusing to give up to internalized racism that exact same industry has been trying to force on me and people like me for so long!