Hello beautiful ❤️
Can't even begin to think how often we are asked by someone what and most importantly, who we want to become. Saturday night me and a good friend of mine watched a youtuber answer that exact same question in a Q&A video and yeah you guessed it; it really made me think. Most of us answer that we strive to be more active, positive, energetic and outgoing. There is nothing wrong with those traits. But the truth is that not all of us can be that way. I would even claim that most of our stress is caused by the fear of not meeting certain standards put on to us by someone else or even more so ourselves.
There is this unwritten almost global rule that certain personality traits are more important or even more attractive than others. I've always questioned that norm or at least I thought so until I noticed how I was working with things and people who did not match me as a person. I learned a lot from those experiences, I really did but I wasn't magically transformed into a completely different person. And I was left there at the crossroad thinking if I should turn left and embrace the real person I am, or turn right and ignore my own needs and qualities. I think most of us have been in a situation like that sometimes. Yeah, I get that you cannot always work for your own happiness and you cannot always put yourself above all else, but you know what? if you really wanna win at life you kinda need to do so every once in a while.
What are the goals to strive for then, what can we achieve and not loose ourselves in the process? We can become more of something we want to be but within our own limits. By this I mean that an introvert can not force themselves into being extroverted but they can however figure out what social activities feel good and how many times a week they could socialize in order to feel the benefits of social interaction yet, not too drained. Or maybe someone wants to volunteer but doesn't have the time and energy to do so every week, then maybe they could start by donating money to an important cause or perhaps try out volunteer work during one event. What I'm trying to say is that it's fine to make small personal improvements, you don't have to give it your all. A small step is good enough and a good enough change for the better. Not all of us need to be public figures in order to be successful and active in life.
Now that we've talked about small personal goals, let's take a closer look on why it is important to be the people we are designed to be. Let's use a shy person and a socially confident person as an example. The shy person notices all details in their environment and the socially confident person is great at public speaking. Let's say the two are presenting a project together. The shy person has noticed that the fellow students they are presenting their project for prefer visual aids and they therefore include them in their presentation. The socially confident person is able to deliver the message clearly so that everyone understands the meaning behind their topic. A pretty successful situation, I would say. All kinds of traits are needed in this world. We just need to discover them and how to use them for our own benefit. We also need to encourage people better. Not always telling them how society would prefer them to be but what they have that can be used for the benefit of everyone. In fact my advice is to be like Rasmus from "Torka aldrig tårar utan handskar" (eng.
Don't ever wipe tears without gloves) by Jonas Gardell and just take that one trip to Stockholm and not travel home for Christmas even if nobody understands you at all. Some day someone will understand and see themselves in you.
Hopefully you all are having a great Monday so far and get to spend some time outside! I brought my office outside today and that allowed me to have the best of both worlds ☀️🌄🎶🍃