Good afternoon 🍵
Grab yourself a cup of tea or coffee or something refreshing and let us talk about the "follow unfollow culture" on social media. I would like to start out by saying that I cannot decide what people use their social media for it is up to them but I feel like I need to express myself about this odd behavior that I am sure many have noticed especially on Instagram. Personally I use Instagram to feel inspired and I gather my inspiration from painters, people who love alternative aesthetics, motivational quotes, landscape pictures and my friends of course inspire me a lot. So I follow many more people than I have followers because it is easy for me to like different things and I love seeing the world from all kinds of perspectives. What I am trying to say is that if I follow someone it is genuine. I don't follow people to be polite, to stalk someone I once knew or to gain more followers. I follow someone because they have done something I found interesting either online or irl. However not everyone shares this vision of social media with me.
Many famous people especially people working online follow a lot of people who they see as "their potential followers". These people follow you, maybe like a few of your posts, suddenly they ghost you and one fine morning you notice that they have unfollowed you. You check their profile and happen to notice that they have gained followers since they started to follow you which means that they have done the exact same thing to many others. You go on with your day normally thinking "don't let that disturb you it is just one of many first world problems" but then again it feels terrible. It is a very fake way to gain followers, and the worst part is that many of these people have a huge influence on young people, who might end up mimicking this type of behavior. It is difficult to understand since it only happens online, but the real life version of it would be to use some people in order to become more succesful yourself and nobody would let that go so why let this follow unfollow culture continue living on?
It is time consuming to use this method to rapidly gain followers. Also why not give people a good impression by actually only following people you like and give them some lovely comments from time to time? Would you rather win a sports championship by trainig very hard for a very long time but you know the victory was worth all the work or would you rather win because you cheated your way towards victory? I will tell you something important. If you do great things in life you will get noticed. It may take some time but it is worth the wait. So why not focus on your content and promote positivity on social media rather than taking a short cut towards being famous online. I would rather have 5 followers who love me for who I am rather than 51k followers I gained with the follow unfollow method and I can't be the only one feeling this way, comment what you think!
The Golden Rule doesn't disappear online. Social media is an online society and in a society all members must at least respect eachother in order to co-create in peace. If someone has becoming Instagram famous as their life goal then I am sure they very likely be able to come up with many methods to gain followers - maybe starting out by posting content that people feel empowered by rather than things people don't feel can be achieved in their current lives. We all want to see relatable people, people who inspire us the become our own greatest versions and in my opinion that can never be fully achieved with the follow unfollow methods. It is not "just followers" followers are all equally wonderful individuals with feelings and thoughts that deserve to be seen and heard so please stop seeing followers as numbers, treat them as the loveable and worthy people that they are and they will do the same to you.