Hate speech is the death of a positive social climate were everyone can work towards their own personal goals and achieve a happier life. Hate speech has no benefits. When spreading hate speech you take that time and energy away from making your own life better and put it into a negative use that hurts others and takes away energy from yourself that you could be using on solving important issues in your own life and on a larger scale. I don't accuse anyone of hate speech but I encourage everyone to never use it and to spread positivity instead. Because positivity takes many different forms and it benefits us all and contributes to a happier and healthier life. Now let's move on to another subject related to this subject; hate speech directed at oneself.
I'm surely not the only one who at times doesn't feel good enough. I and many others (I'm sure) think that they aren't a certain way which makes them feel flawed. They may have painted this picture of what they view to be a perfect person in their head and if they do not meet up with the criteria they start to beat themselves up. This picture doesn't come from nowhersize,,he inner picture we have of ourselves is a product of all of our experiences, our enviroment, media and anything else around us that could shape the way we look at ourselves. We focus on being someone and often that someone isn't us.
I recently came across the TedTalk of my female crush Ashley Graham. Graham is a body activist and she talks to young girls about loving the skin that they are in. Graham is a model and absolutely beautiful both inside and out. In her TedTalk; Plus-size? More like my size, she talks about her experience in the fashion industry and being labelled as "the plus-sized girl with a pretty face". Graham has learned to embrace and love her body and I'm proud of her achievements on both a professional and personal level for it is a process to learn to love yourself. But thanks to people like Ashley Graham young girls now have a rolemodel they can look up to in order to learn to love the skin that they are in.
When I talk of beauty I like to devide it into two categories: what society thinks is beautiful and beauty that lies in the eyes of the beholder. If you feel that you don't fit into the beauty standards of society it doesn't mean that you aren't beautiful. In someones eyes you'll always be viewed as beautiful. So why not also decide to view yourself as a beautiful person? This will boost your confidence and make you even more attractive than you already are. There isn't only one type of beauty around in fact, there are many types of beauty and guess what you belong into one of these types. And if you don't feel beautiful decide today that you'll start to love yourself just the way you are because within you there is something much prettier that outer beauty. Within you lies a unique personality, a person who wants to be loved and to be happy.
It's obviously easier said than done to love yourself, that is. This is why it's important to remember that selflove takes many forms. Selflove can be taking care of yourself by taking care of your own basic needs, to accept yourself and the fact that strech marks and cellulite may be a part of your body even if you exercise daily, selflove could be posting realistic pictures of oneself without retouching them and encouraging others to do the same, selflove can be the same thing as doing things you love and removing toxic relationships from your life. Learning more about yourself and appreciating your body for what it can do is also a form of selflove. I hope that you'll find a form of selflove that suits you best. You might start to notice small things about yourself that you think are pretty perfect as they are, for example nicely shaped shoulders or beautiful eyes. You should use these moments and highlight your favorite features, draw attention to your eyes with the help of make up or wear a shirt that shows off your shoulders. But remember not to rely on things like clothes and make up in order to feel pretty, use them as a way to rediscover your own natural beauty. View them as a tool that helps you out in the process of selflove.
Now write a contract to yourself were you promise to love yourself no matter what, make it official, spread the selflove! :
Promise to love myself, embrace my body and accept the way I am in through both good and bad.
You are worthy, not because you graduated, not because you lost weight, not because you've been an active member of society. These achievements are important and you should be proud of whatever goals and tasks you accomplish during your life but the point is that you do not need to do stuff in order to feel worthy, you are worthy now because you are you. Nobody I repeat nobody is 100% perfect or 100% imperfect, we all have our strengths and weaknesses and you are worthy because of those. You are unique. If that isn't beautiful then what is?
Is there a better time for practicing selflove than the summertime? How to beachbody: Have a body & go to the beach.