Hope you've been having a lovely weekend!
I wanted to share some thoughts about meditation in this post. I'm currently reading the book "The Emotional Life of Your Brain" by Richard J. Davidson. And yes - I'm a complete nerd when it comes to everything that is within the topic how the brain works, happiness, positive psychology, and mental health. In the book they talk about some of the benefits with meditation which are:
1. You feel more empathy
2. You feel more compassion
3. You become more optimistic
4. You feel more well-being in life
It is obvious that meditation gives you a lot of amazing benefits. It's also free and very easily accessible!
I was super skeptical at first when my boyfriend suggested that he thought I should try meditation. Some of the thoughts I had was "It will just be a waste of time", "I think yoga is more of my "thing" and that's enough for me" and "Sound boring". Still, I decided to try and now it's one of my favorite habits that I have implemented in my life that I see as something I want to continue with for the rest of my life.
So why does so few people have meditation as a daily habit? Here are some of the thoughts I heard about meditation:
1."I don't know if it makes any difference, I don't see any results"
You will get benefits from meditation even if you do it for only a few minutes each day. However remember that there is no "quick fix" in life. You need patience to create a long term change. Just like you can't just run or workout once to see instant results, you can't meditate once and expect a huge change. It's not like you can eat healthy once and see the results instantly. Remember that with this patience you might not see the result but you will for sure feel it.
2. It's too "spiritual" and "hippie" for me
Meditation has a bit of a branding of being something spiritual, maybe because it's common for monks to do it. However I think it's too bad because it becomes an obstacle for people to do it because they can't relate to it. I would want to reframe it as "mental training" because that's really what it is for me. It's like going to the mental gym in order to develop stronger mental muscles.
3. "I could spend my time better on other things"
Really? I actually doubt that you wouldn't have 5 minutes in a day that wouldn't be beneficial to spend on mental training. We usually look so much outwards. Getting stimulus from the outside world. We might spend all our awake time looking outwards some days. In comparison taking 5 minutes to look inwards is a very low percentage of the time you spend in a day. Isn't it worth it to connect deeper with yourself? I think so. If you're not convinced, read the book that changed my whole perspective on the importance of meditation (and one of my favorite books about personal development): "Search Inside Yourself" by Chade-Meng Tan.
4. "I can't empty my brain and think about nothing"
No you can't and noone can do that! It's not the point. The point is rather to create some space. To create distance to your thoughts. Be the observer of them rather than be all caught up in them. Try to focus your attention on one thing and when your thoughts drifts away, just gently bring your attention back. That is the practice. You do not need to "think about nothing", you should just try to have your attention on one thing.
5. "I kind of meditate naturally in my daily life"
I would rather call that mindfulness rather than meditation. I think you need to actively engage in meditation and have as little stimulus as possible from the outside world. Turn of your notification and your devices. Sit still. Close your eyes. Then you can really fully focus your attention.
Are you curious to try it out?
I think guided meditation is a great way to start so will link a beginner meditation here!
Lots of love
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