Although there’s no contradiction to the fact that a woman who stays at home to look after her family is responsible for an unbelievably demanding job, the women who toggles between work and family, especially when they have kids, deal with different sorts of challenges on a regular basis.
These women are symbols of strength, and surely deserve to be pampered once in a while. If you know any such supermom, send flowers to Philippines and remind them that they are doing a great job.
Here’s a few of the many struggles faced by a mom cum businesswoman in Philippines round the clock.
Managing work when the kids fall sick
An important client meeting scheduled, an important presentation awaits or it’s the delivery deadline – and the kids fall sick. This has been the working mother’s nightmare. Even if she manages to win the argument with her spouse over who misses work to take care of the kids, it is a known fact that when a child is unwell he/she needs the mother the most, and thus it becomes impossible to leave the ailing child behind.
Leaving her baby at the daycare regularly
This is the daily dose of pain the mother has to go through when she has to leave her kids in the care of absolute strangers. Initially the toddlers would cry and protest at being kept away from the mother, but eventually, they helplessly accepted it, which makes the mother feel worse. Carrying this heavy guilt in her heart, the mother tries to make up for her absence in every way possible by sending flowers to them – making the off days special, buying them presents, cooking their favourite meals – but this regular struggle with her own conscience continues.
As she is in charge of her kids as well as the business, every day, from the moment she wakes up, it’s like a race. Waking the kids up and getting them ready for the day, getting ready for work, making sure they finish their breakfast – the mornings are just crazy. In these rush hours, on most days she misses her breakfast and munches on some muffins or cookies while on her way to work.
The kids complain about how other moms make time for their kids
This breaks her heart. Often her kids come back home complaining about how the other stay-at-home moms make so much time for their kids, while she doesn’t. Every time she misses a parent-teacher meeting or a play date, her kids feel that she doesn’t care enough. No matter how much she tries to be present for these important events, at times tough choices need to be made. And, there can’t be anything worse than being told that someone else is a better mother.
She barely gets time with her spouse
Romance seems history to the mother who is raising minor kids and managing a business as well. As the kids are deprived of the motherly love and care for the greater chunk of time, whenever it’s an off day or a vacation, it’s all about pampering the kids and spending time with them. In the process, she fails to spend a private time or a vacation with her spouse which leads to a frustration of its own.
Her health is neglected
Needless to say, she gives the least priority to herself while she is juggling to maintain her work-life balance. Her meal timings go haywire, she has no time to exercise, her sleep cycles are highly disturbed, and even when she is unwell she fails to squeeze out time to visit the physician, or even take some rest.
It seems she is miserable, isn’t she? Well, yes and no. Yes because there are loads of hurdles in her day-to-day life to keep everyone happy, but, at the same time she enjoys having her own identity and the taste of success and independence.
However, she is filled with self-doubt from time-to-time, and that’s when she needs her near and dear ones to let her know that she is wonderful the way she is, and she just needs to hang in there.