We students, regardless of our age, still need someone who will motivate us. Students there will agree with me. I should know.

It is not bad to demand that everyone who surrounds us must encourage and persuade us that we can do the things we thought are impossible. However, if you are one of the people who don’t want to, just please don’t make us feel hopeless.

I hope everyone knows that mistakes are inevitable because essentially, mistakes pop up in our way for us to know what’s needed to be improved. Most often to always, people treat mistakes as 'mere mistakes'. These are situations that need to be rectified instead of being seen as plain grounds for pulling down someone. 

Mistakes cannot be corrected by insults, comparisons and belittling the capacity of an individual who is no capable of reaching anyone’s standards. Internal pain serves no age, and this is miserable. In fact, we, the college students are the ones who deeply need the support of people in our lives and those who shape our lives. And sometimes the simplest form of negative and offensive criticism, no matter to whose mouth it came from, can completely ruin us mentally and emotionally, like a fragile baby toy.

Another thing, I think the hardest part of being in this stage is the struggle of carrying not the school works, but the weight of expectations, pressure and fear. That is an uncontrollable fact that no one can avoid and the only way to lessen it, if not eradicate, is a constant reception of some sorts of encouragement and hope from others. Do not make us feel that you are disappointed at us. It is far from making us the better version of ourselves.

Lastly, the most distressing reality is that sometimes, those people whom we thought are capable of inspiring and helping us reach are goals are the ones who are actually pulling us down. Ooops, I can imagine some thumbs up there. *winks* Intentional or unintentional, the words and the actions can still create real deep and long lasting wounds.

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First of all, I am not a life expert. LOL. I just want to share my thoughts based on what I have experienced. Second, if you disagree with the whole content of this blog, you are free to message me, anyway, I accept criticisms and all. Third, you may say that these are easier said than done but it worked to me, so it really depends on you.

So . . . here it goes.

Having someone in your life that you consider a home is one of the best feelings in the world. It may be your dad, your mom, your sister/brother, your friends or even your boyfriend/girlfriend. There is always that someone whom you can perceive as your comfort zone, your final piece of the puzzle, your morning coffee (what?), and whatever cheesy crap. But what if that someone walks away from your life? What if that someone stops talking to you? What if that person is really not the person you knew? How can you get out of that sublime conviction when you are trapped in the idea of a long lasting and consistent comfort?

I assume that most of us already experienced this and each one of us may have the same or different ways on how to deal with that horrible feeling.

But here’s mine: (I only got three. HAHAHAHAHA Weak)

Number 1. Love yourself first. As what Jimmy Wopo said, “Know your worth and stop giving people discounts.” If someone treats you like a crap despite of the chances you gave, leave. It’s not easy but it will save you from the cycle of pain. How can someone see your worth if you don’t even value yourself? Prioritize your self-worth because in the end, only you can help yourself.

Number 2. Do not set expectations from someone. Because if you do, not only it will pressure and bother him/her but also, it will surely hurt you in the end. There is no assurance that the affection that someone is making you feel right now will last.

Number 3. Consider the concept of “detachment”. It doesn’t mean that you literally need to avoid that person, all I’m saying is that, keep in mind that you cannot expect that the person will stay in your life forever. Everything is temporary and remember that nothing is constant in this world except change (as what my teacher in High School said). Learn how to be happy in the presence of someone but make sure that his/her absence will not ruin that gratifying feeling.

My apologies if some of you will find this a little bit inhumane and may think of me as cold-hearted, ugly b*tch. I just want to let you know my own ways of protecting my emotions. I am a girl too (in case you haven’t noticed); I am sensitive and emotional. Getting used of someone in my life and left me hanging in the end was the worst thing ever. Been there a lot of times but this time it’s a little bit lighter to accept. Yey me!

Remember this line by Lily Collins in Love, Rosie: “Choosing the person that you want to share your life with is one of the most important decisions any of us makes.” 😊

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