As I told on my previous post from January that I've had struggles with insecurity throughout my life, and based on the feedback that I got, many of you have or have had the same problem as I do. Therefore I wanted to share my 5 tips that I've learned and what I still use, on how to be more confident. There has been a lot of talking about being who you are and want to be so these might be what you've heard a lot elsewhere but I still wanted to share my own personal opinion. Hope you guys like!
1. STAND UP STRAIGHT
The first thing that makes a person look more confident is a good posture. Always stand up straight - that's how you show people that you are happy with who you are and you aren't afraid to show it to everyone! I've seen many people with bad posture and they give a feeling that they are afraid to communicate and be themselves.
2. WEAR CLOTHES THAT MAKE YOU FEEL CONFIDENT
If you are still afraid to stand out and wear the clothes that you want to then now is your chance! Before I was afraid to wear different clothes than other students in my previous school, but then I thought that why not? Life is too short to think what other people might think about me or my style! When I wear my kind of clothes that I really like it boosts up my confidence lot!
3. FIND MUSIC THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD
This might sound silly and unmeaningful regards to confidence but for me confidence comes from music too. When I walk outside in the city I always listen to songs that are compelling and make me feel good, so when I walk I want to look confident and that is where the music helps!
4. DON'T LET PEOPLE PUSH YOU AROUND AND MAKE YOU FEEL BAD
I've learned this myself with a lot of time and I'm still struggling with it since it's not that easy. You don't always have to do what everyone else says you should. It's your own life and the only one who gets to say what you should do is you and you only. I have couple of friends that have very strong opinions and they always say everything very straight to me and I've let them push me around a lot. But at some point I realized that this is my own life and even if my friends think that I should do some things the way they want me to it doesn't mean I should listen to them. I'm not saying that my friends wouldn't give good advice but not every time. I mean you should never feel that you need to do something because everyone else says you should. Remember to listen to yourself too.
5. REMEMBER TO LOVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS
The one thing that most people tend to do is envy others. That's what I've always done and shamefully still do sometimes. But it only brought me harm and when I envied others I forgot to love myself which is the most important thing to do. You learn to love yourself when you stop wishing that you looked like someone you see on Instagram or some people you know. It's hard in today's society and everyone of us is guilty of doing that. But if you still feel like hating how you look or wished that you were someone else, then stop for a minute and take a moment to think what you're glad about yourself. Start every morning by looking into the mirror and saying something good about yourself. Stop envying others and compliment them. If your friend has got new clothes and you envy her for it - then stop. Stop wishing that you had her clothes, and rather compliment her of them. It will make the other person happy because who wouldn't love to get complimented. and what's best is how you will make yourself happy as well.