Timing is a bitch, yes. But it is only a bitch if e let it be. Here is a simple truth that I think we all need to face up to: the people we meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people.
I guess it is that period of time when a girl, woman/ lady decides to meet someone, to date someone. Some one special, probably someone who also treats her special but the only thing that stops her is her brain. Being scared to hurt others, being scared to be hurt.
How could it possibly be a wrong thing to find the right person?
Well the answer I do not know. A few months ago, a friend of mine caught her self in a blink of loving someone, the love vanished because he did not love her back, she never left when she was supposed to and now, she thinks it is to late because she has been attached to this person inside and out.
What does my friend want and what does the guy want?
When I was sitting down with my friend, this is what she told me,
"you can date a man for a few months even a year even two years and try to make him the person you want him to be but if you can not and not willing to hold on too, let go". That is what I did. "said my friend".
You see this guy is first of all one of the special people I have met,. He is willing but it just stops on the tip of his tongue. He says things that he is willing to change but the funny thing he does not.. we have been in this fight for a long time and I feel like I am a victim".
The story continues other time but where it left me as someone who wants a relationship, it kept me thinking that maybe I should wait. My aunt told me to wait. My friend is hurting right now and she is going through many other things and this is adding onto her pain so she is hurting and if I put myself in her shoes, I will follow my aunt´s advise. I will wait because timing is something that none of us can seem to get quite right with relationships. We meet the person of our dreams the month before they mess up, the leave you hanging . We form an incredibly close friendship with an attractive person who is already full of distractions. One relationship ends because our partner is not ready to get serious and another ends because they are getting serious too soon.
Timing seems to be the invariable third party in all of our relationships. And yet we never stop to consider why we let timing play such a drastic role in our lives..
Conclusion, You never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are timeless. The right people make you want to throw away the plans you originally had for one and follow them into the hazy, unknown future without a glance backwards. The right people do not make you hmm and haw about whether or not you want to be with them; you just know. You know that any adventure you had originally planned out for your future isn´t going to be half as incredible as the adventures you could have by their side. That no matter what you thought you wanted before, this is better. Everything is better since they came along.
NOTE: When you are with the right person, time falls away. You don´t worry about fitting them into your complicated schedule. They become the backbone of it,. Your happiness becomes your priority and so long as they are contributing to it, you can work around the rest.
PS: The right people encourage you: They do not stand in the way. They encourage you to try harder, dream bigger, do better. They bring out the most incredible parts of yourself and make you want to fight harder than ever before.
The truth is, when we pass someone up because the timing is wrong, what we are really saying is that we don´t care to spend our time on that person. There will never be a magical time when everything falls into place and fixes all out broken relationships. But there may someday be a person who makes the issue of timing irrelevant.
Because when someone is right for us, we make the time to let them into our lives. And that kind of timing is always is always right.
unfortunate for my friend, everything was the opposite ..................................................