It takes nothing to join the crowd. It takes everything to stand alone when you're hurt. But yet one could then ask why be alone? Well I have found that in my time of solace what seems to be the answer to this question is to forget what hurt you but never forget what it taught you...
Although this is a great saying, am in deep conflict with this to forget the hurt.. I mean it is like that dog that never stops barking in your neighbors yard.. you hear the dog barking, it gets to you and you talk to your neighbor and nothing seems to help.
Eventually to some extent you get used to it and on certain days you might not even hear him bark!!! But when you sitting deep in thought, that bark out of nowhere is so loud that it sounds like the bloody thing is barking right in your ear.!!
My analogy for this is I haven't been able to forget the hurt, not even close, but I found it easier to own that hurt. Understanding it and trying to harness that energy into something positive and preparing myself for round 2..
It probably won't be the last time I find myself in a similar situation but never the same and that's where never forget comes in to play. One may ask is there something you could have done differently ?? Absolutely not, don't go down that rabbit hole.. doesn't matter you deserve to be treated right - end of story.
Something important in this process is if you're lucky and ofc you never want someone you care about to experience what you going through, but if you do find someone you do care about in a similar situation than by all means share with that person, or a person you trust that you can share with what you're feeling..
I was unlucky in luck and found the most kindhearted humble loving soul on the planet my close friend miss Tolstoy the one I share this blog with.
Unification of mind and soul.