As a uni student I am surrounded by people striving to improve, create, have ideas, and goals. I'll be honest, the passed week has been rough for me. It has just been one of those weeks where nothing goes as planned. But hey, it can only go upwards when you feel like you've reached the bottom!
I got to say the theme of the week has been 'goals'. As a student you cannot avoid the question "so what do you want to do when you finish your degree?" or "what jobs can you get into with that degree?". Most students (I know anyway) will have some kind of idea of what they strive to become, but will usually keep the options open by saying "Honestly, I have no clue".
What I find really interesting is listening to what the people around me plan and think of as life goals for themselves, in other words: what is success? Just think about it yourself; wherever you find yourself in a crowded place, every single person around you will most likely have an individual idea of what success is.
I have heard so many different answers. And it fascinates me. Where do we get these ideas from. We all come to life with the same: nothing but ourselves, but we all develop into having such different definitions of what life should be like.
I have to admit, I cannot stand it when people use the word "goals" to caption a picture on social media. You have most likely seen it yourself, or used it. Look, it isn't the fact you have dreams and a sense of direction in life that bothers me. It is the fact we tend to idealise these materialistic or shallow things. A Mercedes #goals, A good looking couple 'candidly' standing by the sunset kissing #goals, A person posing in front of a beautiful castle of a house #goals, a real fit person showing off their body #goals. I get it, they are things that people work hard for and have earned. It is just the fact that no one on social media points out the little things. The things that should be primary goals: food, good health, love. And again, I get it. No one would like a post where you managed to pay your bills this month #goals, filled the fridge up #goals, or said your hair looks cute on a bad hair day #goals.
What is even more interesting to me is the fact people around me will throw the word 'success' around like confetti, but it never even seems like they define it for themselves. "I just want to be successful in life". And if that is a Mercedes, or a smile from a stranger on the streets, that is relative.
Did you know when most people are asked what they want in life for others or themselves, the most common answer is 'happiness'.