A couple of hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. Never leave that till tomorrow, he said, which you can do today. This is the man who discovered electricity. You think more people would listen to what he had to say. I don't know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, I'd have to say it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, sometimes the fear is just of making a decision, because what if you're wrong? What if you're making a mistake you can't undo? The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can't pretend we hadn't been told. We've all heard the proverbs, heard the philosophers, heard our grandparents warning us about wasted time, heard the damn poets urging us to seize the day. Still sometimes we have to see for ourselves. We have to make our own mistakes. We have to learn our own lessons. We have to sweep today's possibility under tomorrow's rug until we can't anymore. Until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin really meant. That knowing is better than wondering, that waking is better than sleeping, and even the biggest failure, even the worst, beat the hell out of never trying.
You see ... it is not the circumstances in your life that determine your destination. It is your philosophy. As western novelist Louis L'Amour wrote, "Up to a point a man's life is shaped by environment, heredity, and movements and changes in the world about him; then there comes a time when it lies within his grasp to shape the clay of his life into the sort of thing he wishes to be... Everyone has it within his power to say, 'This I am today, that I shall be tomorrow'."
1. Spend some time to think and write down WHAT you believe about success.
If you went to the self-help section of a bookstore, you could easily find a couple hundred books on success. But the only definition of success that really counts ... is yours. Have you taken time to think about? I hope you have ... because if you haven't taken the time to define success, chances are very good you'll end up somewhere else. What does success mean to you? Financially? Relationally? Occupationally? Emotionally? Spiritually? Think about it. Brainstorm all your possible answers, and then write down everything that comes to mind. Don't worry about spelling, grammar, or punctuation. Just write, write, write as fast as you can ... capturing all your thoughts. On your second or third draft you can weed out the nonsense and refine your definition of success.
And you don't have to rush it. You may engage in this exercise several times over several weeks. And you may add some "good stuff" you learn from other sources.
That's what I did. For example, part of my philosophy is MAKING EVERY DAY COUNT. I hate wasting time. And I found a great quote from Dr. Heartsill Wilson that helped me reinforce that part of my philosophy. Dr. Heartsill said, "This is the beginning of a new day. I can do with this day what I will. I can waste it or use it for good, but what I do today is important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be lost forever leaving in its place what I have traded for it. I want it to be gain and not loss, good and not evil, success and not failure, in order that I shall not regret the price that I have paid for it."
Another part of my philosophy is MAKING SURE I KNOW ... and especially ... KNOW WHAT'S MOST IMPORTANT. Some ignoramus said, "Ignorance is bliss." No it's not. As Rohn so often noted, "Ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance is poverty, tragedy, illness, and devastation. What you don't know will hurt you."
I want to know more, learn more, and out of that, especially know what's most important in life. I don't ever want to lose my focus. So I incorporated the following list into my philosophy. It says:
Three things in life that, once gone, never come back:
Three things in life that can destroy a person:
Three things in life that you should never lose:
Three things in life that are most valuable:
Three things in life that are never certain:
Three things that make a person:
Once you've taken some time to think about and write down what you believe about success, there's a second part to getting your philosophy in shape. You've got to ...
2. Clarify HOW you're going to get it.
In other words, it's not enough to simply have a philosophy. You've got to live by it. Helen Keller, the blind/deaf author and lecturer knew that. She said, "Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose."
So I'd recommend the daily duo. In the morning, take 2 minutes to think about or read over your philosophy. Think about your upcoming day and HOW you're going to live out your philosophy at home and on the job. And then in the evening, take 2 minutes to think about HOW well you lived out your philosophy and where corrections might be needed in the future. The daily duo will help you stay on track, on purpose, and on philosophy.
Another way to help you live out your philosophy is to adopt a set of action statements. The more you reflect on them, the more you'll behave that way. That's why I personally like the creed of the Optimists' Club. You can't go wrong if you adopt their creed. It says:
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
Now the ball is in your court. Take some time to figure out: 1) what you believe about success, and 2) how you're going to get it.
Imagine LiFE as a game in which you are juggling some FIVE balls in the air. You name them - WORK,FAMILY,HEALTH, FRIENDS and SPIRIT and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that
WORK is a Rubber Ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other Four balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - ARE MADE OF GLASS.
If you drop one of these, they will be Irrevocably scuffed, Marked, Nicked, Damaged or even SHATTERED. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE."
How? Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special. Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you. Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as they would your life, for without them, Life is Meaningless. Don't let your Life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, YOU LIVE, ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LiFE.
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying. Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each together.
Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave. Don't shut LOVE out of your Life by saying it's impossible to find time. The quickest way to RECEIVE LOVE is to GIVE, the fastest way to LOSE LOVE is to HOLD it too TIGHTLY , and the BEST way to KEEP LOVE is to give it WINGS.
Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you've been, but also where you are going.
Don't forget, a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savoured each step of the way.
Yesterday is HiSTORY,
Tomorrow is a MYSTERY and
Today is a GIFT , that's why we call it THE PRESENT.
If you're attractive enough on the outside, people will forgive you for being irritating to the core.
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living, or how much money you make. I want to know what you ache for... what you'd die for. I want to know if you would forfeit your soul for love. And if you would give yourself over to that person relentlessly, without hesitation, to the fullest extent of your ability, while holding on to yourself, and never losing your person. It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon... i want to know what intimacy you deny yourself, or what causes your angst. I want to know where your heart lives...if it belongs to you or someone else. I want to know if you can handle electricity dancing through your limbs, firing through your fingers, and shooting out of your toes; mindless glory that's something only spirits should experience. I want to know if you can be faithful..and honest. Loyal and feared. I want to know if you know what need is like. What it feels like to crave something to the point where you feel your soul aching and starving for some kind of connection; anything to make you feel human. Anything, to make you feel like you belong to someone, or something. I want to know if you outsource your faith, or if you have faith at all.
The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious.
Some of you already know me. Some of u have heard of me, and some dont know me and would like to get to know me. I will advice u that i dont have alot of time on my hands, so sometimes i will not reply to ur messages right away. Every one of ur messages is important to me, but u'll have to be patient.
Best advice I can give u is be urself, becuase everyone else is taken!! lol. Everyone has pressure from peers and surroundings, but never change who u are. Everything that u've been through makes u who u are. Which also makes u very unique. There will be a person u will meet, that is great, but by trying to be something ur not, u will lose that person. That person is lookin for U and not the person ur trying to be. Dont make the mistake of impressing others, filling the void. And through patience u will reach many goals. Always keep an open mind when u meet someone. U never know who they are and what they've been through. Everybody gets their time to shine. So u are "NEVER" the Shit. ( inside joke). Every person in ur life can teach u something. From every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Even when things look really bad. There is ALWAYS good that comes out of it. In time all problems will heal. If u can't do something about an issue, why are u stresssing?!?! Never make the same mistake twice. REspect ur parents, becuase ur parents blessings will be the key to ur succcess.
Listen, learn, care, love, breathe, smile, cry, laugh, live, try, fail, win, lose. These are all characterisitics of a Real Person. It's all balanced. I'm balanced.
It ain't easy to be my friend. My friendship is worth more then any amount of money, becuase I dont put a price on friendship. I put my life on friendship. I'm willin to die for the ones i love. I'm willin to kill the ones i hate. No games! NO GIMICS! IF i dont like u. I'll tell u