For the first 20 years of our life, we are trained to listen to voices that are not our own. It is the year when we are trying to figure out who we want to become, what we want to do and to figure where we belong. Our minds are filled up with wisdom and information given by our loved ones, professors, mentors and social friends. We listen to it and we take it in seriously with no second thoughts. Believing that it is true, that may be it is right and seeing that it is what people normally would do. However, have you ever wondered that there are possibilities that they could be wrong?
There are days where your doubts start creeping out. Your hesitation of views start kicking in but you know, it is easier for you to just nod and cope with it, it is easier to just listen to the one who "knows better" but with everyone talking to you it is harder for you to listen to the echo of your mind. So, is it worth having your life go to waste? I believe for a fact that it's not. You need to learn and to be clear that your intuition is different from your consciousness. Your consciousness would say "This is what you should do" while your intuition whispers "This is what you could do". Learn to listen to your own voice. It is important for you to form your own opinions, seek your own answers and question everything anybody says to you. Ask yourself, "Can I do it or can't I do it?". Don't ever, ever fear to fail and to be different from others or to be criticised for the choices you have made and the choices you are going to make! Don't ever let anybody talk you out of something you want . Would they regret giving their opinions? Never! It's not their life but yours.
So, if your dream is to be somebody, be that somebody. If your dream is to build something on your own, build it. If you're in love, tell it to the person you're in love with. If you are miserable with your life partner or with the circle of friends you are in, be clear about your feelings to them , leave and move forward. Nothing is more expensive than missed opportunities. The time you missed being somebody, having time wasted over chasing someone's else dream, the time where you could be with someone you truly love. The biggest mistake you'll ever make is being afraid to make the mistake. Your life is a result of your choices. If you don't like your life. It's time to make some better choice because no matter how senseless it may seem to others, it is your life. You are the king of your own kingdom. Standing up for yourself to make yourself incredibly happy is not a crime. Making a choice of your own is not a crime. You, especially you are not bound by anyone. Be true to yourself.
Life is too short to worry, to be upset, to overthink of your mistakes, to overthink about your past, to do something you never want to do and to be with a person or people you don't connect with. Go out there, chase what you want and MAKE mistakes. Because you are not the opinion of somebody! You are not damaged goods just because you've made a mistake in your life. You are your own definition of beautiful and worthwhile. You are someone who is wiser because you made mistakes. We tend to mistake our mistakes for damage, and we think other people will judge us for them. Nevertheless, I want you to know that the way I see mistakes is that they don't make you damaged. They make you wiser. People can be mean, let them be mean. It's irrelevant to you but you shouldn't be mean to yourself. Take care of yourself , be healthy and love yourself a lot.
I hope these messages help anyone out there who struggles in life to find out who they are, for those who are bullied or have been bullied by their peers and for those who are affected by peer pressure. You are not alone in this. Kate Winslet was not alone and I know I am not alone.