New Year, New me... Really? I am not a negative person, but why do we believe that a new year is going to change everything. That our lives suddenly and magically are going to change just because it is a new year? Why do we believe that our likelihood to succeed becomes greater as soon as it hits midnight on New Year's Eve than it was a couple of minutes earlier? Because if you couldn't set a resolution and keep it before New Year's, what says you will be able to keep it now? In fact, your chances to succeed are, in my opinion, even smaller because of the pressure to succeed.
Most people don't succeed to follow through with their resolution because they put to much pressure on it. They set the bar to high and as soon as they slip or make a mistake they give up. Why? Because they feel like they failed and because it is easier not dealing with the feeling and it's tough getting up and trying again. If you call it a resolution you are most likely to fail because as soon as you slip you feel like you failed because you failed keeping your promise to yourself, which is why I don't make resolutions! Instead I make goals.
A goal is something you strive towards. Something you put your energy into getting closer to. Mistakes and slip ups are okay. You are not there yet, but you are working to get there. Let's use the most common New Year's resolution as an example;
"This year I am going to become fit, I am not going to eat any sugar or fast food and lose x Kilos..."
This puts an awful lot of pressure on you, and if you do slip and eat something you are not supposed to eat, or don't workout like you planned you are going to feel like a failure and more easily give up. If you instead make it a goal, for example;
"This year I am going to work towards a healthier me, by eating better and by moving more"
These two examples have the same intention (reaching a healthier you) However, while the goal says that, IF you would slip one day that it is okay because it is a work in progress and you can always continue the next day. Breaking the resolution however, will most likely throw you off guard, and you are more likely to quit because you broke your promise to yourself by, for example, eating a cookie.
I hope I have explained my point of view clearly enough... I am all for setting goals and trying to make a difference and/or a change, but I definitely think we put to much pressure on the new year. Because, you can set a new goal any day of the year, and if you stumble and fall all you have to do is to stand up and try again. You don't have to wait for a new year to make a change. If you start today, next week, or on new years, it doesn't matter, it's just all about starting. And if you "fail" or rather when you do, it's your decision if you're going to get up and try again or if you'll give up. Most successful people have not only failed once but twice. The difference between them and "ordinary people" is that they never stopped trying. So go for it. Whatever it is that you are dreaming about. Follow your dream and don't stop until you reach it.