Yes, dear Swedish readers, this post is yet another political one and dear English readers, writing in English is probably a one-time thing. I have to be honest, I don't really know where this post is going to end up but let's see what path it'll follow. And I have no idea why I decided to not write in Swedish either, but bare with me. Where to start? My thoughts are just as tangled as my headphones for the exact same reason: no reason at all. Have you ever thought of that by the way? How the fuck is it even possible for headphones to get that tangled up when they're only lying in your bag? I really do think that is bullshit and it's incredibly annoying - just like me. Jokes aside, if I'm going to try and get my head around my thoughts (what? I'm really confusing myself with my own metaphors, but I won't stop cause I'm not a quitter) I guess the sum of it all would be that I'm tired of almost everything.
See I believe in positivity, I always try to surround myself with positive people and putting smiles on another person is personally the greatest achievement of them all. But I'm tired, and please don't take that as an "I am giving up" or "I will stop talking about this" because just this topic, is something I solemnly swear (too much Designated Survivor) to never stop talking about. But again yes, I'm tired as hell. The topic is of course gender equality and oh, I can just imagine of many of you who's going to exit this page now. Ready? Un, deux, trois - see ya!!
For you fighters who are still here, I want to tell you about a very interesting conversation I had the other weekend. Usually, I avoid convos like these because they're often in the smoking area of a club and funny enough, almost always follows when I answer the what I call the "study-question". It goes like this: someone asks me what I do and what I study, I answer with "politics" and then a follow-up question of "oh really? That's surprising! What do you want to work with?" comes along. This is where it gets interesting. You see, a blondie running around Mayfair during nighttime and then studying politics during daytime is not really credible. I used to be very offended by this scenario, thinking along the lines of what didn't make me credible enough to be smart? My hair? My ways? My friends? Then I realized that I'm smarter than that, and I stopped feeling so offended because I knew that I would hear the exact same thing a million times more. The problem is that, in many scenarios, a girl can't have looks and brains. Or be confident, stand up for her opinions because it is always going to be silenced by the "little-girl pat". And yes, that is yet another concept that I've just named but I'm sure you know what I'm talking about: when someone just smiles and totally disregards whatever you just said and pats you on the back so that you shut up. And this is a fucking problem. Most of my friends, especially guys, will now give me this pat because they think that this is not a problem. That a girl can have both, its just rare.
Let me explain to you how this is a problem, and why a girl like me who knows her worth, can feel so incredibly stupid at times. Maybe most of you don't realize that your actions, even how small, have an impact. Maybe you don't see the structural society that we all play a part in, and that is fine but please break out of your bubble now and accept defeat. Our society favors men. I've said it before and I'll say it again. I know I'm going to work and uni every day knowing that even though I sit in the same classroom, probably also with better results, and pay the same amount for my education, I'll get less pay than my peers of the other gender. Even how hard I work, when it comes down to it, my opinion in many industries and almost in all, my salary, will be silenced or modified or decreased because I'm a girl. I'm a girl and therefore, society tells me that I don't have the same value as a guy. Now you can feel however you like about that, but acknowledge it. Please see the problem with structural oppression, even though you might not directly think it is a big thing. I get offended when I'm belittled because of our structures and our history, because even though I'm very privileged and strong in my ways, male dominance still gets to me. Especially when it's denied. Because it's just so stupid, that a gender gap exists is undeniable. Look at stats, read a book, see patterns and you won't be able to deny it.
What most people confuse in the question of gender equality is that women often blame all men for it and that's not fair. Maybe it's not a confusion, rather an opinion, a very uneducated and stupid opinion if I can have my say - which I can cause this is my blog. Of course it's not fair to blame half of the world's population for any problem, just like Islamophobia is not and never will be justified. But from my perspective, I wouldn't see the day where a girl catcalling a guy on the street would be as socially acceptable as it is the other way around. And I don't want it to be, it's disrespectful, the things I get called walking down the street are disgusting. But here's what I need you to see: even if the action itself isn't acceptable, society accepts guys over girls to go through with the same one. Do you think that's fair?
And not to get me started on other areas of feminism and scenarios concerning the topic, but think about what a priviledge it is for me to be oppressed in the society that I live in. Think about girls in my age who just doesnt have a choice. No choice of who to marry, education, occupation and so on. Just no choice, because they are girls. How can someone in their right mind justify this? My heart breaks everytime I think about those girls, and how many of us who forgets about them. But for me to write about that, will take years.