All of the things that we look back from pursuing many dreams for many years was fear and failure. And the lack of self-confidence that needed to conquer that fright.
We all facing different levels of fear. Someone has different difficulties problem that we don't have. The only question in this matter is: How can do you overcome that fear?
I also been in the situatuion where I cannot picture myself. The time when I lose the king of my life. The number of loses in my compititions/contests. These experiences from failing actually drag me down and felt low-confidence. In the situation were I think negative and no faith.
By working on your self-confidence and self-esteem. It doesn't mean that you need to think about it all the time, sometimes we just need to relief everything. That's what actually help me to finally defeat my fears, and finally pursue my goals.
All of these involvement I been through is the steps to a wonderful life. I still have those fears, undoubtly, but now I can beat them that I can swim through that wave of fear and be on the other side. I've done it many times, and that will ample success.
Taking control of your Self-Confidence
If you are in low-confidence, you might have ask yourself a question if there is posible way to change that? Is your self-confidence in your own control?
If you are low in self-confidence, I do believe that you can expand your self-confidence. Those people who has self-confidence aren't from their parents. Self-confidence is not genetic, and you do not have to depend on others to increase your self-confidence. And if you think that you are not acceptable, capable, not very smart, not very attractive, doesn't have the body you wish, etc. ...... that can be change.
You can do this by taking control of your life, and taking control of your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can increase that self-confidence, without the help of anyone else.
I made an outline that will help you to do that. And these are just some of my favorite things, stuff that's worked for me. By the list I made doesn't mean that you need to do all of them. Pick and choose that you think fits you, and do not push yourself to do everything, do it step by step and give them a try. When you try some of them and if they work, try others. If they don't, try others.
1. Groom yourself. This is the time where you can try something new. Try new style, open your closet and wear those clothes you never worn before. Do some shave and try something new.
2. Think positve. One of the things I started from working out and eating healthy, about two years ago, my negative thoughts replace with positive ones. By doing all of this actually change my thoughts and make great things happened. Seriously, try it if you haven't.
3. Kill negative thoughts. First thing to do is to seperate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the belief you have about yourself and what you're doing. I also have days were my mind would start to say, "This is too stressful and hard going to gym. I want to stop and go watch my favorite series and eat my junkfoods beside." And later on I manage to learned this negative self-talk, that I can actually trick it and it changed my life. I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. (“C’mon, I can do this! Only one more reps!”)
4. Smile. Another trite one. But it works. I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Not a bad investment of your time and energy.
5. Be kind and generous. Oh, so corny. If this is too corny for you, move on. But for the rest of you, know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image.
6. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.
7. Empower yourself with knowledge. Empowering yourself, in general, is one of the best strategies for building self-confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one of the surest ways to empower yourself is through knowledge. This is along the same vein as building competence and getting prepared … by becoming more knowledgeable, you’ll be more confident … and you become more knowledgeable by doing research and studying.
8. Clear your desk. This might seem like a small, simple thing (then again, for some of you it might not be so small). But it has always worked wonders for me. If my desk starts to get messy, and the world around me is in chaos, clearing off my desk is my way of getting a little piece of my life under control. It is the calm in the center of the storm around me.
Some of these outlones are taken from zenhabits.net.
After all I decided to ask some of my friends about How to Boost your Self-Confidence? Friends all over the world, and I will always thank them by supporting me. And by their cooperation they openly say YES to share their suggestive about Self-Confidence. In this way might help you to be inspired by other thoughts.