The girls are 10 months! Alba has already started to stand without support and as Daniel told the dentist, he has two sisters with two teeth each!
Sofia has got the second tooth recently, before that she started to say "meme" which we interpreted as "mamma" and now it's clear. Alba said "papa" first thought πŸ˜„Both shake their heads to say "no" which I find amazing as they are so small.

Daniel's reasoning skills are also impressive, he told me yesterday "as grandma X doesn't speak Spanish and grandma Y doesn't speak Swedish they speak German πŸ˜‚ He meant English of course but still! πŸ‘ŒHe's gone much further than the required 3 words for the 3 year-old control 😏

Finally we suspect the girls are mirror twins as their hair twirls in different directions 😊 One in four identical twins are mirror twins and then they will use different hands, it's quite interesting, we'll see, it's too early to say πŸ‘ΆπŸ‘Άβ€οΈ

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I'm not sleep training really but as a mom of twins +one I've been reading everything about sleep and I would like to share some tips. Evenings are sometimes better, sometimes worse but with a looot of perseverance in a few points I've got really nice evenings lately, that means 3 sleeping beauties before 20, yeah own time!! (Sorry you need to have kids to understand how exciting that is- I haven't seen a whole movie in years πŸ˜‚)

I even had the chance to discuss a little with a baby coach (cool ah?) and these are the conclusions of my research: It's all about timing and routines that help the kid know what comes next and relax. And a cuddly dog helps β€οΈπŸ‘

Well we don't really do very structured/planned routines besides dinner/iPad/tooth washing/ bed for the older kid and tooth washing and breastfeeding for the babies. And I asure you no one will ever recommend iPad and breastfeeding before sleeping but here's the thing, they happen before sleeping, they are just one step in the process.

A useful tip I've got from the baby coach was to stop breastfeeding when they are just half asleep so they wouldn't depend on it to sleep. So I stop them before they are totally asleep so they learn to sleep by themselves, by the pillow for example. And now they don't wake me up so much at night. They still sleep with me so it's not like I have it all figured out πŸ˜…

Here's the problem with twins (that sleep in the same room): one wakes up the other, so any delay in picking up the one who is crying means catastrophe!! First we started putting them to sleep at 18, one will wake up after one hour and will wake up the other and we would be spending the evening putting babies to sleep. Now I take them a bit later (18:30-19), one and then the other and listen if someone wakes up. At this age they get tired around 3,5 hours after last sleep, they sleep on the days regularly around 9-10 and 13-14. Timing is great to synchronize them and get life a bit more organized. Of course they are not always on the clock but it helps.

Timing is also important with our 3-year-old. When he sleeps depends on when he wakes up, when and if he has a siesta and activity level. Anyway any day he has gone to sleep before 18 he wakes up with renewed energies the same evening! πŸ˜’ After 18, but more often 19 or 20 he'll sleep through the night. He wakes up around 6-7 and refuses to sleep siesta. Lately he's been afraid of the bed- nightmares or waking up alone I think- and wanted to sleep on the sofa. I gave him a lovey, a dog, and talked to him about his fears (and how the dogs will scare them-we've been playing a lot in his room, positive associations) and I think it helped.

How are your evenings?
Wishing all of you a good night!πŸ’€

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My little boy is now 3! It feels like he has been 3 for a longer time as he reasons sometimes better than an adult πŸ˜… Think that he wrapped two presents for himself and didn't open them for 2 days, how many adult points he gets for that?? Last year I let him open presents before his birthday because he was so excited about them and I was so excited about them πŸ˜‚This year it was even more exciting (for me) as he understood all about birthdays πŸŽ‚

His life has changed enormously from last year to now and I feel not without a certain sorrow how he had to grow up from a baby to a real little boy. I do know however that getting his sisters was for him the best in the world and he always wants to know where they are and play with them but there's always a mother's melancholy in seeing the babies grow.

Anyway I'm glad to say that we are still very close, he is a little mirror in some things I say and in other things he's more like his father. He has his interests, loves machines, snails and plants, paints wonderfully, builds a lot with lego and he's always asking "what are we doing next mom?". He needs a project all the time. Daniel loves his sisters (sometimes he's too close to them though πŸ˜…) and even explains what they are thinking, for example he says "Alba is sad because she saw the car" πŸ˜‚

He makes also his inferences. I gave him a coin , then Johannes said he didn't have one for the supermarket's trolley. He gave it to Johannes and said "now dad can buy the things he wanted with this coin".

More about the girls soon, Sofia just got her first tooth πŸ‘ and they are crawling and standing everywhere. Gotta sleep, I'll tell you about how we are dealing with sleep in another post. For the record, I made chocolate cheesecake for Daniel's birthday, I'm not sure how much he liked it but it was sooo good πŸ˜‹

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It's Summer and the kids are having a blast with water whenever we get a slightly warmer day (or not). Now I 'm also getting a break because my mom is here and yes maybe, just maybe I will get rid of some moving boxes before Christmas πŸ˜…πŸ™ˆ And we need to fix the lights, the kitchen... and it's enough job to take care of three little kids. Bleh, I should not complain, today they all slept before 20 and after all we have fun, we all get our crisis (some of us several times every day) but hey, today we made muffins (and ate all of them) and played a lot with water. It's so funny to see little Sofia putting her whole arm down to the bottom of a small bowl with water. Alba loves water as well, and look at her laughing in the swing! Both went dancing πŸ’ƒ πŸ’ƒ as we unpacked and played the ukelele. Daniel (btw wearing a crown in the last picture) likes his new home as well, we pick wild strawberries, study snails, make tunnels and parkings with the boxes... We never stop (maybe I should, a bit?) so these last nights I really wanted to share our experiences but I was like "should I write or sleep 😴?"πŸ’€πŸ’€

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We finally moved and we've had good weather so even when I 've been home with the three kids we have been doing a lot outside. Yes, sunny Sweden πŸ˜‚ Not... but enough to let Daniel paint outside, play with some water and we have even done some excursions. Of course I've got NO TIME to unpack anything and somedays I just get crazy but I'll show you my life from the bright side 😜Ok, no, the hard truth is that when they all get tired and scream I take them out and that's why we've been so much outside πŸ˜…
As a matter of fact two days ago it had been raining but the sun was out and shining and we had to go out. Daniel wanted a looong walk and we just went to this beautiful lake in the picture, not very far away. In our walk we met a women who started talking to me and told me that she swims in the lake the whole year (!) and that she was going to show me a beach. Thus, we followed her further but after I saw some dark clouds I told her we needed to go back. As you can imagine I got soaked πŸ˜‚ Not the kids, the babies had rain protections and Daniel a rain jacket. But Alba was screaming because she didn't want to be in the trolley, Daniel screamed because he wanted to be in the trolley and Sofia slept the whole way. Hungry, tired and soaked I took the super inclined slope in the back of our house and yes, I made it with the trolley and all the kids πŸ’ͺ. I even put Alba in the carrier (of course I had a carrier, what don't I have?) and Daniel in the trolley. The neighbors passing by car looked at me like -oh no, we've got a crazy new neighbor! You are quite right, sir 🀣

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I look at my babies sleeping and ... I blog as I don't have space to lie down in my bed 🀣 That's true but I was going to write that I get amazed about how much joy they bring me everyday. Just imagine my little Sofia has already started crawling and her first tooth is almost almost out, she's just a few days after Alba! And Alba is so funny moving her hands as a flamenco dancer and going to get all of Daniel's tractors. Poor Daniel as soon as both crawl they will get to his things from different sides, he'll have a lot to figure out. The girls are 8 months now!

I spent some days alone with all three and it went pretty well. I've been quite lucky until now with help, before I used to tell Johannes "don't let me alone with the three of them" πŸ˜… But Daniel is now reasonable and mature (almost 3!) πŸ˜‚ Really, he takes care of them, in his way, holds their hands when they scream, gives them toys (not his toys but some toys πŸ˜„) so I don't have to be super worried, although I keep always an eye on them. In the picture you can see a way to handle them πŸ˜‚

I understand when parents of twins say when one kid is somewhere else "it is so much easier with one! they don't start screaming when you pick up the other one" or when they weak up each other at night or when one gets sick and needs you all the time but the other one as well... But when I think about it, it is hard to believe we are so lucky to have two little treasures, actually, three. It is so worth it. And it will get better. Easier I was going to write but I don't know... they'll walk (in different directions), then they'll be toddlers...πŸ˜‚ People say it gets easier, I'm just going to write it gets better. It's just a feeling πŸ˜‰

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Like in one of this Tívoli towers that drop you from the top, it feels like the moment before you are going to fall. Not bad, but exciting, a little afraid maybe. We are moving to Stockholm in no time, two weeks max (if we find a moving company 🀣). We have been living in Uppsala for 10 years now. That's the longest time I've been living in any place (how weird is that)!
Of course it's a big change but still it's not so far. Forty minutes by car, come on, I've changed country several times, what can I be afraid of? That I was younger and fearless? That now I move with three little kids and don't know anyone there?
Sure, it's challenging, as it was when we found out we were expecting twins and we already had a little one. And before that, just to manage one baby was the challenge. And before that, to finish my PhD. And even before I had to learn a new language and teach in that language! And 10 years ago I was changing country and didn't know anyone except of my husband (to be). So back to the same point. Kind of, husband plus three!
Let's say these years have been productive πŸ˜‚I might have been pretty fearless to manage all of that. The other secret is that I've met really good friends in the way. Yep, some nostalgia here. Looking back might be the first step to look forward. 😒 After all, come on, I've got twins and a charming Daniel, the whole neighborhood will know us in the blink of an eye πŸ˜‰.
I'll finish with a chat I had today in the park. I'm with Daniel in the swing and the trolley close by and an old lady says - "Oh, you've got children very close in age"; Me -"Well, they are twins"; Lady -"Oh, twins? A boy and a girl?"; Me -"No, actually two girls"; Lady (surprised) -"Oh now I see there are two in the trolley" 🀣🀣🀣She must have thought I was saying Alba (7 months) and Daniel (almost 3) were twins!!

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Life's so much about perspectives, there's a book in Spanish that tells a story from the perspective of a 3-year-old (it's great! "El principe destronado").And I just saw a very touching video about that, so I'll do this as an imagination exercise.
From the mother's perspective (mine) life is hectic, trying to keep three little kids happy, from morning to dawn who are hungry or tired or just need their mother's arms. It can look like this at 18: me holding a tired 2-year-old, with two babies waiting for food in high chairs and I'm trying to eat my soup (by the way a gorgeous red borscht, with Daniel on my lap).
Babies screaming is very stressful, apparently you release adrenaline (or similar) so that's why parents spend the days running πŸƒ like crazy to meet their needs. And the 5 minutes you have free you try to clean a little bit so your home doesn't look like it's been eaten by a big monster πŸ™ˆ
Now I make the effort to see it with my toddler's eyes, Daniel, what does he remember?
Well he woke up and got to wake up daddy πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘so he was lucky and got Nutella πŸ˜„ Then we went for a walk and they got down some good slopes with the trolley yey! before he got asleep. It was so sunny that he could go without a jacket and he watched many snails with mommy! He built a home for the 🐌 and gave them leaves. In the supermarket he could take a basket and mom told him to choose some bananas, he chose some chocolate as well 😏 Then at home he hugged his sisters because he likes them so much and he could hold them because he is their big brother ❀️

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No kidding, I leave the babies in the floor and they cannot crawl but they get everywhere. Alba appears under the sofa and the day after I find Sofia exactly in the same place 🀣 No, it's not Daniel moving them, apparently they move somehow backwards (although they look static) and can even change direction! So they try to eat the plants, paper, duplo, the vacuum cleaner πŸ˜…
One of the most wonderful things about twins is seeing them develop together and you won't believe me but I've seen them sharing. If you are one of my colleagues studying children you will think this is my interpretation but read this: Alba is chewing on a cloth, Sofia stares at her intensively. Alba handles the cloth toward Sofia 😲 and Sofia chews. Then Alba chews and gives it again to Sofia. Come on that's sharing at 7 months, give me a leaner explanation! Call me a freak but I find that awesome πŸ‘
They fight as well (or at least it looks as fighting). Alba grabs Sofia's hair and Sofia screams and tries to grab Alba' hair while Alba smiles πŸ˜²πŸ˜΅πŸ™ˆ Hopefully we'll see more of the sharing and less of the fighting πŸ˜‚πŸ˜…

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In Spain is Mother 's day today, not in Sweden (end of May). I have a friend that greets me almost every weekend in May as she lives in USA. That was overwhelming at first but now with the twins it is fair πŸ˜‚
Alba and Sofia are now 7 months and got two high chairs for eating, they love to sit with us 😊 They are also turning around in the floor and getting anywhere although they can't crawl yet πŸ€”Alba is also moving her hands as a Flamenco dancer πŸ’ƒ while Sofia is taking it easier and observing the situation (soon she'll clap).
These days as a mom I just feel exhausted at the end of the day, it's just so much baby and toddler lifting. Sometimes I have to choose between taking the two babies or the toddler and even though the babies together weight as much as the toddler it is easier to lift "only" one toddler πŸ˜…

If you ever wonder what's a good present for a parent, think dinner, movie, music, whatever... WITH double babysitting. Probably that's not a mother 's day present as kids don't babysit themselves but I'm just saying... 😜
Anyway, I'm proud of my day as we made home made play-doh with Daniel (flour, salt and water= super happy kid) and the girls are already asleep, upside down in the bed, but asleep.
I want to share with you two amazing pictures Daniel draw, one is a detailed tractor (he asked me to do the chasis) and the other one a fantastic snail 🀣 We observed a snail one day and we were impacted by the four antennas! ( two for the eyes and two for the nose).

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