Hey guys! I hope everyone have had an awesome new year's and christmas. Myself I've been very sick and I also been to London. But I was home in time for New Year's and even though I mainly coughed through the whole night I did have an amazing evening. I met a swedish guy at new year's eve. Or. I actually met two, but figured out pretty soon that only one of them was living here. We got along well and since I do miss speaking my native language a lot and also sometimes just want to talk to someone who "gets it", living abroad in a culture that are so different from your own, well lets say I was pretty quick with the "Let's be friends".I felt zero attraction to him.Chemistry is supposed to be mutual, right? Both must feel it.
Either way, as swedes do we lost eachother during the evening and me and the friend I was celebrating with ended our night around 4.30 am. I texted my new found swedish friend the day after. And we agreed to meet for drinks a couple of days later. It was great fun, we got a long well once again, talking about all the differencies we we're experiencing living in Italy. We had soo much to talk about but once again no attraction, no chemistry. Come on guys! When a girl jokes about having a pimple on her butt she is not into you.
Everyone is different and all that. It's a good thing, people should be. But so are everyones preferences. I noticed this guy had extremely long nails. No paint on them, but his nails was longer than mine all natural. This is a turn off for me. Several reasons for it. We are living in acity that is extremely dirty. I like to keep my nails short because it only takes an hour or two for them to get dirty again after I have cleaned them. He didn't have any other "special influences" in his looks which makes me think they were long because he was lazy, and I can't even imagine how his toenails look then. Or maybe he just liked having long nails and thought it looked good, what do I know?
What I do know is that I did not care, because from the start I purely saw him as a friend. And you don't have to think friends are attractive, that would be weird and he seemed to have a fun personality so we hang out. After we been hanging out a few hours, We we're sitting and resting our feets with containers filled with trash all around us. We we're litterally sitting next toa trash center and he asks me if he can kiss me. I am surprised by the question and answers without any consideration. "No you can not, I don't feel that way" even though I learnt that to not hurt anyones feelings you should always seem like you think about it, pause before you answer. But my answer was a straight no, because the question came from nowhere and I really did not want to kiss him. Do I have to say it did become a bit awkward afterwards?
Either way he said "If you never ask you never know, atleast now I don't have to go around wondering" which ofcourse is true, but I can't help but wondering. Have people really started to become so bad at reading other peoples signals? I felt like it was obvious to me and everyone around us at this TRASH CENTER that I did not want to kiss him. It was obvious to everyone except him. I felt no chemistry at all, I always believed that chemistry goes both ways. If one can't feel it, the other one can't either. Am I wrong?
Even yesterday walking home from the city I have my earplugs in listering to music, when i'm almost home there's a guy walking in front on me. I keep walking, listening to music, but he sees me and he slows down, like trying to walk next to me and glares at me. I ignore him and look all other ways, keep listening to my music. Because it's late, I don't want to talk to random guys at the street and I just want to go home and eat dinner with my roomies. Earphones are defenitely my "do not disturb me sign" Either way. Ofcourse he starts talking to me. Starting with the simple "do you have light?" in italian. I take out one of my earphones and says "no, sorry" in english. Then I plug in my earphone again and starts walking a bit faster. And he speeds up with me. "You are not italian? Where are you from?" I take out my earphones again and he has to repeat the question. "I'm from sweden" plugs my earphones in again, and he still keeps talking to me.
So I litterally have to plug my earphones in and out several times, like the fact I keep plugging them in is not a sign that i'm not willing to have a conversation with him and the fact I answer his questions with extremely short answers. He walks me almost all way home. I lost him when I had to cross the road and by then I was playing my music so load that I impossible could hear whatever he was saying. I don't know. Does a girl have to be avaiable all the time? Sometimes I just want to walk the streets, listening to my music without talking to anyone. Am I giving unclear signs or is it these guys that litterally won't take no for an answer?