A well-known citation of William Shakespeare says:
“All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances…”
As you’ve undoubtedly discovered, the play of Life is often quite difficult. You will face unexpected challenges and long periods of frustration, depression and self –digging. You will often struggle with self-doubt, feel overwhelmed by helplessness and loss.
Yes, Life is hard, as the saying goes. But fear not, you should design yourself to complete your missions and complete the game at the highest possible level discovering the power and strength of your potential.
The goal of Life is simple: it is to Level Up as much as possible.
Each Level in life presents a particular challenge that you must overcome. Once you overcome that challenge, you get to move on to the next Level. The goal is to complete as many levels as possible. As you might notice the Life itself looks similar to a game. At the end of the game, the person at the highest level gets to have the best funeral with the family, relatives, friends and loved ones who really cared about the person.
My opinion is that each person, each human was created to do something that’s important and valuable to themselves and others.
It’s important to build relationships, finding the right people to love and the right people who love you. The ones who share their wisdom and knowledge, so that you can remove yourself up to the next level of personal growth and achieve something really significant. This sounds way easier and more fun than it is. Mainly because, as you’ve likely found out by now, most people suck. Navigating to the ones who don’t is a whole tricky matter that I’ll get to in a bit.
What is valuable now?
As my personal experience shows building up some skills or knowledge is on peak nowadays! The ability that adds value to the world around you and also makes you happy when you make kind acts towards people.
Life is a big and complex game. It’s the largest open world game known to date. We all begin with different starting stats and we’re placed into a wide range of environments that can either give us advantages or disadvantages.
But because most people have trouble conceptualizing Life, they therefore assume that they have no control over Life. But nothing could be further from the truth.
Life’s game is guided by a few basic principles that are designed to give the player an experience of a large amount of randomness.
Life is a never-ending stream of problems that must be confronted, surmounted and/or solved. If at any point, Life runs out of problems to give us, then as players, we will unconsciously invent problems for ourselves. Problems are what keep us occupied and give our lives meaning.
We spend most of our time preparing ourselves for problems that are expected. But it is because of this preparation that, by definition, the most difficult problems we experience in Life will be unexpected.
This steady barrage of unexpected problems gives the player a sense that she lacks control over her own Life, when in fact, the purpose of Life is not to control what happens to you, but rather control and choose higher level reactions to what happens to you.
You can respond to problems with either Solutions or Distractions. All of us must meet problems with a reaction (even choosing not to react to a problem, is itself, a reaction).
All reactions can be divided up in two ways: Solutions and Distractions. Solutions are actions and pursuits that resolve a problem preventing it from continuing or happening again in the future. Distractions are actions or pursuits designed to either make you unaware of the problem’s existence or to dull the pain the problem may be causing.
If you feel you understand a problem and are capable of handling it, you will pursue a Solution. If you are just sick of Life’s shit, then you will likely pursue Distractions to help them pretend the problem isn’t actually there.
The more often you use a Solution or Distraction, the easier it will be to use again, to the point where it will eventually become unconscious and automatic. Once a Solution or Distraction is unconscious and automatic, it becomes a Habit.
Habits are necessary because they prevent you from falling back to previous Levels you’ve already conquered. You as a player, once have found a Solution to a Level, must employ that Solution enough times to make it a Habit, thus mastering that level. If our Distractions become Habits, then we will become perpetually stuck at a level and not even be conscious of it.
Below are the five cheat codes to help you navigate your way through Life and reach the end fully satisfied and Leveled-Up.
You are responsible for this : You can always do something about the problems Life gives you. When you decide that there’s nothing you can do to solve a problem, you immediately limit your possible reactions to Distractions. And if you limit your responses to Distractions enough, pretty soon you will build a Life that is made up of nothing but Habits of Distractions. You’ll be running away from everything, and everyone, all the time.
Write down what makes your life of very poor quality: Separating Solutions from Distractions in your life is surprisingly difficult and complicated. This is because we have a tendency to lie to ourselves about our Distractions. We tell ourselves that we need our Distractions. We tell ourselves that our Distractions are just innocent fun. That we totally have them under control, and yeah, maybe I woke up under a bridge in my own vomit, but at least I remembered where I parked the car. See, I am responsible. But worst of all, sometimes we come to believe that our Distraction is actually a Solution.
we all need to develop an ability to observe our own thoughts. Psychologists sometimes call this “metacognition” or meta-awesomeness.
One common way to do this is to write down your thoughts regularly. This can be a journal, a blog (how do you think all this stuff started, anyway?), or even letters/emails to friends and family.
The important part is that you are actively digging into the problems in your life and looking at your behavior from a third-person perspective.
Therapy or meditation also work in this regard.
Complaining literally accomplishes nothing. Take a deep breath… and then hold it in… forever, because you need to shut up.
Complaining takes a problem and then prolongs it. People complain because they’re looking for empathy and to feel connected with those around them.
Unfortunately, complaining is maybe the least useful way to connect with other human beings. It’s like working on your cardio by swimming through raw sewage. Yeah, you’re getting a workout, but uhh, what’s that thing growing on your face?
Try to stop daydreaming in daily lives and let go of fantasizing in general. The human imagination is a powerful thing. But when applied to ourselves, the imagination can become another form of Distraction. It can be a way of avoiding what is real and true for us in the moment, a way to live vicariously through the images and ideas fed to us by others. It’s a way to feel a sense of accomplishment, all while sitting on our couch, alone. Fantasies are like any other Distraction – they are to be used sparingly and for nothing other than pure enjoyment. It’s when they begin to sustain your sense of self-worth, your desire for importance in this world, that you will be hobbling yourself, and you will never Level Up again in Life.
The best way to get rid of our Distractions and to reclaim the problems that have been haunting us since childhood is to expose them, to share them, and recognize that a) no, you’re not a freak, most people struggle(d) with the same problem, and b) that your Distractions are just that: unhealthy ways to compensate for how shitty you feel about yourself.
The only way to cure the darkest parts of yourself is to shine light on them.
Because that’s the real challenge: deciding what our own life is worth and then having the courage to go out and live it.