In these kind of relationships where you feel sadness and disappontment, especially on yourself is not a relationship worth having. Your partner is never allowed to put you down in that kind of mood where you feel nothing but hopelessness. We all now that for sure but some stay with their partner instead of saving themselfs. my question is.
Is it worth it?
No! It isn't. Your well being is the most important thing for you and you shall always respect your own health , both physical and psycological. When it comes to a healthy relationship with your life long partner, communication is the key. Talk about what is bothering you and be honest. A lot of women out there say that everything is fine when it isn't and I need you all to stop that. Of course your man (or woman) choose to go to someone else to have fun, talk to and just enjoy life. No wonder so many are cheating on their S.O. when you act like a bitch to someone you say you love and care about. Your partner is not a broken toy you can toss around with. It's a living being with a heart and soul. If something is wrong, tell them! If something is bothering you, tell them! If you can't talk about at the very moment they ask you how you feel, just tell them "Can we talk about it later? I need to breathe and calm down for the moment". It's not that hard. Grow up.
Why should I grow up? It's His / Her fault!
If you have to ask that question about growing up, you should. That means you need to get yourself together and be the person your S.O deserves. Blaming someone else for your own mistakes and act like a victim is not a choice you should have. Take resposability for your actions and be mature enough to confess your wrong doings.
Why am I the only one who have to grow up?
No, you're not. the same goes for your partner. If you are the person who is exposed to someone like I've already described you should talk to someone. otherwise I have one good tip for you. Name 10 things you love about your S.O. If you can't meantion atleast 7 things you love, you might consider to leave for your own sake. That means your partner is killing you slowly and all the things you menation about loving your partner will fade into nothing more but pain and sorrow.
Why should I leave? I love my S.O.!
If you truly do love someone you can, without any trouble say at least 10 things. Otherwise is nothing more but an abusive relationship where you are the victim. It goes both ways.
Remember, If it is love, you'll know. Because that person will do everything for you to smile and feel safe.
And the same goes for you.
Can you do the same, without hesitation?