In essence, there's nothing complex about rape. If you rape someone, you deserve to die. There's nothing more to it. But taking a step back and looking at why rape is such a complex issue for society and why there's such a stigma around it, will shock some. Or not. Perhaps you already know. After all, we're all living in this man dominated world, what else is shocking?
To being with, our society already has difficulties sentencing rapists and placing the blame on them 100%. Why is that? Why is violence towards women seen in such a weak and pathetic manner? Only when a crime against women affects men, will there be justice - and this was the case many years ago (but also today in some countries). Let's get into it.
Sexual violence isn't really consider bad or heinous, it's more the first part, relating to sexual. Because women can't be sexual creatures. This has been established by men since the beginning. In fact, I'm not even sure women can own their sexuality without being labeled as sluts. This is a very important consideration, because it ties into why we considers rape such a heinous crime in the first place.
Rape was never a crime committed against women. It still isn't - it's a crime against men. Because in the first place, rape affects our patriarchal society and its attitude towards female sexuality. Back in the days (as I would like to believe) women were a man's property. And a man's property was valuable and pure. But when a man's property was violated, he was stolen and disgraced. The property was then shamed, broken and dirty.
So this brings us to 2017 - where rapists gets sentenced to three months in jail for violating a woman. Where rapists get sympathy. Where victims are asked what they were wearing and how they possibly asked for it. Who asks to be raped? When we're sleeping, walking, talking, drinking or dancing, are we asking to be raped? Are we asking to be violated? To have our clothes ripped off, hands around our necks, forced, painful penetration and bodies mutilated? No. Once upon a time, rapists were hanged. Might not have been in women's favor, but they were still hanged. Today, they walk free. Society has allowed them to walk free because women have no say and our bodies aren't worth anything except when it belongs to a man.
Men have never suffered through this "value" judgement. Nor do they suffer for being sexual creatures, promiscuous or having sex with many women. This is why some countries still allow rapists to marry the victim. Because hey, at least you'll still keep some of your honor if you marry the man who spoilt your value. The judgement is and was always against the woman. That is why rape towards men is seen as more heinous. More damaging. Hurtful. Wrong. Because ultimately, its the shame of being treated like a woman.