I'm sure everyone has heard that you should say 'no' more often because if you don't you have too much going on in your life that you can't keep up with everything. Saying no helps you relax more because you have more free time, and it helps to not place too many things over your head that you know will eventually fall down over you. Or does it? Does saying no really help you?

I have never been bad at saying no. Well actually I'll say: 'I don't think I can find the time', or 'I'm quite busy', which might not be a lie, but it is just the easy way out of saying 'No I do not want to come.' The worst part is that saying: you don't want to because you don't want to is not a solid excuse. Because people will ask 'why not? What other plans do you have?' And if you don't have any they'll think you don't want to spend time with them which is not the case.

As I said I do say no or come up with excuses when I feel like I'm too busy or don't feel up for it because doing too many things simply stresses me out. Yet, I feel like I get punished for saying no And though I tried to avoid being stressed by saying no I then end up stressing over what people think of me. Because of course, I don't want them to think I'm a bad person. And I don't want them to think I don't want to spend time with them that is not the case. But being an introvert I get drained of energy by constantly being surrounded by people, whereas it's the exact opposite if you're an extrovert. Now, it's not that I feel like I'm drained of energy every time I'm with people, but with some people I put in more effort than I do with others. E.g. I never feel drained of energy when visiting my parents because I can just tell them 'no I don't want to do that', or I can hide in my old room if I want to be alone. But sometimes if you have people over or you're visiting someone, you can't suddenly disappear for a couple of hours and tell them you need some alone time. (At least I wouldn't do that).

But saying no really should not make you feel bad, and it should not be so damn hard. Because let's face it we all have moments when we don't feel up for certain things, and what's worse? Going anyway knowing you won't enjoy yourself to please someone else or staying at home knowing you'll feel good, but maybe also offend someone? I feel like it's a non-ending battle and no matter what you're going to lose. But why? If saying no means you'll feel less stressed then I'd say it's not a bad thing. Putting yourself first should be a reality. There's no shame in that because if you don't put yourself first how will you expect anyone else to? Besides you need to be happy first, in order to make anyone else happy. However, that does not mean it's easy saying no. But who the hell said that life was easy? Take small steps and focus on yourself. I'll almost go as far as to say it'll make you happier, but everyone is different, but there's definitely no shame in saying no even if you don't have an excuse for saying so, and there's no one else who should tell you how to live your life.

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Two weeks ago I made a blog post about not having a phone for two days. I ended up not having a phone for six days, and guess what the phone I’m using right now is my dad old’s Samsung which means I use it for text messages and phone calls only. It’s really small and it’s quite hard to write with. Why were phones made small at one point? It’s awful with such a small screen and I must admit I’m beginning to miss having an iPhone, yet it feels good not being as addicted as I was before. I spend less time on Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr etc. than I normally which is good. Although, I really miss being able to take pictures. I really love capturing memories, and without a phone, it’s becoming a bit more difficult as I do not bring my camera with me everywhere. I really thought I would feel naked without an iPhone, but I really don’t, thus, I must admit that I’m looking forward to getting an iPhone again. But as I mentioned in my last blog post I'll try and use my iPhone less once I get it back. Because let's face it, it's a waste of time to spend time on Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr and all the other apps, though I would not want to live without them. But spending less time on social media has been good for me.

Enjoy your day/night xx



Saturday afternoon I handed my phone in to the store where I bought it. The battery is not working properly and neither is the software which means that for more than 50 hours I've been living without a phone. Some of you might not think that two days is a long time, but try to remember when you last tried to live without a phone. If you have a smartphone it's almost scary how much people use it for. Calling, texting, taking pictures, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, Messenger, Twitter, Tumblr, reading, net banking, the weather etc. Even my schedule is shown through my calendar on the phone. Luckily I know my schedule by heart, but it's quite ridiculous how much I (and I'm sure most of you out there) use the phone, but surprisingly enough I'm not missing it. Normally, I would feel naked without my phone. I would get really annoyed with myself if I forgot it at home, but now that I don't have it I don't really miss it. It does bring some obstacles, though. Normally, I use it in the morning as an alarm. To my luck, that has not been a problem yet, but it easily could have been. And today I was babysitting and I thought 'What if something happens to one of the children?' I know I could just go to the neighbour, but then it struck me that I don't know the parents' phone numbers because they are saved to my phone. I also needed to call my parents Saturday evening, but I just used Skype instead which works quite well too.

So in all honesty, I'm not really missing it as much as I thought I would. Though just after turning it in, I wanted to use Google Maps to find a store, and then I realised I didn't have my phone. It's a good thing I don't really need Google Maps at the moment, then I think I might have missed my phone more, and I do miss being able to listen to music. But apart from that, it's quite deliberating. It's very nice not to waste time on Instagram (because I honestly use that a lot), and I've also come to realise how much time I spend looking up the weather and counting my steps on the Health app. It's not that I use these apps constantly, but I do actually look up the weather quite a lot.

So I'm hoping that this has taught me how to be less addicted to my phone and understand that it is okay to leave it at home. I'm honestly thinking of turning it off once in a while and tell myself to use it less.

What about you? Do you think you're using your phone too much?



Hello everyone

This post is for only girls. Unless there are any guys out there curious about what us girls go through every month. BTW I'll warn you that I'm using some explicit language.

I've tried the cup for five days now, and I can see why people talk highly of it. Especially considering how good it is for the environment and someone's body etc. However, I must admit it is not as easy to use as I thought it would be.

On the web page, they say that it doesn't smell. And no it does not smell when you have it inside of you, but once you go to the bathroom to empty it the blood does in fact smell. I believed that using the cup meant that it would not smell at all (because that's what reviews and the webpage make it sound like). But it does, and you'll definitely smell it while you're cleaning the cup. And it's not the normal smell of blood.

I agree that it is easier to use than using a tampon and panty liners etc. But only if you insert the cup correctly. On the page they make it seem like it's the easiest task in the world, it's not. It's actually quite hard and if you do not like to put your fingers inside yourself, then this is not the right option for you. Honestly, it can get quite messy. (Or maybe I'm still just new at it). But seriously you need to use your fingers a lot, and it does not automatically slip in the right way. It takes practice.

Now for the insertion part, it hurts as hell. Like seriously it hurts, unless, you use some kind of lubricant. Without lubricant it's kind of like inserting a tampon when you are not bleeding that badly, or you use a tampon to be safe in case your period might come. If you haven't tried that, let me tell you it hurts too. So remember lubricant. It says so in the instructions too, but not that it is necessary. It says it might. Let me tell you, you must use lubricant otherwise it'll hurt. At least, if you are not yet on your period but want to feel safe.

Removing it is a task I still haven't figured out. Like I can remove it, but it says to use your stomach muscles which do not work, and neither does squeezing it to get it out. Well, it works in the sense that you'll get it out, but I do not know how to pull it out without it hurting. The pressure you make when you try and remove it is quite unpleasant but bearable.

So here are some things to remember when trying it out:

Use lubricant.

Make sure you've inserted it correctly, otherwise blood might leak.

Taking it out can get messy, and it'll most likely hurt. (The first time you try it, I'll suggest only trying to remove it at home)

With these things said. Let me focus on the good things. You do not feel the cup inside of you, and it's easy to sleep with. It's nice knowing you can wear it for longer than a tampon, and it's nice to know it's better for the environment and your economy, but beware of the things I've mentioned above. I'm sure it'll be easier to use the cup once I get used to it. Because I'm not going back to tampons. The first days using it were also harder than the last.

Have any of you tried it too? If yes, how was it for you the first couple of times?


Hej allesammen

Dette indlæg er kun for piger. Medmindre der er nogen fyre derude nysgerrig efter, at vide hvad os piger må igennem hver måned. Forresten vil jeg advare om, at jeg bruger et meget explicit sprog.

Jeg har brugt koppen i fem dage nu, og jeg forstår godt hvorfor folk taler så meget om den. Især i betragtning af hvor god den er for miljøet og kroppen osv. Dog må jeg indrømme, at den ikke er så let at bruge som jeg troede den ville være.

På hjemmesiden står der, at det ikke lugter. Og nej det lugter ikke, når du har den inde i dig, men når du går på toilettet for at tømme den lugter blodet. Jeg troede at hvis man brugte koppen, ville det ikke lugte overhovedet (fordi det er hvad mange andre og hjemmebsiden får det til at lyde som). Men det gør det altså, og du vil helt sikkert lugte det, når du renser koppen. Og jeg snakker ikke om lugten af blod.

Jeg er enig i, at det er lettere at bruge end at bruge en tampon og trusseindlæg osv. Men kun hvis du indsætter koppen korrekt. På hjemmesiden får de det til at lyde som om at det er den letteste opgave i verden. Det er det ikke. Det er faktisk ret svært, og hvis du ikke kan lide at have dine fingre oppe i dig selv, så er dette ikke den rigtige løsning for dig. Ærlig talk kan det godt gå hen og blive en smule ulækkert. (Eller måske er jeg stadig bare ny i det). Men helt ærligt så skal du bruge dine fingre en del, og koppen glider ikke automatisk op den rigtige måde. Det tager øvelse.

Nu til indsættelsesdeenl: Det gør ondt ad helvede til, medmindre du bruger en form for glidecreme. Uden glidecreme er det lidt ligesom at indsætte en tampon, når du ikke bløder særlig meget, eller du bruger en tampon for at være sikker i tilfælde af, at du får din menstruation. Hvis du ikke har prøvet det, så kan jeg fortælle at det også gør ondt. Så husk glidecreme. Det står også i vejledningen, men der står ikke, at det er nødvendigt. Men jeg ville nu mene at det er nødvendigt. I hvert fald hvis du endnu ikke er har fået menstruation, men ønsker at være sikker.

At tage den ud er heller ikke den letteste opgave. Jeg kan godt fjerne koppen, men der står på pakken man skal bruge sine mave muskler, hvilket ikke rigtig fungerer, og det virker heller ikke rigtigt at klemme den sammen for at få den ud. Eller det fungerer i den forstand, at ud kommer den, men jeg ved ikke, hvordan man trækker den ud, uden at det gør ondt. Trykket som opstår gør at det er ret ubehageligt at fjerde den, men man ovelever.

Her er nogle ting der er gode at huske når man bruger den.

Brug glidecreme. (Det lyder måske ulækkert, men det er bedre end ikke at bruge noget)

Sørg for at du har indsat koppen korrekt, ellers kan du godt risikerer, at du bløder ved siden af. Dvs at det samtidig ville være en god ide med et bind også.

At få den ud kan godt være ret svært, og gør sandsynligvis ondt. Måske får du blod på hænderne. (Så det kan være en god ide at undgå offentlige toiletter til at starte med)

Med det sagt så lad mig fokusere på de gode ting. Man mærker ikke koppen inden i sig, og den er let at sove med. Samtidig et det rart at vide, at man kan gå med koppen i længere tid end en tampon, og samtidig er det jo bedre for miljøet og din økonomi, men vær opmærksom på de ting, jeg har nævnt ovenfor. Jeg er sikker på det bliver lettere at bruge koppen, når jeg vænnet mig til det. For jeg har ikke tænkt mig at gå tilbage til tamponer. De første dage var sværere end de sidste, og det bliver ligeså stille nemmere.

Har nogen af jer også prøvet den? Hvis ja, hvordan var det for jer de første par gange?



Hello Everyone

I finally received my OrganiCup yesterday, which means I still haven't used it, but I just wanted to share my first thoughts with you.

It is actually a bit smaller than I thought it would be. Perhaps you can get a sense of the size through my pictures, if not I guess it doesn't matter too much. But this will most likely make it easier to insert. I've heard that it can absorb quite a lot, which is honestly quite surprising to me as it doesn't look like it can contain much. On the website it says that it can contain three times as much as a big tampon. I'm wondering if that's true, but I can tell you all more once I've tried it.

The material is also harder than I thought it would be, but perhaps that is to make sure it doesn't fall back out. 'That would be very embarrassing wouldn't it?' ;D Haha.

If you want to lean more about it, you can read it here. (You can change the language on the left)

Have a nice Sunday.

Hej allesammen

Jeg modtog endelig min OrganiCup i går, hvilket betyder at jeg stadig ikke har prøvet at bruge den, men jeg ville lige dele mine første tanker om den med jer.

Den er faktisk noget mindre end jeg troede den ville være. Måske kan i få en idé omstørrelsen på overstående billede, hvis ikke så det lige meget :) Dette gør formentlig at den er lettere at indsætte. Jeg har læst at den kan absorbere ret meget, hvilket kommer som en overraskelse da det ikke ser sådan ud. På hjemmesiden står der, at den kan absorbere det tredobbelte af en stor tampon. Jeg kan ikke lade være med at tænke om dette mon passer, men jeg kan fortælle mere, når jeg har fået den prøvet af.

Materialet ad den er også hårdere end jeg troede det ville være, men måske det er for at sikre sig at den ikke falder ud igen. Det ville være virkelig flovt hvis den gjorde det, ville det ikke? ;D haha

Hvis du gerne vil vide mere om den, kan du læse det her.

Hav en dejlig søndag.



Since these can also be made with chicken sausages or even veggie sausages, I think it is wrong to call them 'pigs in a blanket', but hey you get what it is. However, I prefer to call them sausage rolls, it is also the closest thing to the Danish name :)


50g butter

1/2 liter milk

10g yeast

4 teaspoons sugar

1.5 teaspoons salt

200g wholemeal flour

600g wheat flour

16 sausages (I only used 10 for 30 sausage rolls, but you can easily make 32 sausage rolls and then just split the sausage in two instead of three)


Melt the butter in a pot and add the milk.

Poor the milk and butter into a bowl and add the yeast.

Add sugar, salt, wholemeal flour and at last the wheat flour. Be careful about not adding it all at once. (I used a bit less than 600g)

Knead it all together. The dough should be a bit sticky, but not so it sticks to your hands.

Place the dough back in the bowl and let it rest on the counter for at least an hour (my bowl was too small).

Split the dough into four and roll each piece out into a circle (or try to do it, you can see in the pictures that I did not manage too well either)

Cut the circle into eight pieces. (As seen in the pictures)

Add some ketchup to each piece (You don't have to add anything and you can add BBQ sauce or soething else instead)

Place the sausage on top of the ketchup and roll. (It's kinda like rolling a croissant)

Place them on a baking tray with baking paper and let them rest for around 15 minutes

Brush them with some milk or water.

Bake for 15-20 minutes at 200 degrees celsius (They should look like in the pictures)

Tip: These are easy to freeze and eat cold, and they are great for the children's or your own lunch pack.



50g smør

1/2 liter mælk

50g gær

4 teskeer sukker

1,5 teskeer salt

200g grahamsmel

600g hvedemel

16 pølser (Jeg brugte kun 10 til 30 pølsehorn, men du kan nemt lave 32 pølsehorn og nøjes med at skære pølserne i to i stedet for tre som jeg gjorde)


Smelt smørret i en gryde og tilføj mælken.

Hæld blandingen ned i en skål og rør gæren heri.

Tilføj sukker, salt, grahamsmel og til sidst hvedemelen. Vær forsigtig med ikke at hælde alt melen i på en gang. (Jeg brugte nemlig mindre end 600g)

Ælt dejen sammen. Dejen skal være lidt klistret, men ikke så den klistre til hænderne.

Læg dejen tilbage i skålen og lad den hvile i mindst en time. (Min skål var lidt for lille, så gerne brug en stor en)

Del dejen ud i fire lige store stykker og rul hvert stykke ud til en cirkel. (Eller prøv på det, det lykkedes heller ikke 100% for mig, som man kan se på billederne)

Skær cirklen ud i 8 stykker. (Som man kan se på billederne)

Læg en klat ketchup på hver enkelt stykke og placer pølsen ovenover. (Ketchuppen kan undlades eller erstattes)

Rul hvert stykke til et lille pølsehorn. (Det er lidt som at rulle en croissant)

Placer pølsehornene på en bageplade med bagepapir og lad dem hvile ydeligere 15 minutter.

Pensl dem med mælk eller vand.

Bag i 15-20 minutter ved 200 grader. (De skal have samme farve som på billederne)

Tip: De er lette at fryse og spise kolde, og de er gode til børnenes eller din egen madpakke. 



I can seriously not get enough of these two.

Can we please all get a William and a relationship like this? I you haven't watched 'Skam' already. I'll say 'shame on you.' Just kidding. But seriously it's fantastic. It's a Norwegian serie and I seriously can't get enough of it. I have watched the second season around three times already. (some clips even more) And I've only known of it for around three weeks.! Can't even remember my life before it. Haha, kidding. But it seriously came to me at a time when I really needed it.

It was actually my sister who recommended it to me, and at first I was quite skeptical because it's Norwegian. Because in all honesty, I've most likely never really watched anything Norwegian before. But it is hands down the best teenage serie ever made. You want to know why? I'll tell you. The thing is that it is real and raw. It makes you happy and sad and nostalgic, and it makes you able to relate to the characters. Yeah Serena from Gossip Girl is extremely gorgeous, but she isn't really relatable and neither is the rest of the show. This serie shows episodes that are real, and it has real characters. The actors and actresses are not model skinny, they have spots, they don't always wear makeup and their hair is not constantly perfectly styled.

The scenes are long at times but that is what makes it real. The characters are often in a lack of words (like real people), their facial expressions are real and you really get to know the characters on an entirely different level.

The people in the picture are Noora and William. Noora is the main character of season two whereas her friend Eva is the main character in season one. Every season has a new POV and season three is going to take the POV of Isak (a male character). Noora is confident, and independent and she doesn't want to change herself for a boy. Her style is really cool and her beautiful eyes and blond hair make her extremely adorable. Of course, William is the popular guy and a senior whereas Noora is not. He's a bit of a bad boy, but I'm not going to reveal anything. ;) Then there's Sana, a Muslim girl, who's completely badass. I seriously love her, and she's always there to stand up for her friends. There's insecure Vilde with big doe eyes and a naive mind, who you can't help but fall in love with. In season one, you get to know Eva very well. She struggles with her boyfriend, mum and school while trying to find her place in life, but she's also an amazing friend. She is a bit insecure, but she is totally relatable and you can't not like her. Last but not least, there's Chris. Nobody knows if it's short for something, and we don't know much about her. But with her many crazy outfits and positive attitude she matches well with the other girls. She's the funny one in the group, and she will definitely make you laugh. I promise the serie has more boys than William ;) Don't worry, but I'm not going to reveal anything else. I think you need to go watch it yourself. Because the best thing is you can watch the show for free! How great is that? I'm not sure you can watch it free worldwide, but you can watch it free right here with Norwegian subtitles if you live in Scandinavia

Did I mention I love her?

Sana (With hijab), Vilde (red shirt), Eva stands behind Vilde, Christ (The brunette), Noora the short-haired blond.

Jeg kan seriøst ikke få nok af Noora og William. Kan vi alle få en William for os selv og et forhold som dette, som ikke er sukker sødt men stadig er helt fantastisk?

Hvis du ikke allerede har set 'Skam' så skam dig. Ej det er bare for sjov, men helt seriøst, det er helt fantastisk. Det er en norsk serie, og må ærligt indrømme, at da min storesøster anbefalede den, var jeg ret skeptisk. Jeg er ikke en af dem som har set megeet norsk tv, så tænkte 'hvad fanden er det?' da hun nævnte den. Det er faktisk en teenage serie, men den passer til folk i alle aldre for man bliver utrolig glad af at se den. Eller det vil sige man bliver både glad og ked af det og nostalgisk, og det bedste er, at det bliver gjort på sådan en måde, at du sidder og reflekterer over dit eget liv. Karakterene er bare så virkelige og rå, og så kan man relatere til personerne på en måde som jeg aldrig har prøvet det med fiktive personer. Det kan godt være folk godt kan lide Gossip Girl og Serena er da helt sikkert virkelig smuk, men jeg kan ikke relatere til hende eller den verden Gossip Girl er bygget op om, den tager nemlig ikke udgangspunkt omkring helt normale mennesker som dig og mig. 'Skam' har alt. Skuespillerne er ikke modeltynde, de har bumser, de har ikke altid makeup på og deres hår sidder ikke altid perfekt. Det er rart at se en scene hvor en pige ikke har makeup på det sekund hun vågner.

Scenerne er nogle gange ret lange, men det er det der gør serien så god. Tingene er ikke forkastet, og man ser virkelig hvordan karaktererne har besvær med at sige hvad de føler og løber tom for ord. Samtidig siger deres ansigt utrolig meget uden ord, og det er virkelig vildt hvor meget de kan sige uden faktisk at sige noget som helst. Og man lærer derfor personerne virkelig godt at kende. Man kan næsten se sig selv tilbage på gymnasiet, hvor man er sammen af denne femmandspigegruppe.

Personerne i det første billede er Noora og William. Noora er hovedpersonen i sæson to, hvorimod det er hendes veninde Eva som er det i sæson 1. Hver sæson tager en ny synsvinkel og sæson vil tage Isaks synsvinkel.

Noora er selvsikker og selvtændig og hun vil ikke ændre sig selv for en fyr. Hendes stil er virkelig cool, og hendes smukke øjne og blonde hår gør at hun er virkelig bedårende. Selvfølgelig er William den populære fyr og 3.g'er, hvorimod Noora er 1.g'er. Han er lidt en badboy, men jeg skal nok lade være med at røbe noget. Der er Sana, som er muslim og er totalt badass. Jeg elsker hende helt seriøst. Hun er for sej, og hun står altid op for sine veninder. Der er usikre Vilde med dådyrøjne og naive sind, men som du ikke kan stå for. Eva lærer man at kende i sæson 1. Hun kæmper med sin kæreste, mor og skolen imens hun prøver at finde sig selv og sin plads i livet. Hun er en smule usikker, men hun er virkelig let at realatere til, og du kan ikke lade være med at falde for hende. Sidst men ikke mindst,er der Chris. Vi ved ikke så meget om hende, men med hendes mange skøre outfits og positive attitude matcher hun godt sammen med de andre piger, da hun er lige hvad de har brug for. Hun er den sjove i gruppen, og hun vil få dig som seer til at grine. Jeg lover at serien har flere drenge end kun William. Men jeg vil ikke afsløre andet (har allerede sagt for meget). I stedet synes jeg, at du selv skal kaste dig over serien. Jeg lover du ikke bliver skuffet. Du kan se den med norske undertekster lige her helt gratis. Så du har ingen undskyldninger!

​Chris and Sana.

This is most likely my favourite scene. 



  • I have an extremely sweet tooth. Like I can literally eat anything sweet unless it has cinnamon. I like cinnamon in cakes and food, but not in sweets like chewing gum and stuff. Yikes.
  • I am the youngest of five children! That's right five. We are quite a lot of children, but I would not have it any other way, but since I'm 22 and the youngest, it means that the oldest ones are "quite old" (36). They are going to hate me for calling them old (they are twins BTW) ;D But I love being from a big family. I also have plenty of cousins who also have children, and I have three nephews from two of my brothers. (Christmas is an expensive time of the year).
  • I never have problems getting up in the morning if I know I need to go somewhere, school, work or have an appointment with someone. I set an alarm and I wake up instantly (unless I'm extremely tired, then I tend to think the song is part of my dream, but will wake up before it finishes). This is quite convenient for me to be capable of, and I, therefore, do not like it much when people are too late (especially not when I don't know the people that well)
  • I honestly have the weirdest dreams ever. Like seriously. However, they are quite nice sometimes. I have won 10.000 kr, I have gotten a boyfriend, I have become friends with Kendall Jenner and so on. The worst part is when I wake up and find out it is all just a dream. So sad that I did not get the 10.000 kr
  • I have watched a whole lot of movies and tv-shows. Recently I started watching 'SKAM', which is a Norwegian show and bloody fantastic. I also have a tendency to watch things more than once. For example when the first Harry Potter movie came out I probably watched it 50 times (at least according to my siblings). I even memorised most lines. 
  • I have a strange memory. Like I can remember what clothes I wore on the first day in seventh grade and if my mum shows me a picture I can tell her what year it is from without thinking twice about it, but then I read for school and I don't remember anything that I just read. Or math for example, everything I learned in High School seems to be completely gone. Luckily though, I still know how to calculate in my head. 
  • I am extremely clumsy. Like seriously. I fall, I cut myself on everything, I drop things, I stumble. It is seriously a never ending thing.

What about you? Are you like me in some ways?




Or more like the big impact of words.

I wanted to share these words with you. I am a big sucker for taking things to heart (I'm working on that). :) Because it honestly should not matter what other people think of me now should it? Unfortuantely, it's much easier said than done. I wrote this post on my other blog around half a year ago, when I had just failed another exam, and my teacher told me some things that weren't that nice.

Here are the words I wrote and let me tell you, at the time, it really helped me to let it out:

It is funny how such a small thing can have such a great impact on you. It is like one minute you are fine and the next you are not. You feel like you have lost something of yourself. You feel like you are somehow worth less, and you know it is just one person’s words, yet you let them mean everything because you cannot help it. You let it eat away your skin because it hurts. It hurts so deeply and the pain is simply unbearable.

‘You are beautiful,’ the voice inside your head whispers, but you do not listen because all you focus on is that negativity that one single person has given you, and the simplicity of the words have gotten much more power than they should.

They are just words you try to remind yourself. They do not mean anything, and they definitely should not define you as a person. However, you start doubting yourself. You start thinking that ‘maybe I am just not good enough’, but you are. You are you, and you should not be anyone else. You should not want to be anyone else because the words people use to describe you does not define who you are, they define them. Remember your story is unique, and even though that does not mean you are the smartest person, or the funniest person, or the most beautiful person, it does not mean you are not worth as much because you are.

You make mistakes. You fall down. You hurt yourself. You hurt others. You learn. You forgive and you make sure to come back even stronger because that is life and life can be cruel, but do not let the words of another person define who you are. Do not let somebody’s words hold a power that they should have never been given. Words are just words until you make them more than that.

I wish I could tell you all that I am that kind of person. I wish I could tell you that I do not listen to what people say about me, and I wish I could tell you that their words do not affect me, but they do. I want to be the kind of person who does not care about what other people think of me, but I do. I care too damn much. I would like for that to change, but I do not know how. I try to please everyone and even when people step all over me, I try to see the good in people. I try to hold on so badly to something I wish is there, but sometimes it is not and that means it is time to let go. If only it was that easy.

What I am trying to say try is not to let other people’s words define you or hurt you. Believe that you are better than what they make you out to be. Remember they are only doing it to make themselves feel better, which means they are probably struggling worse than you are. Be the bigger person. Do not let people who do not care have a power over you, and do not worry about what everyone else thinks of you. It leaves you nowhere. Unfortunately, you cannot please everybody and everybody will not become your friend, and that is okay. Everybody is different, but people have a story you know nothing about. So be kind, Always. Smile. And make sure you do not make other’s feel as low as they have made you. 'An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.'

Wasn't this cheerful? Sorry. Somebody said something which was not as bad as I made it out to be, yet it hurt, and it made me feel like I was bad at something, even though I know I am not. And that hurt. But I am fine. And I am smiling right now. So don’t you worry about me. I just know how it is to feel low about yourself, which is why I wanted to share my words with you. I can tell you though the words were not aimed at my looks, but I know how much it can hurt if they are. So try and do like me and become better at not letting the words define you.

Luckily, it all happened quite a while ago, and I'm in a much better place now. But it definitely took me a lot of time and convincing from other people to believe in myself again. I really thought, 'okay. I'll drop out and find something else to do', but I don't want to study something else. So I knew I just needed to stop having doubts. One brother suggested that maybe I could start over this summer, and I thought 'no fucking way! Then it's going be an ever harder punch in the gut, and I'll definitely feel like I've failed'. Luckily, another brother told me that if this is my passion it'll work itself out. Because that's the most important thing. If it interests me everything else will come along even if it takes some time to figure out how to nail an exam. He also told me to focus on the things I'm good at especially at an exam. He told me to start with the things I'm good at and then work my way through it. And guess what I made it through all of it. After all, I wasn't so stupid that I couldn't manage it. It takes practice to learn how to write a good exam and it takes practice to know what the teacher wants. So don't feel bad if you fail in your first try. You can do it! I believe in you.

All the love, Mette



I must admit I'm not necessarily sad about being in UNI. I like meeting new people, I love the social aspect it gives and I do not mind being taught new things. It can be quite hard, though when you constantly have to study for your next course. 

With that said, UNI isn't too bad. However, I've just now started my third semester and let me tell you the first two haven't been easy. The first semester I failed two exams in 'British Litterature before the 1800' and in 'textual analysis'. It went much better the second time in 'British Litterature before the 1800', but I failed 'textual analysis' once again at my resit exam. So, I failed the exam twice before I finally passed in the beginning of June, and that was after my classmates had finished in December! In the spring, I also failed a midterm. There was a lot of trouble with that one and the whole situation was a complete mess. I got to rewrite it and passed, but it was a long struggle and took a lot of energy. 

But now I've finally passed all my previous courses. I guess UNI just isn't as easy as I thought it would be. But maybe it makes sense as I moved away from home right before I started and hadn't been in school since June 2013 when I finished High School. My mind was definitely occupied by a lot of things around my apartment. 

But as I've just mentioned I've finally passed everything and what a relief it is. However, the reason I'm writing this post is to let you know that it's okay to fail an exam, or two, or three. The important thing is to never give up and never stop believing in yourself. 

My teacher surely made me feel like I was stupid, and she suggested I found another study and that it would be better for me to go travelling. Well sorry to say this, but I've been travelling for two years. 

So if any of you are in my situation tell yourself this:

Just because you fail an exam does not mean it's the end of the world.

Do not compare yourself to your peers.

You might not get the highest grades, but that does not mean you are stupid.

You can always retake an exam (Or at least I can. Though I'd rather not)

Just because you fail one, or two or three or maybe ten exams do not mean you can't get your education.

Try not to beat yourself down because of it, if you know you did your best.

You'll learn and you will get better with time.

Remember that a grade is just a number or a letter. 

Do not let yourself be defined by numbers. You are so much more than that. 

Remember that you have other qualities too.  Maybe you are very outgoing, extremely friendly, super creative, a good listener, a great adviser or someting else that makes you stand out, which are just as good qualities if not better ones than scoring the highest grade on an exam. 

I am smiling to myself right now as I'm trying to let these things sink in. Because guess what, I got through it. And so can you. People will try and bring you down, but you need to keep fighting. I've finally realised that I am good enough and this is my passion, so no teacher or anyone else should be telling me or any of you otherwise, and if they do prove them wrong. 
All the love, Mette