Hello fellow Joe/Jane's
I hope you all have had a great week.. My weeks have just got interesting. I have just started my new online degree with the open university. The degree is in Business Management with Marketing. Its really interesting actually believe it or not I have actually missed, studying. I am also a week away from starting my personal training course which I am dead excited about finally starting to pursue a career which I will enjoy and hopefully be very good at.. See I have try and failed at many different careers before heading down the path I am currently walking down and this got me thinking does a failure always have to be a negative out come?
And that my fellow reader is what I am going to discuss this week..
What is a failure
So according to our very trusted website Wikipedia failure is the sate or condition of not meeting desirable or intended objective and maybe considered the opposite of success. ( little fact- the word ordinated in 1635-1645; from the words fail + ure , replacing the word Failer a default Anglo-French noun for old French failllr )
So I am pretty sure that somewhere in our lives we have set out to achieve a goal or objective and for some reason or not, we haven't quite got there. I know I have. Last year I decided to move to Milton Keynes to pursue a career in Recruitment, In the process I left my amazing girlfriend of 3 years at the time behind and set of on this new journey, The journey started of quite well , I got promoted to full recruitment consultant quite quickly. I was making new friends and I was starting to enjoy myself quiet a bit. (some would say a bit to much). I thought to my self finally I am on my way to being successful and achieving my life goal. However as you might of guessed by now, It all came crashing down. I got sacked from the job for not hitting target found another job got sacked again lost my girlfriend and was left with nothing. See I had moved down to achieve my objective and I didn't reach it , so that to me is considered a failure.
However I was the only person calling it a failure (apart from the ex, who cant really complain because she is now living it up in America. ). No one else ever called it a failure and that's the problem we all go through. We hold such high standard that anything but achieving the end goal is considered a disappointed. This links what I have said previously in my blog on fear of failure. because we have failed at one objective we become afraid to try it again, and even worse become afraid to try anything new, just in case we don't reach it and end being a disappoint all over again. Which I am sure you can admit , isn't a nice feeling.
However not everything we do can be consider a failure. In fact you know what I going to put it out there, NOITHING we do can be consider a failure,. You just need to look at it from a different angle or some else's perspective
For example I moped about for months thinking of my self as a failure after my move to Milton Keynes, and then one day, I just decided to look at it from a different angle. I got sacked from my two jobs down there however I am now about to progress into in career that I wouldn't of even thought of doing if I was still in the job that I was in Milton Keynes. So if you look at that from some else's angle, in that situation, I learnt what I don't want to do and what I am not good at and that's what life is about experiencing failures, and learning from it.
So lets use this theory it our 3 main aspects of life:
Health/Fitness- You failed to reach your weight loss goal? What you going to do? just give up. Think that you are not capable of losing weight. No look at it from another angle. You still lost some weight, you still got off your arse and attempted to get in to better shape, that is a success you either just need to learn about different methods or you just need to be patient..
Career- Your got passed up on the promotion or you failed to get the job. You still managed to get yourself in contention to be considered for the job/promotion. Which is more that can be said for other people. It might just me that your not quite ready,. Or you just need to learn more. Even the fact, you might be destined for bigger things, Just wait and be patient you don't know what's around the corner.
Relationships- You relationship ended or your failed to get the guy or girl. Yet again you tried, it doesn't mean you should just give up because it didn't work out. Doesn't mean your destined to be alone, and that every other relationship isn't going to work out, Its just mean that you might try a little harder next time or the guy/girl was a dick.. It was still a success because you still tried and had the ability to get yourself into a relationship.
Not every decision your ever make is a failure because every decision was right at the time and every decision you ever made creates your future accomplishments.
So there you have it Joes/Jane's . Don't let your so called failures hold you back , you will end up regretting it. and that's the true failure. FAILURE- It can destroy you or it can make you so freakin' mad that you work even harder to become the winner that you know you are.
I hope this has motivated. to you to make a change and turn your 'Failure's into success's'
This will be the last post for a few weeks whilst I concentrate on my new website, and my pt course but I will be back,.
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Until next time speak to you soon