Body modification is becoming more and more common in schools, businesses, and throughout social media, and has become a wonderful method of self-expression ranging from changing hair colour, piercings, and tattoos. I feel that responsible body modification is a really cool way to express yourself, but sometimes parents aren't too keen. This is a "How To" guide, that may help you in convincing your parents to let you do some self-expression.
1. Establish a strong connection with your guardian/parent:
- Acknowledge and let them know how much you appreciate everything they do for you, and maybe do something for them in return
- Ask them about some of their experiences as a young person, and what their school/parents/work allowed them to do
2. Let them know what you're into:
- Involve them in your life by shopping with them and telling them what you do and don't like
- Show them pictures of stuff that you like (tattoos, piercings etc.)
- Tell them that you would LIKE to get something done, so that it's not totally out of the blue when you ask them and they don't just think it's a phase
3. Make a pro's and con's list of, for example, a septum piercing. I said on my list that some positives of me getting my septum pierced are that I am really good about looking after my piercings, and it's really fast healing. I then put down in my negatives list that it might be painful to get pierced, as well as clean. Remember to make an even list of both pro's and con's so that it proves you're not just looking at the reasons why you should do it, instead you're looking at all the options and proving that you're thinking like and adult.
4. Research a HEAP!! You'll need to find out and talk to your parents about:
- Google what makes a reliable piercing or tattoo parlour, and find one in your local area. Ask about their hygiene methods.
- How much it costs at different places and what type of jewellery they pierce it with
- How to take care of your new tattoo and piercing (short and long term)
- How old you have to be
- Peoples experiences and what they recommend
- If the design/piercing suits you
5. Finally approach and ask them and show them all your information! You never know what their answer until you ask :)
6. If they say no the first time, the fact that you spent so much time and effort researching and exploring something that is being done to your body will show them that you are responsible and knowledgeable about the subject. This will still be in the back of their minds if you ask again. It is really important to not loose your cool if you don't get the desired reaction that you are hoping for, because it might ruin all of the previous preparedness you have just gathered. Even if you do not get the desired result, compromise is always another option that you should be open to.
All of the points above are all equally important, and it is vital that you brush up on your knowledge before you go asking to have it applied or done to your body. Age is also an important factor, as you do not want to be getting something done at age 15 that will have severe implications when you are 35.