I'm of the rare specimen "Women who have not been sexually assaulted or harassed by men". At least that's what I tell myself. I am taught to think that what I have experienced is "not so bad" or "not even worth mentioning" at all.
Like when I was 12 and a kid in my class ran up to me and squeezed my prepubescent, sore boobs as hard as he could. I reacted by pushing him to the ground and kicking him in the stomach. Why? I felt embarrassed and ashamed of what he had done.
Or the time when I was being shown around a new workplace, being introduced to my new coworkers (all twice my age) and one man looked me up and down and said he understood why the boss hired me. My boss laughed.
Or maybe when the first thing Sonny's "acquaintance" ever said to me was "Oh you're the girl with such small boobs!" and as if that was not enough, the next time we met he just felt the need to "compliment my ass" in front of my boyfriend, his girlfriend and their friends. No one ever question it.
Or just the fact that I met one of my biggest idols, Mick Mars, two years ago and I cannot share that story without being asked if I had sex with him. So I have stopped bringing it up.
But these situations "don't count". They were only "joking". I am "supposed to laugh". And I know there are multiple situations in my life that I have completely blocked out of my memory to not have to deal with them. All the times sexual comments and "jokes" have made me feel extremely uncomfortable. All the times I have received inappropriate comments from people online 'cause I choose to share my life... #metoo
Every single day in my little world of "never having been assaulted or harassed" I expect to be assaulted. I expect to be harassed. I expect to be attacked by a man. 'Cause no woman has the privilege of going through life without being a victim.
Yes yes, we get it now, all women have been or will be victims. It should not take a damn hashtag for us to be believed, to be listened to or for men to take action. No! Men should not have their own hashtag where they are being celebrated and praised for speaking up about the harassment and abuse they are guilty of.
Men need to fucking check themselves, their brothers, sons, fathers, uncles, neighbors, friends, partners, teachers, coaches, bosses, colleagues, before they wreck someone's life. SPEAK UP.