Hi beautiful people 🌼
I thought it might be a good idea to write about my sister that has autism and ADHD.
Because you always see things about their parents about how difficult it is to raise a kid that has autism, but you almost never see anything about their siblings...
because it is also hard for the sibling well not really hard but it is hard to understand how they think and feel so I thought I could write about that here :).
When I was younger, I went to a "sibling day" for siblings that have a sister or brother with a personality disease. That is a group where you can talk about it and they would answer your questions, But I was really young, so I don't remember much of it but my mum told me this. I didn't talk much either since I was like 3 years old :).
Her brain works in a way my brain will never work. But she doesn't fit in this "society's norm" And she often goes unappreciated.
I grow up in a unique way, I grow up with a sister whose needs are always more important than mine.
I said before that my sister is 18 but on the inside she is much younger, You will probably not notice it at the first sight, but if you get to know her you will notice in the way she acts that she is younger.
For example yesterday me and my mum looked up some songs we used to listen when we were younger just for fun, But my sister got so happy and she started singing and dancing to the songs.
Acaptence always take longer than they should. Strange looks when she got happy or acted out a little. My friends laughing about her because she was still watching kid cartoons at the age of 17.
To be the sister of a child with autism means every day is crazy and you never know what to expect. It’s stressful. It’s chaotic. You deal with a lot of emotions and anxieties that never cross the minds of other 8-years-olds. Why are those kids staring at my sister? What are they saying? Please stop flapping your arms. You hate your sibling, you love your sibling. It is overwhelming at first and that’s okay.
I've always felt like the older Sibling or the "Responsible one" but it's ok because my sister can also do things by herself for example she went on the airplane ALONE! I was so proud of her that she did that.
I don't think will ever understand how her brain works and I will never understand how she feels or thinks but, as long as we respect her it's okay because they are also humans just like us and that counts for everyone!
I just want to everyone who know somebody that is autistic that it is okay if you are mad or annoyed at them, but just know to never show it, and NEVER laugh about them because they are just like us.
Thank you so much for taking your time to read this. I never thought I would write about this 💕 lyall xoxo.