these three pictures is something a perfectionsim deals with in the evey dya life.
one pen is the diffrent way
the grass is taller then the other pices of grass
i wrote something worng or my letter is ugly i need to erase that
the words i write keeps on tilting to a corner
that is only a few things that happens in a perfectionism´s life but theres a lot more they deal with..
lets find out how is it to be i mean how is it to be a perfectionism.?.
it´s not easy as i can say cause every time you see a mistake u piont it out and redo it and ur emotional feelings is f***ing with you when u get ur newest grade if u get below A ur gonna show your emotional fellings because you did some fails in the test.
Things in your life are either right or wrong, good or bad success or failure
some difficult sittuations..
being in a realtationship with someone can be difficult sometimes and us perfectionist people always says if u did any mistake and says redo it or write it on new
ur feeling anxious and exhautsed a lot
The perfectionist lives with continuous anxiety about what needs to be accomplished. Unfortunately the perfectionist's response to anxiety is to work harder and accomplish more and more and more. This leaves them exhausted and miserable most of the time.
you have a deeper sense of shame heres what i mean with that
The perfectionist is usually very intolerant of mess and disorganization. They believe that if they can make their outside environment look a certain way, that means that everything is good and safe on the inside
and I should not forget this thing Earning Your Specialness
A perfectionist's core internal belief tends to be they are not good enough or special the way they are. They believe their value comes from perfect production, achievement and service in every aspect of their life. When one feels like they have to constantly earn their place as “good” in the world, it means living with a deeper sense that you don’t deserve to just exist and be loved for who you are.
The key point is that perfectionism grows from a point of feeling not only imperfect, but deeply flawed and therefore, unlovable. If you have to constantly re-earn or re-prove your worth—even if it’s to yourself—you are running on a never-ending treadmill of external achievements that will not bring you a joy that lasts. The thing to always keep in mind is that true internal acceptance and peace does not come from changing what is outside of you. Remember lasting change always entails shifting and understanding what’s inside of you. You will never hustle your way into self-love.
and some pro and coins
Pro – You generally do exceedingly well on assignments and papers because you won’t hand in anything short of your absolute best.
Con – You cannot emotionally handle getting any grade less than an A. An A- might as well be an F, because an A- means you did something wrong. And mistakes mean failure.
Pro – You go the extra mile, even for things you aren’t necessarily interested in. For example, When I started weight-training, it was not my cup of tea, but I still worked to learn perfect form.
Con – You can never have that “I don’t care about this, so I’m not going to try” mentality. It doesn’t matter if you’re working on a diorama for an art class you had to take for your core credits even though you’re a PR major; you’re going to stress over it.
Pro – People think you’re someone who really has everything together and look up to you.
Con – You are constantly busting your butt to live up to that impossible standard and feel mortified when somebody realizes that you are, in fact, imperfect like everyone else.
Pro – You have motivation, determination, persistence, and drive – qualities that most people find redeeming and can make you a great candidate for landing a job.
Con – You stretch yourself thin trying to exude these qualities in every aspect of life, whether it be schoolwork or getting your hair to look perfect (seriously, that takes some persistence).
Pro – You’re excellent at correcting and editing things because you get a secret joy out of seeking out imperfections.
Con – You’re constantly annoying people around you by correcting and editing everything they do without being asked to do so.
Pro – People admire how hard you’re willing to work.
Con – People don’t understand why little mess ups that wouldn’t bother the average Joe can bring you down so much.
i know that i write a lot today but this is important to me i think its important for you to know what i live in in the daily life..
and if ur not sure if ur a perfectonism u can choose on what to day you can either go to a phsyologi or find this site
where i found the https://personalexcellence.co/blog/perfectionism/