Love, the greatest mystery of all time. The ultimate prize in life. What would the world be without love? No books about great romances, no feel good movies about the girl getting the boy (or vice versa), no mythological wars started because of that one woman… Love is great and powerful, everyone knows that, but do we need a day to celebrate it?
Since love is everywhere, everyday, it is a bit strange that we have a huge celebration just this specific day in February. Let me explain. Celebrating someone’s birthday isn’t weird; you celebrate the day of their birth. Celebrating United States Independence Day on July 4th isn’t weird either, it was after all 4th of July that the adoption of the Declaration of Independence happened. Two hundred something years ago, yes, but still on the July 4th. This kind of celebration makes sense. Then you have celebration like the Swedish Midsommarafton (unchristian version of Saint John’s Eve) that’s a bit fuzzier and doesn’t have a specific date. It does however have a history of being a fertility festival and celebrating the beginning of the summer with things like a “midsummer pole” that is essentially just a huge symbol of a penis, covered in flowers, that everyone dances around. I’m not going to say that it isn’t weird, but it still kind of makes sense. Celebrating the beginning of the summer-part that is, dancing around a flower-penis definitely is a bit bizarre, haha.
Did I lose you there for a bit? Still traumatized by the mental picture of people dancing around a penis? No? Ok, let’s move on. Everyone knows that Valentine’s Day is about love. But is it really? Saint Valentine wasn’t really one person. There were several martyrs named Valentine, oh and there was that one priest as well. Does it sound romantic and sexy yet? Not really, right? There’s no real evidence of any link of St. Valentine’s Day and any romantic celebrations, but it has somehow (marketing effort, duh!) spread all over the world and makes a lot of people go nuts. People get stressed out trying to prove their undying love, and the ones that don’t have a significant one feel unloved. That’s where I come back to the “one day of celebration of something that should be appreciated everyday”-part. Every day should be a day to express your love. You shouldn’t need a specific day to express your feelings; you should always treat your beloved ones with as much love and adoration as people do on Valentine’s Day. Flowers and chocolates can be given on any other day, and it would probably be even more appreciated when your beloved one know it’s a spontaneous act of love and not a forced one.
With all that being said, even though I take the whole day VERY lightly (I’m still buying myself a heart-formed doughnut because I love myself, duh!) I recognize the people that don’t. Social norms are hard to break for some, and as an act of love I tell them that I love them. Because they still need that recognition and attention on this specific day to feel special and loved. Even though I said I loved them as late as yesterday.