I love my roommates. They are the closest to family I have here. We take care of each other and try to make the best out of every situation. However all situations won't get better no matter what you do. We've really tried to make the situation in the house we live in better. By talking to the family, asking if we can do things and trying not to do anything wrong. (like not touching anything, never sitting in the livingroom, being quiet and respect every thing to an extreme point)
We eat vegetarian food every day with rice and if it's possible with a little bit more rice. There is alot of new and different rules here for us, but we haven't complained just tried to adapt.
Now, a cultural difference is one thing. Disrespecting us is another thing.
The grandmother in the family have laughed at my mistakes infront of everybody, she calls us "you people", if we touch her stuff she stops using it and she doesn't let us out of her sight if we're in the same room as her. She's very religious so what we eat with, can't be mixed with hers. So our plates, glasses and so on is and should always be placed on the end of the table on a towel. We can't wash our plates with the same things as her or use the same towel as her. I know that it is because of her religion so I'm trying to adapt.
By mistake I washed her spoon yesterday and she got so mad that she punch one of the objects in the kitchen. Today she told us that she wants to eat at the same time as her...
My roommate Aurore forgot to lock the door to the backyard after taking down her clothes from the washing line. (This is in the middle of the day and I still have my clothes hanging there). The grandmother storms into our room and says "You didn't lock the door!" while looking at me. I turn to Aurore and ask her if she forgot. Then I answer "She took her clothes but forgot to lock the door". The grandmother (still angry) says "you have to lock the door, if thieves come and shoot you". I don't even know what to respond to that. The fact that she's yelling at me and complaning every single fucking day, makes me more upset right now than if a bloody thief would hold a gun at me.
This grandmother comes into my room when I'm not at home and changes things. She doesn't say thank you if I say something like "Have a nice day", "I hope you feel better" and so on. Her respond to everything is okay.
Also and this feels really disrespectful to me, I've been here 3 weeks now and they have not even opened the gift I brought with me from Sweden yet.