I recently read a book called "Love letters to the dead" by Ava Dellaira and it's now my favorite book. I read it two times in a row because it's so good. It begins with an assignment for English class, write a letter to a dead person. Laurel (who's the main character in the book) writes a letter to Kurt Cobain who died young, like her sister May who died. Laurel starts writing more letters to more dead people like River Phoenix, Amy Winehouse and Janis Joplin. She writes about her new high school, her new friends, her first love, her shattered life and how she blames herself for her sisters death.

I can relate to the story in this book, even tho it isn't similar to my story. When I read this book I realized that there are lots of words that I find inspiring and that I relate to. So I bought the same book, wrote down the page numbers with the words and sentences I found inspiring. Then I cut out the pages, highlighted the words and put them all into a frame that's now on my wall. I know you may think I'm such a nerd because I'm talking about a book but I don't care. I love books and reading, especially this book.


There are so many words that I love in this book, but especially these words I'll write now, about being in love.

"There are two most important things in the world - being in danger, and being saved."

"Do you think we go into danger on purpose, so we can get saved?"

"Yes, sometimes. But sometimes the wolf comes down out of the mountains, and you didn't ask for it. You were just trying to take a nap in the foothills."

"But if those are the two most important things, what about being in love?"

"Why do you think that's the most profound thing for a person? It's both at once. When we are in love, we are both completely in danger and completely saved."

When I read that, I thought that it was true, and yes it may be, but then I read this:

"What I told you about saving people isn't true. You might think it is, because you might want someone else to save you, or you might want to save someone so badly. But no one else can save you, not really. Not from yourself. You fall asleep in the foothills, and the wolf comes down from the mountains. And you hope someone will wake you up. Or chase it off. Or shoot it dead. But when you realize that the wolf is inside you, that's when you know. You can't run from it. And no one who loves you can kill the wolf, because it's part of you. They see your face on it. And they won't fire the shot."

When I read this, it hit me. Even if you seem tough, you're afraid, like me, that there is something inside of you that could eat you alive.

No one can save you from yourself. No one can kill the wolf inside you because it's a part of you. You can't kill the wolf inside of you and you can't run from it either. I guess that you just have to learn to live with it.


I know that most of you reading this will just think that this is weird and even ridiculous. But when I read this, it's probably one of the realest things I've ever read. Because I understand it, I get it. And it's okay if you don't understand what I just wrote. I just wanted to write this blog post because I've been thinking about this a lot and I think it was worth sharing.

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Hey everyone, how are you all? I'm not gonna lie, I'm not so good. I mean, some moments I'm okay but most of the time I'm not. I'm pretty far from okay to be honest. I'm not sure what I'm going to write in this post, probably just a life update.

School is incredibly hard. I'm trying so hard to make it work but it's not going well. These past few weeks it's been really really hard. Last week I went home two times from school in the middle of the day because I just couldn't stay there. I've actually slept during some classes because I've been so exhausted. I know that my grades are sinking and I try to keep them up but no matter how hard I try I just can't because I'm so incredibly depressed. And I hate that. But I can't do anything about it. And I don't want people to think I'm lazy because I leave school early and because I'm not motivated. I'm sorry but I can't really do anything about it.

My dad has no idea that it's not going well at school. I guess I'm pretty good at lying and pretending. Lots of people have tried to convince me to open up and talk more to my dad but it's never going to happen, ever. I won't talk to my dad about these kind of things, like why it isn't going well at school or my depression. But I can talk to my mom and her boyfriend. I haven't seen them in a few weeks because I've been busy during these past few weekends but this weekend I'll see them. But anyway so I haven't talked with them so much about these things, but I will.

About my mental health, well it's getting worse for every day that passes by. But I have to keep on going no matter what, right? I don't have any other choices. I've had headaches literally every single day these past two weeks. I don't feel like eating because when I look in the mirror I feel like breaking it. And after I eat, I feel like throwing up. So that sucks. But one positive thing is that I've been a vegetarian for 6 months now and I'm pretty proud of myself, not that anyone cares haha.

I see my psychologist every week and it does help but I still have these thoughts and I'm still more depressed than ever. I'm not sure if this is too personal but I may get a new medicine since the one I'm currently taking doesn't help at all. I remember that my mom told me to not tell anyone about these things and I just think that it isn't really something I need to hide. I mean, I write so many personal things here and I don't really care if someone thinks it's too personal.

Recently I've been reading about different mental illnesses just because I find it really interesting. And I came across "Borderline personality disorder" and let me tell you, it fits me pretty much perfectly. I've done a lot of research and I've written down symptoms and most of them describe me. I'm going to talk to my psychologist about this.

One more positive thing, I think I'm in love again (once again, not that anyone cares) and I'm not going to talk about it much at all, just mentioning it here since I'm writing a life update. I may write another blog-post based on this subject.


Another positive thing is that it's Spring! Less than two months until summer break! I'm excited, okay who wouldn't be? I just love when the sun is shining and the sky is blue and then the night sky is clear and filled with stars. I was actually outside watching stars last weekend just for awhile and as always, it was breathtaking. I can't wait until it's summer so I can look at stars every single night if I want to.

One more thing, this month (4/22/17) will be exactly three years ago I started this blog, yep that's right. On the 22 of April 2014 I uploaded my very first blog-post. Ofcourse it was a really pointless blog-post, come on I was only 12. I recently went back and deleted all my old blog-posts when I used to write in Swedish. I just found that pointless so now all the posts that I didn't delete are in English.

I don't know what more to write in this blog-post, but I hope you all are okay and if not, it will be okay someday. Trust me.

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Hey, how are you? I hope you all are fine. I'm okay I think.
Today is Sunday and I'm sure most people hate this day because it means that tomorrow's Monday, which sucks. But let's try to think positive. A new week begins and I pretty much always tell myself that this week I'm going to try my best at school, be happy and positive, work out and eat healthy. But then on Monday morning I'm already like "nah, I can't do this." and the day ends up being a total disaster because I'm not putting my mind into anything really. I always tell myself this week I will change for the better, but I don't and then the week turns out to be just like the other weeks, depressing.
But it doesn't have to be like that, you just need to put your mind into things, try and don't give up. If you want every day to be as good as possible, it's up to you to make sure they are. It's up to you. No one else can make sure you have a good day or a week, it's you. I understand, it's easy to say and hard to do. I get that, because I'm depressed as hell, I'm tired, or exhausted actually and I give up easily. But it's not impossible for you to try to be more positive. You can do it. There are lots of obstacles on a daily basis and it will knock you down, but you can get back up. Don't give up. I know that some days are worse than others and that is totally okay. I'm not saying that every day will be good or perfect if you have a positive mindset and that you'll be happy if you're positive and stuff, no. You're human and you can't be happy all the time. But when hard times come and when it sometimes gets a little bit worse, learn from it. When life knocks you down, get back up, dust yourself off and don't give up. I believe in you. It's your life and be grateful for every single breath. It's up to you to live your life to the fullest.

It's Sunday and you've gotten through every obstacle and every difficult situation so far. And I think you deserve to have a kind of lazy day. Stay in your bed if you want to, with your pj's on all day. Read a book and drink tea, watch a movie and eat cookies, listen to music and paint or draw. Take a long and hot bath or shower.
Plan out your week and write down what you want to do, what you want to achieve. Write down goals and tell yourself you won't stop till you reach them all. Be proud of yourself for getting though this week and go early to bed so you get enough energy to wake up on Monday morning and conquer the day. I believe in you.

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I'd do anything to have a life without anxiety, but it's impossible.
I deal with anxiety on a daily basis, literally every day. But this week it's been worse. On Thursday morning I was fine, I actually told myself that I'm going to make sure it's a good day, but little did I know it wouldn't be. After getting through three classes, I suddenly started feeling anxious. I'm not really sure why. But I had to get out. As soon as the class was over, I walked fast outside to get some fresh air. It was cold but I didn't care. I stood there for probably 15 minutes until it was time to go back to class, but I couldn't do it. Instead I went to the bathroom and locked the door. I looked at myself in the mirror with tears in my eyes and then I sat down on the floor and started sobbing. I kept whispering to myself 'it won't get better it won't get better'. I don't know how many minutes went by but at some point my teacher knocked on the door and asked if I could open it, so I did. My teacher sat down next to me and tried to calm me down. I sat there for a long time just crying while listening to my teacher who was talking to me. Then she asked if there's someone who I'd want to talk to, so I told her and a few seconds later my best friend came and locked the door behind her. I hugged her and cried even more. She asked me what was wrong and I told her that I didn't know. There was just so much going on in my head. That's one thing that I hate with anxiety, in that moment it all seems like it's too much. There are so many thoughts in your head and you want to get them all out but you can't find the words. It feels like everything is crushing down but the truth is, it's all in your head. There's been lots of times when I've gotten anxiety attacks and the people who have been there next to me told me that 'this will not last forever, it's just an anxiety attack.' When they said that I replied with 'yeah I know but these thoughts won't go away even though the anxiety attack will.'
When my best friend sat next to me while I was sobbing she was trying to find out what has happened but I didn't know either. I just said that everything's going wrong and I can't do anything about it.
I told her I wanted to be alone so she left me and I locked the door. About ten minutes later the school nurse came and knocked on the door and I didn't have any other options than to let her in. She sat down and asked questions, while I calmed down after crying for over an hour.
She told me that she's going to call my psychologist because I told her to not call my dad. I had to get out of the bathroom and thank god everyone was in class, so no one saw me looking like a raccoon with my makeup messed up after crying. Since my psychologist wasn't there I had to talk with a doctor or whatever. During my long mental breakdown and anxiety attack I missed two classes and lunch, but I didn't mind. After school I hung out with friends and I was fine already by then.

Yesterday on Friday, in the evening I went to the youth center. It was pretty boring. The time was 9:20 pm when I went home, but the second I closed the door behind me I started crying and I got anxious. I sat down on my bed and texted my friends. I told them that it was a mistake to go home and I asked if they could come and meet me because I was afraid of being alone by myself. So I went out again and met my friends halfway back to the youth center. I started crying more when I hugged my best friend. She asked me what was wrong and I didn't know. We stood there in the dark for a few minutes while she held me, and then we walked back to the youth center. When I got back there I tried to do things so I'd forget that I was anxious. I got hugs from my best fiends and after a few minutes I was okay again.

When I get anxious it feels like I'm all alone and no one understands me. My heart beats fast and I can't catch my breath. My thoughts get louder and I overthink. It feels like everything is crushing down around me and it feels like I'm all over the place. I'm shaking and I feel lost. It feels like it's never going to be okay, it's never going to get better.
Having anxiety is scary, because when my thoughts take over, the worst things could happen.
As hard as it is to believe, it's going to be okay. Sometimes it all just gets a little too much.
It is okay to feel lost and to feel overwhelmed sometimes. Many people deal with the same things, same thoughts as you do. You're not alone, even though in the moment it feels like you are. People have told me that the anxiety attack will pass, and in that moment I don't believe it but it's true, it will pass. Sadly, the thoughts will stay.
It is okay to feel anxious and you're not weak for letting it take over. You're strong because you've gotten through every single anxious moment in your life so far.

I may not believe this myself but I hope you do, it's going to be okay.

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Hey everyone, how are you? I’m okay.

It’s already March. What the hell? Time is going so fast it’s insane. I wanted to make this blogpost in January but I didn’t. So I’m going to write it now. I'm going to write down all my goals here. I think it’s important and fun to write down some goals or things you want to achieve this year.

Here are my goals for 2017.


- Write a book

At the end of last year I started writing poems. Then I wanted to write a book. But I didn't have a computer so I couldn't write. But I got a computer last month and I've started writing a book. I'm not going to tell you anthing about it, yet.


- Be happy with what I see in the mirror

I'm pretty sure a lot of people have these kinds of goals, to lose weight or stuff like that. I'm one of those people. For many years, I've dreamed about having a body I feel confident in. I haven't felt confident for as long as I can remember. Ever since I was 13, I wanted to be skinnier because I didnt feel confident. At the end of last year I stopped eating meat. I didn't eat as much junk food or sweets and I actually started seeing results. Okay I'm going to be honest I didn't really eat as much food as I should have. I ate about two meals a day. But I saw results. In spring of 2016 I gained 7kg but then I lost about 9 kg in just a few months at the end of the year. I know that no one really cares about my weight lol but I'm actually proud of myself. I recently started going to the gym because I turned 15 so that's really fun. I don't wanna become obsessed with my weight, it's really just a number. But I'm slowly becoming more confident, finally.


- Inspire and help people

I want to inspire people. I want to help and make people smile. Last year I didn't write much on my blog becuse I didn't know what to write about except my daily life which isn't so interesting. But this year I'm going to write more here and hopefully help or inspire someone. But I don't wanna inspire and help people only here on the internet, also in real life. I want to help. Yeah maybe I don't always listen to the advice I give everyone else and maybe I can't help myself but that won't stop me from trying to help everybody else.


- Be more positive

Easy to say, hard to do. It is really hard for me to be positive. I always focus more on the negative things and not as much on the positive. And my dark thoughts don't help. But I try to be more positive.

I think I'll probably soon write a blog post about advice on how to be more positive.


- Get out of my comfort zone

I like to stay in my comfort zone. I don't really like doing things that scare me or things I haven't done before and I'm scared to meet new people. But I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone more often. But I still won't do things that give me anxiety. Yes I want to do things that scare me, but not things that give me anxiety. What I really wanna do is to start being brave enough to just sing without thinking about what other people think. A few people I know have told me that I'm good at singing, I also believe that but every time I sing infront of people I start shaking and feeling a little bit anxious.


- Stop caring about what people think

I always care about what people think and say. But it's not good that I focus on it too much. I always think about what other people think about me. I don't want people to talk shit about me behind my back and I don't want people to dislike me. I also focus on people when they tell me their opinions on things that I do, like or believe in. When I hear their opinions I feel like what I do or believe in is wrong. And I've tried to change so people would like me more but I've now realized that there's always going to be people who don't like me and who judge me so why don't I just be myself? The people who love me, love me for who I am and they respect me.


- Use my camera more

I want to take more pictures, capture moments and memories. I also wanna use my canon camera more, not just the camera on my phone.


- Go on more adventures

This has also to do with getting out of my comfort zone. I want to go on more adventures. Go outside. Look at the stars in the middle of the night, go midnight swimming, go to new places, spend as much time with my best friends as possible. I want to do more things that make me feel good to be alive.


- Paint more

I've recently been reading and writing a lot so I don't draw or paint as much anymore. But I want to paint more often.


- Read more


I strongly believe that every book you read changes you somehow, it changes the way you think or the way you look at some things. If it hasn't changed you somehow, it has failed as a book. But that's my opinion. I love books, and if you do too you know what it feels like when you find a book that is like it's written just for you. I want to find new books like that.


- Dye my hair

It also has to do with getting out of my comfort zone and trying new things. I'm blonde now but I really want to dye my hair red, it would be cool.


- Be happy

I want to be happy. Being depressed and dealing with dark thoughts on a daily basis is tearing me apart but I'm trying to be more positive and trying to do things that make me happy. A good thing is that I've actually been really happy these past few days, thanks to this one person. It's insane because I haven't been this happy in so so long.


I want to make 2017 one of the best years of my life. I want to laugh and smile more often. I want to do things that make me happy, I want to do things that scare me and I want to take more chances. I want to go on more adventures. I want to sit on the beach, hear ocean waves while looking at the sunset and then lay under the stars all night. I want to dance in the rain and kiss in the rain I want to live every day to the fullest and I want to be confident and strong I want to feel alive.

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I turned 15 a few weeks ago. And I thought I'd write this because maybe it will help someone?
So here are 15 things I've learned in 15 years.

1. Don't change just because someone doesn't agree with you.
For example I believe in God, I don't eat meat, I'm a feminist and I listen to music that some people don't like. I've thought about changing, I've tried to change because other people don't agree with me. But now I've realized that I can't change so that people would like me more. The people who love me, love me for who I am and they respect me, even if they don't believe or like the same things I do. So don't change for someone so that they'd like you.
2. Some things won't go back to the way they used to be.
3. You don't have forever.
Time goes faster than we realize. We can't pause it. So we have to live life to the fullest because this exact day and moment will never happen again. Don't look back, no matter how much you want to change the past, you can't. Don't think too much about the future, live now. Enjoy now. Live your life to the fullest.
4. It's okay to not be okay.
It is impossible to be fine all the time. There are lots of moments in life that will make you break down. You will go through hard times. Some people will even go through depression. And you should be thankful if you haven't experienced depression. Even if you don't go through depression, you will go through hard times and you will fall down. But at some point you'll get back up. You'll be okay. Those moments in life will change you, change the way you look at life. You'll probably learn something from the hard times in life, all the difficult moments and you can help and inspire other people with your stories and experiences. That's what I'm trying to do. And remember, it's also okay to ask for help.
5. At your best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person.
6. Some things that cross your path in life aren't meant for you or meant to stay.
7. Take chances. Who knows, maybe those chances you take will lead to life changing things.
8. Focus on the positive.
Easy to say, hard to do. But being positive will change your life.
9. It's okay to love whoever you want to love. No matter the gender.
10. Appreciate your parents.
11. You can't buy happiness.
12. Confidence will change your life.
13. You don't have to be skinny to be beautiful.
14. Be kind.
15. Be around people who inspire you.

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Hi. How are you? I hope you're fine.

So I haven't really written here about my life in about a month. I uploaded a new post yesterday about heartbreak, but I haven't really talked about my life right now. So here's a life update.

My birthday was on the 1st of February. I'm now 15. For my birthday I got a computer and I'm so happy because I can now finally start writing a book, I've actually started writing it already.

I'm feeling depressed as always. Some days are fine though, thanks to my best friends or because the sun is shining and the sky is blue. I'm still here, I'm still breathing and my heart is still beating even though I don't want it to.

I still see my therapist every now and then, I have my diary, my blog and my best friends that I can talk to anytime about anything. So I don't keep these thoughts to myself. But opening up to my family is so hard and it will take so much time till I can be fully open with them, if I ever will. Speaking about family, I haven't seen my mom or her boyfriend in many weeks because I've been feeling so incredibly depressed lately, and I've realized that the nights are harder for me, especially when I'm not at home. I get really anxious. But tomorrow I'll see them because I'm going shopping with one of my very best friends. And speaking about friends, I say this so often but I'm so so thankful to have my best friends in my life. I love them to death and they help me more than they think.

School is fine. Of course it's hard for me but I'm trying so that's good I guess. We got to see our grades today. We get to see them three times a year and this was the last time I get to see them before summer. I was surprised, I'm proud of myself because my grades were actually better than I thought they would be.

I'm 15 which means I got a gym key so I've been going to the gym a few times. Before I got a gym key I've been working out at home, believe it or not. No I haven't seen incredibly big changes in my body, but I lost about 9 kg between August 2016 and January 2017, and since January I've lost about 2 kg. I have seen some changes in my body and I'm slowly getting more confident.

Thank God we have a week long break from school so I have time to write, relax and sleep.

I hope you're all doing fine and if not, it's going to be okay. I love you all, I'll write again soon. *hugs*

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A few months ago, I fell in love. I remember telling myself "dont you dare fall in love." But guess what? I fell for him. But I was happy. He made me happy just by simply existing. I knew I loved him when I couldn't go an hour without thinking about him, I lost sleep, I couldn't concentrate in class, I checked my phone way too often just to see if I got a message from him. I knew I loved him when his happiness made me happy and when just seeing him made my day. I knew I loved him when he made my heart beat faster when I didn't want it to beat at all.

It felt like everything was perfect. But it all changed…

The thing is, loving someone who doesn't love you back is one thing, but loving someone who you thought loves you back is a totally different thing. It hurts. It hurts like hell.

When I'm reading quotes about love, every goddamn love poem and quote reminds me of him and that brings tears to my eyes. And what also hurts is, when I'm reading those love quotes I think about him, but when he reads love quotes he thinks about her.. Seeing him smile at her, hearing him talk about her. It all made me realize that you don't need water to feel like you're drowning.

I still love him, I think I always will. He has become one of the most important people in my life and I know that if I ever wake up one morning and he doesn't, I will take the last step and move to heaven with him. Because I can't live without him.

I love him. But I should be angry at him. Not angry because he loves someone else, there isn't really much I can do about that. But I should be angry because he treated me like shit. I say this myself, but I deserve so much better. I deserve the love I tried to give him. I poured all the love I had inside my heart to him. I tried to give him everything he wanted, but now I realize that none of that matters because I wasn't what he wanted.

It feels like my heart has been ripped apart in tiny little pieces. But I'm trying to be strong. I'm trying my very best to move on. It's hard, because reading those quotes and hearing some songs will remind me of him, it's hard because when I see him smile, it feels like falling in love over and over again. But I keep on telling myself that I deserve better. I will get over him eventually, I know I will.

I don't regret falling for him. I know I should be mad at him. But I actually feel sorry for him. He threw away a girl who would've done anything for him, who loved him, even his flaws. I hope he'll realize that people like me are hard to find. I hope he'll see what a mistake he made. But I also want to thank him. Because thanks to him, I've learned to put my feelings into words, to put them into poetry and to words that hopefully can help people. Thanks to him, I learned to love myself a little bit. Thanks to him I understand more about the real meaning of love, and life. Thanks to him I've understood that not all the things that cross my path in life is meant for me or meant to stay. Thanks to him I can help people. Help them to understand that they aren't alone. Thanks to him, I've learned more about myself and life.

Now let me tell you. If a person has broken your heart, don't beat yourself up for loving him/her so much. Feel sorry for them for throwing away a person like you, who would've done anything for them and who truly loved them. Honey, you deserve the love you're trying to give someone else. You can't force yourself to stop loving someone, but you can tell yourself that you deserve better and try to move on.

There is so much more in life than him/her. There are cozy little coffee-shops down the streets in beautiful cities, with good lattes and nice waiters. There are Christmas trees that you see in apartment windows while walking in the snow, there are rainy Sundays and sunny summer mornings when you wake up to a little sunlight that shines on your face through your curtains. There are pretty flowers, pink sunsets and the sound of ocean waves. There are record players, music and fancy outfits that make you feel confident. And don't forget your best friends. The sleepovers, the laughs and deep conversations. There are shopping days and Friday nights with movies and pizza. There are so many things and moments in life that can make you happier than he/she ever made you.

Honey I promise, one day you will wake up next to someone you love, you will dance around the kitchen on a Saturday morning making pancakes and coffee. You will find someone who makes you happy, someone who you're confident enough in front of that you don't even bother to cover your face when he wants to take pictures of you or when you laugh. You will find someone who accepts you for who you are. Who is there for you when you cry and who loves you even if you sometimes talk too much, someone who holds you when you feel anxious and someone who gives you kisses that feel like heaven. You will find someone who makes you truly happy and who makes you fall in love with life. You will find someone who loves you just as much as you love them. When you find the right one, you're going to look back at this period of your life and you're going to be happy for not giving up.

Yes, heartbreak hurts. But you will get through it. I promise.

I love you all. *hugs*


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Hey everyone. I'm back. How are you all? I hope you're all fine. I'm not so good, as always. But I'm still breathing.
So yeah I'm back. These past few weeks I've been getting some rest. Some of you may know where I've been, others may be confused and some of you might not even care. While I was gone, I was apart from my closest friends. I didn't see them every day like I usually do, and it made me realize how incredibly important my best friends are to me. It made me realize that they are the only things that make me happy. Being without them really showed me how depressed I really am.
Something I think about every day is how can people like them love me? Who the hell would love me? I don't really get it. After being apart from my best friends just for a few days, when I got to see them again I got so many hugs and I felt so loved and happy. That's right I said it. I was happy. And I'm not happy often at all. But right at that moment I was happy. It's weird how much they care about me. If you could see you would understand. I can't really explain it. But I can see that they care about me, I think they do? And I don't really understand why.
The things I've gone through these past few weeks, made me and my mom closer. She understands me now. And it's nice to know that I can now be fully honest with her.
But yeah so those few weeks I went through were filled with lots of tears, anxiety attacks and those kinds of stuff. But I'm still breathing.
I'll write soon. I love y'all. *hugs*

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Hey everyone. How are you all? I hope you all are okay. I can't tell you I'm okay because honestly, I'm not okay. At all.
A lot has happened, and I choose to not tell you much about it.
All I can say right now is that, I need to get some rest. Focus on myself and my mental health.
I won't post on social medias much but I'll be back.
Just know that I'll be okay eventually, I hope I'll be. I can't tell you to not worry, because I know some of you probably will. But I hope I'll be okay. I will see you soon. Please take care. I love you. *hugs*

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