We have a problem, and you too! You might not just know about it!
Our problem, the society’s problem, the school system’s problem! Is that girls in school are underestimated.
Me and -S are in upper secondary school as you may know. We have faced this problem through our 10 years in the Finnish school system. In secondary school this phenomenon was extremely visible through the teachers’ approach to the students. In class the boys would and will (because we are still facing this problem every day in school) scream, shout, joke and do all the things they shouldn’t be doing. Basically everything but listening and studying. The girls, on the other hand, just sit quietly, not complaining or saying anything at all, doing everything they are supposed to do. In these situations the teacher should be giving all of its attention to the girls, who are actually trying to learn something. Instead, almost all of teacher’s attention goes to trying to get the boys to calm down (but that just encourages the boys to talk more). Some teachers joke with the boys or even join the conversations with them.
Teachers use girls as noise killers in the classroom. This means that girls are seated between two loud boys to quiet them down. This is a destructive act towards the girl because she now has to concentrate on quieting the boys down and being a good girl instead of concentrating on her own studies. Situations like this are very common, especially in elementary schools. It negatively affects the girls’ social lives and their experiences on being heard and listened to in the future. In this way girls are taught to be the good, quiet, cute patient and calm girl who never says their opinions. This is the perfect Barbie doll, shaped by the patriarchy, for the patriarchy.
Where we are now, in upper secondary school, people are a little bit more mature, but this structure is still very clearly visible. If a girl gets enough courage to state her opinion in class, she often gets interrupted, quieted down and sometimes even laughed at. If a boy says the same exact thing, he will get praised by other males: "OMG THAT'S SO SMART YOU'RE SO CLEVER WOOOOOW".
We have a personal experience about this that happened recently during a Finnish holiday celebration in school where we in teams had to compete against each other. We had to build a tower out of balloons Duct tape, and the highest tower in the shortest amount of time would win. O came up with a solution on how to build the biggest tower, and stated it loudly, but no one listened. Seconds later, a boy in her group says the same exact thing, and everybody listened and thought he was so smart and a friggin' hero.
Take this in concideration, think about it, and you will realize it is true.
S & O