Happiness is in the mind, not in outside events and circumstances.  Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negative thinking.
There is an opportunity in every difficult situation to understand yourself more deeply, and also to improve your life.

I encourage you to reflect on recent situations where you’ve felt let down – where life’s outcomes were nowhere near as good as you expected.  Rather than focusing on the uncontrollable things that were “done to you,” consider instead your part in what went down.  For example, perhaps your gut told you not to do something, but you did so anyway.  Or maybe you were deceived a second time by the same person, and wish you had let go of the relationship sooner.  Or perhaps you just weren’t paying attention and ended up missing out on a great opportunity.

It’s so easy to be negative when things go wrong, or blame others for negative outcomes in your life.  But do negativity and blame change anything for the better?


Truth be told, the best time to be positive and take responsibility for your happiness is when you don’t feel like it.  Because that’s when doing so can make the biggest difference.

No matter what the specifics of your troubled times are, taking a moment to look inward at what you could have done differently and how you could potentially avoid similar situations in the future can be a healthy exercise.  This is not to blame yourself or shame yourself, but simply to give you the opportunity to learn, on a higher level, from your experiences.

It’s about learning to choose the most effective response in a difficult, uncontrollable life situation.

It’s about learning to think better so you can ultimately live better, no matter what.

The key is to realize that no matter what happens, you can choose your attitude and inner dialog, which dictates pretty much everything that happens next.  Truly, the greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another – to train our minds to see the good in what we’ve got, even when it’s far less than we expected.

But how exactly can you change your negative attitude and adjust your inner dialog in the heat of the moment?
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What we see greatly depends on how we look at it.

The truth is, our perspective on life comes from the psychological cage we’ve been held captive in.  A cage created by…

A difficult past
A sheltered life
Social influence
Pop-culture and mass-media stereotyping
And our perspective only changes when we consciously and gradually work to free our minds.

I personally read and repeat to myself on a regular basis to keep my mind uncaged and my perspective wide open.  When I shared them with the three students mentioned above, they all told me they appreciated the extra perspective.  Perhaps you will as well.


Happiness escapes from those who refuse to see the good in what they have.  When life gives you every reason to be negative, think positive.  Let go of what you think your life is supposed to be like right now and sincerely appreciate it for everything that it is.
The richest person isn’t the one who has the most, but the one who needs the least.  Wealth is a mindset.  Want less and appreciate more today.  Be thankful for your life.  For your health, your family, your friends, and your home.  Many people don’t have these things. 
It takes courage to grow and become who you really are.  Don’t fear change.  You may lose something good, but you may also gain something great.
Most of your fears are much bigger in your mind than they are in reality. You’ll see this for yourself as soon as you face them.
If you’re lucky enough to have two good options, always go with the one that scares you the most, because that’s the one that is going to help you grow.
Don’t stress about the closed doors behind you.  New doors are opening every moment and you will see them if you keep stepping forward.  And as you’re stepping, also keep in mind that we often waste too much of today by worrying about tomorrow. Just Be Present, tommorow will reveal itself as it exactly should be.
Every difficult situation can be an excuse for poor performance or an opportunity for excellence, depending on the perspective you choose.
Even when it’s tough, wear a smile anyway.  Smiling doesn’t always mean you are happy, sometimes it simply means you are strong.  And YOU ARE.
Growth is painful.  Change is painful.  But in the end, nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you do not belong.  It’s always better to be exhausted from meaningful work than to be tired of doing nothing.
Appreciate the gift of being able to work hard for what you want most.  And remember that nothing is really “work” unless you tell yourself that you would rather be doing something else.
Do what you have to do, but leave space too.  Be flexible.  Don’t overbook your life with rigid plans.  Sometimes great moments happen unplanned and big regrets happen by not reaching exactly what was planned.
Instead of getting angry over the words of others, choose to listen, be mindful, and grow stronger one way or another, because of them. 
Life doesn’t always give you the people you want, it gives you the people you need… to learn, to grow, and to fall in love.
The strongest among us aren’t those who show strength you can see, but those who have won incredible inner battles you know nothing about.  So be kind.  You can’t always see people’s pain, but they can always feel your kindness.  Being kind to people is a peaceful way to live, and a beautiful legacy to leave behind.
Three things ultimately define you: Your patience when you have nothing, your attitude when you have everything, and who you help whenever you are able.
Be humble.  Be teachable.  The world is bigger than your view of the world.  There’s always room for a new idea, a new step, a new perspective… A new journey…



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