I've been thinking a lot lately about the fact that so many people put labels on themselves. They define themselves as certain things, and those things aren't always true. I, of course, do this myself. It is human nature. Because we think that we know ourselves. But in reality, what lies are we telling ourselves, about ourselves?
For example, I sometimes think that I am not an athletic person. That it is not in my genes to be able to run fast or jump high. This is somewhat true, we are born with different abilities to do different things easily, which means that some things come more natural to some people. In my case, even as a 5 year old I was slower than most kids when it came to running and other sports. Which means I was naturally struggling because of my genes.
Does that mean that I can't train my body to be fast though? Of course not. When I was playing soccer around 11 years old, I did 60 meters 1 second faster in just one year. One second might not sound like a lot, but it is when we are talking explosive running.
This applies to pretty much everything in life. We put labels on ourselves and in our heads there are things that we can and cannot do. Why do we do this? I would say our upbringing has a lot to do with it. What other people have told us. We are all born into a family and a society that shape us into who we become. But it so important as an adult to once in a while question yourself and the things you tell yourself on an every day basis. The way you see yourself can be so different from the way the world sees you. Not to mention very different to who you really are.
My high school teacher always told me I am a creative person. I never truly believed her, because in my head I have never been creative. But lately I have started to realize that she was right. And when I think about it, lots of different people in my life has told me the same thing. I AM creative. I have a feeling for color and shapes and I often think outside the box.
I have also recently started reflecting on people putting strong labels on themselves. For example, I AM fit. I AM vegan. I AM poor. I AM bohemian. I do this myself, this blog is called Bohosoul. But the truth is, we are so many things. And we also change throughout life. If we put too many labels on ourselves, I believe our pride gets in the way of embracing change. Because if we have once said to the world that we are something, we feel bad changing our minds. We feel it is going to sound bad that we no longer stand by what we once claimed to be. But just imagine how much wiser we would be if we were more open to live, learn and question ourselves. Wouldn't that mean that we are free to become the best possible versions of ourselves?
So... What lies are you telling yourself? What unnecessary labels are you putting on yourself?