I've been thinking a lot lately about the fact that so many people put labels on themselves. They define themselves as certain things, and those things aren't always true. I, of course, do this myself. It is human nature. Because we think that we know ourselves. But in reality, what lies are we telling ourselves, about ourselves?

For example, I sometimes think that I am not an athletic person. That it is not in my genes to be able to run fast or jump high. This is somewhat true, we are born with different abilities to do different things easily, which means that some things come more natural to some people. In my case, even as a 5 year old I was slower than most kids when it came to running and other sports. Which means I was naturally struggling because of my genes.
Does that mean that I can't train my body to be fast though? Of course not. When I was playing soccer around 11 years old, I did 60 meters 1 second faster in just one year. One second might not sound like a lot, but it is when we are talking explosive running.

This applies to pretty much everything in life. We put labels on ourselves and in our heads there are things that we can and cannot do. Why do we do this? I would say our upbringing has a lot to do with it. What other people have told us. We are all born into a family and a society that shape us into who we become. But it so important as an adult to once in a while question yourself and the things you tell yourself on an every day basis. The way you see yourself can be so different from the way the world sees you. Not to mention very different to who you really are.

My high school teacher always told me I am a creative person. I never truly believed her, because in my head I have never been creative. But lately I have started to realize that she was right. And when I think about it, lots of different people in my life has told me the same thing. I AM creative. I have a feeling for color and shapes and I often think outside the box.

I have also recently started reflecting on people putting strong labels on themselves. For example, I AM fit. I AM vegan. I AM poor. I AM bohemian. I do this myself, this blog is called Bohosoul. But the truth is, we are so many things. And we also change throughout life. If we put too many labels on ourselves, I believe our pride gets in the way of embracing change. Because if we have once said to the world that we are something, we feel bad changing our minds. We feel it is going to sound bad that we no longer stand by what we once claimed to be. But just imagine how much wiser we would be if we were more open to live, learn and question ourselves. Wouldn't that mean that we are free to become the best possible versions of ourselves?

So... What lies are you telling yourself? What unnecessary labels are you putting on yourself?

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I can swear, I can joke
I say what's on my mind
If I drink, if I smoke
I keep up with the guys
And you see me holding up my middlefinger to the world
F*ck your ribbons and your pearls
'Cause I'm not just a pretty girl

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Auckland is getting colder. This morning when I walked to work at 4.45am it was +5 degrees. This is something that we are not used to! It reminds me a little bit of Sweden, even though Sweden gets a lot colder than +5 degrees. I was all snuggled up in my big knitted scarf though so I really did not mind. And besides, as I was walking a saw a tiny little hedgehog sitting on the side walk. It was so damn cute!!! I just had to stop and take a photo of it. It makes me such a girl, but seeing that cute hedgehog put me in the best mood!

What else is happening in my life?
I got some really great news yesterday! My roster is changing at work so now I'll work Monday-Friday with only 2 early mornings, plus having the weekends off. So I'm more than happy!! This is going to change my everyday life for the better. It is always hard to do shift work when your hours change every week. The body is having troubles following the daily patterns when it keeps changing. Sleep, eating, exercising... everything gets out of sync. But now there will be a bit more stability. One thing I always try to do in life is trust the journey. You never know what's waiting around the corner. Push through the tougher parts and soon a positive change will come. It always does!

I have booked a trip to Sweden in June to visit family and friends. I am very excited for this, I miss everyone so much. Chris unfortunately could not come this time, which was a shame. But in stead I can look forward to the day when he can! And besides, seeing each other after three weeks apart is going to be absolutely incredible. It is like falling in love all over again, I remember it so clearly from last time I went to Sweden.

Right now the sun is rising over Birkenhead, I am so blessed with my incredible view. Have a fantastic Wednesday!

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After finishing work on Monday afternoon, I went home and Chris told me to pack my bag. He was taking me on a surprise getaway for my birthday! Very excited I jumped in the Uber with my love, not knowing at all what to expect. The driver dropped us off at the harbour. "Are we going on a boat??" went through my mind. Chris grabbed my hand and walked over to Pier 2. There was the Waiheke ferry. My heart skipped a beat, I got even more excited!! I love Waiheke so much, so knowing that's where I would spend my birthday made me so happy.

When we arrived we went to get the rental car that Chris had booked for us. We drove up a hill to get to the hotel we were staying at. The view of our room blew my mind completely! I have never in my life stayed at a hotel with a nicer view than that one. The room overlooked the ocean and the beautiful bays!

After checking in at the hotel, we went to the Mudbrick winery for a 7 course degustation dinner. It was absolutely divine! Probably the best dinner I have had in my entire life. And the wine was delicious too! I felt euphoric, everything was so perfect and romantic. I was thinking to myself "wow, my life is such a blessing".

The next day I woke up from Chris hugging me and whispering "happy birthday baby". I almost felt like I had my birthday the day before because of everything being so incredible at dinner, so waking up to another day of surprises made me feel very spoiled. We had coffee in bed and admired the incredible view, and I got my birthday present. Then we went to a cozy cafe with sea views for a birthday breakfast.

After breakfast Chris took me to a house near the beach. I had no idea what we were doing there. Turned out the lady living there had a massage room in her house, and Chris had booked me a relaxing full body massage. It was absolutely amazing!! The birds were singing outside the window and I could hear the waves hit the beach nearby during my massage. I was thinking to myself that it can't get much better than this. I was wrong.

After the massage we drove to three different galleries and looked at beautiful art. A woman working in one of the galleries said "you are the first couple I've seen all day that really look in love" and that comment from her made my heart ache in the best way possible. We finished the day with oysters, wine, gelato ice cream and a trip to the beach. When we got home around 7pm we lighted some candles, ate popcorn and watched a movie. A perfect end to a perfect birthday!

We were so lucky with the weather too. It was 23 degrees, blue sky and sunshine! Which is incredible considering the last few weeks has been rainy, windy and cold in Auckland. What a day! <3

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Good Friday made me feel so tired and relaxed. Pretty much every store in Auckland was closed so there wasn't much to do but chill at home. My other half told me that sometimes people even get a fee of they are opened on Good Friday! So everyone is literally forces to relax, haha. Me and Chris just watched movies and eat popcorn. A perfect Friday in other words!

Today the sun is shining, the view is absolutely stunning. It is getting colder though, Autumn is definitely on its way. But I find that a bit cozy. I love it when I get to wear my Ugg boots and knitted scarf. Besides, we had a kick ass Summer in my opinion so I don't mind the cold weather so much. Ask me again in two months and I might have a different answer ;)

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I have a confession to make. I am somewhat obsessed with mermaid nails at the moment! I just find the glitter to be so damn satisfying to look at! So of course I had to get me some new mermaid nails at my nail appointment two days ago. These are my favorite ones so far! It's so much fun to get different nails every other week. It makes me feel so fresh.

What do you think about this color?

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They told us that a big cyclone was coming to Auckland. Heavy rain, wind of 150km/h and thunder. But in stead, the storm went straight past Auckland and mother nature gave us this. I have never in my life seen such an amazing rainbow! This photo is taken from my bedroom window. Nature really is incredible, I often find myself speechless by its beauty. New Zealand really is heaven on earth on beautiful days like this!

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Happy Easter!

This year is the first year I am not celebrating Easter like normal. Easter is not a big deal for my partner, but I have always grown up celebrating with traditional Swedish food, paining eggs and decorating the house. But since he did not want to celebrate like that I was thinking that I at least could cook us some decent food!

I just improvised with what we had at home and came up with this dish. It is a zucchini-carrot pasta with pesto, garlic and prawns. So yum!! Chris loved it too. Want to know how to make this? See recipe below!

Zucchini-Carrot pasta with prawns
Serves 2

Ingredients:
3 small zucchinis
2 carrots
500g Prawns
2 tbsp of pesto
1 clove of garlic, crushed
Olive oil
Salt and pepper
Basil leaves (optional)

How to:
Peel the zucchinis and carrots into long, thin strips with a vegetable peeler. Stir fry the vegetable pasta on high heat in some olive oil for about 5 minutes. Put to the side in a bowl. Using the same frying pan, cook the prawns for about 3-4 minutes until they turn pink. It is important not to overcook prawns, once they are pink turn off the heat. Put the vegetable pasta back into the frying pan with the shrimp and add the crushed garlic and pesto. Stir in the pesto and garlic and finish with some salt and pepper to taste. Serve with fresh basil leaves for extra basil flavor! Enjoy!

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On Friday me and Rochelle went to Vinyasa Flow yoga together and then grabbed some lunch at Fika With Me. Look at this lovely food!! It was absolutely divine. To all of you living in Auckland, you have to try this! Yum!

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I have a very good mindset right now. I feel energized, strong and happy. My workouts are going great at the moment and I feel motivated. I have also changed my diet a tiny bit, I have cut down on the carbs and increased my protein intake to see if it will improve my results from the gym. I'm so sick of feeling unhappy about my weight, and I have realized that if I never quit exercising in the first place, I will never have to start all over again. Which has been my biggest problem in the past, to not be consistent enough with my training. So now I am working out about 4 times a week, no excuses. For my own sake. It makes me feel so good!

Today is a lovely, sunny Sunday in Auckland. I am currently at work and will be the whole day, but I have the best view anyone could ever ask for. I see the entire ocean from the reception so I feel very blessed. I am so grateful for everything in life right now. I am grateful for my work, partner, family, friends, house, health and much, much more. I've got so many amazing things going for me.

Do you remember the book I am reading? If not, it is called "Who says you can't? You do!". It is such a great book! This book is what made me make the decision to exercise more regularly again. The author really forces you to analyze your life and also realize that you have 100% of the power needed to make whatever you want out of your life. I love taking advice from people who have lived and learned more than I have, someone who is older and wiser. It saves so much trial and error to actually take advice from someone who knows. Who is your inspiration/mentor? If you don't have one, get one! We all need a little guidance sometimes.

Have a great Sunday!

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