If you were to say you have never been jealous before, you’d be lying. If it were over a person, or even a toy another kid owned in your youth, we’ve all been jealous. I find jealously to be the main problem in our society today. It evolves around money, talent, and even appearance. So much in appearance that there’s comments on posts, dragging other people down for a body part or look. Girls are going ham over the so called “ideal” body shape. Why can’t it just be your body shape that is ideal? Why can’t we just accept ourselves and not compare each other? Although, It doesn’t always occur around refined subjects. Jealously can also be laced in with greed, and lust. As you can tell, the comparison between figures is just as bad as the juxtaposition is between poor and wealthy; including politics! These days politicians are competing for power, driven by greed. So much so that if one politician were to be doing a better job as to reaching that goal, the other would try their best to stop them; usually caused by envy, jealously and the thought of the public’s opinion. Of course the mind goes along the tracks of thinking that you want the Community to think highly of you, but, how can that happen if this person is doing better at your job than you? How does this make everyone think of you, a failure? Oh no no, I can’t be a failure. Is this fair? Obviously not. And that’s where it starts. This is showing us that we’re taught failing is where it stops, that this it where it’s over. But that’s not right. We all make mistakes, only some choose to bounce back. We think of mistakes as failure, but failure is not getting back up and trying, trying until you’ve made it. This is what we want kids to base success off. Not thinking we have to be the best, and that others can’t be in the way of our goals.

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“The grass is always greener, but it’s just as hard to mow,” a quote from John Butler, demonstrating how we want what others have; but it is just as hard to handle as what we already obtain. We all have learn to love and accept what we’ve got, because everyone’s the same in the end. We all share the privilege of our earth and it’s resources, why get so worked up over the physical aspect of something miraculous, like our bodies when all that matters is our minds and souls. Jealousy is between all the cracks and crevasses of our society. It’s ugly but it’s human kind. Instead of using the energy you create from jealousy to tear people down, use it to build them up. It’ll make better of the situation. Make society a better place.

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The Spotlight Effect: Feeling of presence that you're being watched and judged on your movements and/or appearance, putting you in a sort of spotlight.

This can make people feel insecure or overexposed, causing them to be quite preservative and hold back their actions or words, what we don't understand is that everyone is in the same position. Everyone feels in the 'spotlight,' we just don't notice or take it into consideration. We all want to get along with each other; be nice to one another, and make people like us, but we don't realise most of us have the same goal. We all want to be liked, and thought of in a good way, but when the spotlight effect is put into action, you feel as if you do one thing wrong, you've blown it and everyone notices; but they don't. The thing is, they don't care as much as you think they do. We're all in the same boat, trying to fit in, and get as far as we can through life, don't feel as if every little mistake puts you back or makes people think differently about you, they're just going to treat it as if it happened to them. How they'd want to be treated. Think about it, we overestimate the power and affect our actions have on other people when we're meeting them, it's quite insignificant if you were to say one thing that doesn't fit. Don't be scared to be yourself, be proud. The more confident you are, the more people are going to feel comfortable, which initially helps both cases. Moral of the story: in our sight of view we're one for ourselves, and people don't really care as much as you think they do, vice versa, how you do about them. So be yourself. Laugh harder than expected, smile bigger, and be weird. No one really cares, and if they do, do you?

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Pressure. Pressure is in everyone and everything. There's all different types; Peer pressure, social pressure, but personally, the most significant kind is the pressure to succeed, not only by others but ourselves as well. We're taught from a young age that we want to grow up and be rich and own a booming company with a house on a hill and whatever, but is that really succeeding? What is success? I find success to be happy. Happy with the person you've grown into, happy with what and who you're surrounded by. The pressure applied to young children in schools to ace every test and excel in their classes is absurd. Putting a kid in a room with 20 or so others with a sheet of paper in complete silence with them thinking 'this is make it or break it,' is really not healthy. They were made to live, laugh and adventure. Let them roam, let them run, let them have fun! Don't lock them in a building for 12-14 years of their life. Kids should not be put under the amount of pressure they are in schools. Some people are made for the worlds so-called "success" but others aren't. Some people crumble under pressure, all people struggle, and for all times sake, some can't even make it through the first twenty years of their life. Knowing that kids aged from 11-18 are in high schools, leading up to uni and the 'outside world,' is scary. The amount of work students have to go through to prepare to suffice for themselves is imense. Thinking they've only come 18 years into their life and here they are, supposedly ready to leave home and make a living. Being in high school, i know that around 75% of the people that attend my classes have no idea what theyre going to do with their lives, including myself! And with three years to try and figure that out? It's really intimidating. Schooling systems should be teaching kids what it really is to succeed, not what society wants and knows it to be. It should be to be happy with yourself and your life. Not to grow up hating your race, class or appearance. Acceptance. Amongst most, among all. Some will say it's for the greater good, or the fact that it's how the world works, but it's not too late to change or transform that. To redefine the meaning of success. To help those who struggle or dont know where they're going.

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