I do not know, if I am the only one noticing this, but I feel as if there has been a lot of hate going around, especially on social media such as YouTube and Instagram. It might always have been this way, and I have been blind, but now that I have noticed it, I feel as if it is everywhere.
It seems as if people prefer the hate to anything else, or at least it does to me. When I go on YouTube, I see ‘fail videos’ everywhere I look in my feed of beauty channels, with thumbnails where they make certain faces at the products. And I have noticed it with especially one of my subscriptions, where she seems to be overly dramatic when reviewing a ‘fail’ product, being way over the top. I get it! You do not like this product, but please, you do not have to dry heave or make gagging sounds because of it. There are better ways to review a product, where you do not have to slam and overly critique the product and company. But this is, sadly, what most of the viewers want. They want to see the overly animated YouTuber hate the product.
This makes me ask the questions: when have we become so obsessed with hating? Since when did we want to see people hate things, more than love them? Why do we feel, that it is okay to spread the hate and aim it at others, especially people we do not know?
The comment sections on YouTube and Instagram have a tendency to flood with hate and nastiness. People saying extremely mean things to each other, without even knowing one another. I might be old school, but I have been thought, that if you do not have anything nice to say, then you do not say it, unless it is as constructive feedback. I for one try to be as positive and encouraging as possible, when on social media. A couple of days ago, I was following in on a live stream on Instagram. A woman I follow had taken up knitting, and was doing it on the live stream. It was her first time ever picking up the pins and yarn, and I having a bit of knowledge tried to guide her, when she asked. I encouraged her, tried to motivate her to keep going even though she knew, that she sometimes made a mistake. She seemed to be almost humbled by my encouragement, saying that I should take up motivational speaking. I, of course, was happy to see, that my comments and tips had made her feel more confident with this new project. Positivity spreading positivity, love spreading love. But this made me think, that we might be more used to getting negative feedback, and we almost expect it, rather than positive or constructive feedback.
It is not only on YouTube, but in everyday life. Take this as an example:
I wrote a job application to a Danish makeup company, and got a phone call asking me to come in to an interview. I got there (‘there’ being almost 110 miles away from my home), had the interview and heard nothing back from them for the next FOUR weeks. When they finally reached back to me, it was to inform me that they would like to see me again. So I go, had the interview and again, silence for two weeks. When they called I thought to myself, “okay, they are going to tell me, that they went with someone else, fine”, but they did not! They wanted to see me for a third time, and this time I would meet the head of the company. By this time, the time between the first and third job interview was almost two months, quite a long time if you ask me. But I thought to myself, that this is a big and professional company, maybe they had a lot on their plate, and I really want this job. It being the third interview, I might be on the verge of getting it. We had the third interview, and the head of HR told me, that she thought it went rather well. The next day I was greeted with an email from them, but it was not a follow up email on the interview, but instead a test! They wanted me to solve two cases for them, and send it back to them, so they got an idea of what I was capable of. I was lost for words. They had had my application and resume the whole time, and at every interview I had stated what I could and could not do, and then they send me a test?! I was a bit choked at their way of handling this. Nevertheless, I did what they asked me to do, send it back and received… silence. Again. Two days later, I tried phoning them, but with no answer. I wrote them an email, asking if they had gotten my previous email from the test, and asking if they had come to a conclusion regarding the job and me. The next they the head of HR called.. with bad news. She was sad to say, that they could not offer me to position.
Obviously, I was sad not to have gotten the job, but I was not angry. Everyone around me, however, that had heard the whole story, got angry and very upset. Some even wanting to contact the company and giving them they two cents. What would they accomplice by doing that? Would the company suddenly change their mind and hire me, because people got angry at their way of handling this application process? No. I was amazed at how many people around me got angry, some stating that they would boycott the brand and start to ‘spread the message’.
Why the hate, I ask. What good can possibly come from spreading hate? Nothing, is you ask me. You give what you get, so why give hate? If you go into something with a negative mind set, the outcome will in most cases be negative. So why not spread some love, give a compliment and encouraging words to others.
A little love never hurt nobody, but a little hate can do a lot of damage.