I’m sick and tired of people who thinks that my long distance relationship isn’t as valid as others. Just because we have a shorter amount of distance between us, doesn’t mean that we always have it easier. We are 700 kilometers apart. 435 miles. With a car ride, that is 8 hours. With bus it can take from 10-14 hours. If you go by train, the train doesn’t go all the way. From where he lives he has to take a bus to the train station for 1,5 hours and then take the train for 10+ hours.
I’ve heard people say that we’re lucky. Yes, from some perspectives we are luckier than other couples. We live in the same country, with no time difference. We are closer than many long distance couples, I know that. We have met a lot during these 2,5 years that we’ve been apart, much more than many couples.
But it isn’t always easy for us either, to be able to meet. Because of that, I get a little annoyed when people think that we have it so easy. First off, we are still only 17. Next year we will both be 18, and we are hoping that things will get easier then. My birthday is March 22nd and his is April 5th. Neither of us have a car, because you can’t get a drivers license here until you are 18, so we can’t drive to each other. But we’re really hoping for things to get easier once he’ll get his own apartment when he turns 18, and he’ll probably get his drivers license before me and hopefully get a car.
I know people who are older than us, but they can’t afford meeting each other even if they wanted to. I know people with families who doesn’t accept their relationships, and therefore they can’t meet. Everyone is in different situations, and at times it can be easier and sometimes harder. Just because a couple are in the same country, it doesn’t mean that it’s always easier for them.
Plans for closing the distance is also different for everyone. Some people know when they’ll close the distance, and have a exact plan on how to do it. We’re still both in high school, and I have plans to study law after high school, and there are two different schools that I am thinking about. Either I’ll move up north, and then our distance will be half of what it is now, about 335km and a little less than a 4 hour car ride. We will then have an easier time taking the bus to each other too. The other school makes the distance even bigger. It’ll then be 1000km between us.
I really hope that I’ll get in to the school to make our distance smaller and not bigger. I believe that would make things easier for us, and then maybe he could move there too.
The Swedish school system is something not all of my followers know about; but our high school is called 1st-3rd grade. That means 6 semesters. I am now in 2nd grade and after Christmas break I’ll only have half left - 3 semesters.
The time is going by so fast but yet so slow. I study so much and the weeks are just passing by, but once I pause it feels like forever, because I’m not with Adel. We haven’t met in a while now, and it feels like forever and yesterday at the same time. The relief is that we have some kind of plan and we know how we want our future to be like.
Anyway - remember that you don’t know anyone’s situation. I don’t have to explain myself to everyone and give you the reasons why, how and when we will meet. It’s not always easy to meet even if we are in the same country.