I have been in my current long distant relationship with my husband for 5 years, as of this coming February 2016. I am currently living in Canada, where I was born & as for him he was born in Scandinavia .We met on an online chat client called 'IMVU' & have been closely connected ever since. At this moment, I have applied for my resident permit & am waiting for my last email, granting me to finally fly home to my husband. After telling people about my relationship I always get responses like "How do you manage?" or "I wouldn't be able to do it, good for you!" Which leads me to this subject -
How do I & my darling get by on a day to day basis?..
Well, in the morning I wake him up for work after sleeping on Skype for the entire night. Then we hang up & he phones me back on his cell phone's Skype application once he is in his truck. He is a night trucker so he works during the daytime hours of Canada, which collides well with my own sleeping pattern. In the mean time I go get breakfast & coffee before meeting him back on Skype. We would then talk for hours until he gets to the location where he unloads his cargo. Also, by this time, I would have to get ready for my own job &/or day out. While out I always keep in touch through Facebook messenger, letting him know where I plan to be, how long & also when I will be back home on Skype. When I am at my own work place I would let him know what time (Scandinavia time) I am planning on taking my break & see if it works well for him. If not, I would rearrange it, if possible, so that we could talk. For the working end, that is how we normally communicate. - Remember, voice & communication is ALL you have. USE it wisely! Believe it or not; Tommy & I have yet to argue. We always thoroughly discuss any issues we may be having. Either it be between us, or about our own seperate lives. Some may hear it & assume it's an argument due to the serious tone we have be using, but honestly, it's our way of getting past any difficulties in a healthy way, with the intent to heal & cure the problem.
We try to schedule 'cam-dates' & by 'cam-dates' I mean a day where we both intend to fire up our webcams & visit live for awhile. Since we usually just use voice, because of work, being lazy &/or gaming. I truly love our 'cam-dates' because they do not happen often, but when they do it's very refreshing. It is very difficult to truly embrace the connection when you can not see the persons face, meaning 'reading' them is not as fluent. But on live camera, it is a lot more like being face-to-face. It's absolutely a great way to connect & making a date out of it enables us to be sure we won't be interrupted.
Yes, it is possible. Even while me & my darling are 4,000 miles apart what we make of our sex life is very much worth the effort. Skype of course is the main link to this subject, that & HD webcams! I own a 17 inch Alienware laptop & with that I have a HD Logitech webcam. Not one of Logitech's REALLY expensive products, but it is definitely HD. I have had these two pieces of equipment for almost 3 years & they both are in perfection condition! They have served me VERY well & I am extremely thankful for the time & money that went into purchasing them. My darling & I have always been intimate over Skype, but of course, when I met him I was extremely shy & very unconfident. (He is also the first man I ever had virtual, or REAL sex with. For this, I am very proud) At first I was very quiet & reserved, but now I have discovered ways to be open, inviting & have so much fun with him! Our intimate ways mainly resulted in phone sex, but eventually it lead to live webcam sex. We would combine our cam-dates with our romantic desire, where I would show off my new lingerie & 'toys' to him under good lighting. Sometimes only I would be on live camera, sometimes only he would be or both of us at the same time. Privacy is also not easy when I have always lived with family, but I got a lock on my bedroom door which ensure that our close online encounters would not be interrupted. Once you become comfortable enough, or as comfortable as I am now, with exposing yourself to your distant Love you will see that it is not at limited as one would assume. No, it's not the 'real thing' but if you intend to stay loyal, this is definitely the way to ensure a healthy sex life, even with the distance between you two.
Gaming is our hobby & it turns out it is a great way to feel connected while distant. Especially if you play the same game or play online together. I know not all women are as into gaming as me, but I most certainly have always been! - What do we play? World Of WarCraft, Tera, Guild Wars 2, EverQuest Landmark, Heroes Of The Storm, Smite, League Of Legends, Saints Row & so much more!
FLIGHTS & AIRPORTS
Of course, buying plane tickets & rushing through airports is a huge part of a long distant relationship. I have seen my husband six times, face-to-face for different periods of time. Sometimes for four months, sometimes only one. It depended on my job, or the ticket price or what our plans may have been for the near future. Throughout those six visits, two of them have been where Tommy came to Canada to see me. The other four have been myself flying to Scandinavia to see him. Having a steady job, or even a very flexible one while having an long distant relationship is a must! Just because Skype & WiFi exist does not mean that is the limit. Especially if you have NEVER met face-to-face! My tickets have costed me anywhere from 1,200 to 2,200 Canadian (7570 to 13879 kronor). I came to find, that usually, the further in advance that you book the round trip flight the cost will be lower. As for one-way flights, I have only recently been looking & they appear to be, according to the website I go use, cheaper then round trip flights. I am one of those people who like flying, maybe because I have only flown to see my darling, but I do truly enjoy it. I always picked the same airports for my connecting flights, so I knew what I was up for. My trips - The flying time was usually 12 hours long & I always tried to give myself at least two hours at every layover stop. I've gotten a lot better at it over time. Also, I would physically purchase my ticket, so that I could make sure I got the layover time & locations that were to my liking. The fight center I went to were truly amazing & very understanding!
~ That is about all I can gather, in the most brief way possible, when it comes to successfully being with your distant partner. However; if you have ANY questions or want help on how to manage your long distant relationship PLEASE message/email me! I will try my best to help you out & I will always reply as soon as I can! xo