- Prepare a budget - You will now be having split households, which means you are the one responsible for the bills. You might not afford your current house mortgage. You need to be familiar with your current financial situation to be able to stay financially solvent even after the divorce.
- Search for employment - It might be hard especially if you have multiple children. It is where you need to ask for support from your family, friends, or daycare. It can also be challenging if you have been out of a job for a lengthy period. You might need to get any job even it is not related to your education, but if you start early, you can eventually find a better job.
- Educate yourself in divorce - During the divorce proceeding you can ask for child support but you might or might not get alimony support if you are a stay at home mom. It depends on the ability of your spouse to pay for it and your actual need for this payments. It can also be temporary or on a permanent basis depending on the circumstances involved. It is also important to educate yourself about stay at home mom divorce rights so you can know what you should ask and expect to your divorce agreement.
- List down all your assets, liabilities - list your taxes, retirement plans, and all other records that have a connection to your marriage. Keep in mind that this would not only help you, but your kids as well to start again once the divorce has been finalized.
●Do not talk bad about your soon-to-be-ex-spouse - always remember to put your kid’s best interest in mind. Children are very fragile and vulnerable when it comes to divorce. You can explain them the reasons for your divorce but do not add any personal hatred about your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. It will at least help them a bit to go on their regular day to day life.
●Hire an experienced divorce and family law attorney - as last resort to divorce is litigation, you might need to hire an attorney to fight for your and kids to get what you are entitled. As you are currently unemployed, if possible, try another alternative divorce approach, like collaborative or mediated divorce. This way you can avoid lengthy trials which could cause you more. Bear in mind that the more you fight with your spouse, the more expensive the divorce will be, and the less money you would fight.