After your application has been approved, you get into the so-called Matching Process, and it's the process you go through to find the perfect host family for you. When you get a match, you receive an email from Cultural Care where it says what your family is and where you live, as you get matched with a family, your profile becomes invisible to other families for 24 hours. Once you've got a match, your family's profile is now available at one's online account, where you can read about everything from the children's ages, where the family lives, hobbies what the family expects from Au Pairen. After reading the family profile and thinking that it might be a good match, you can send a small message to the family where you tell a little about yourself and you think you could be a good match. Sometimes the family will bring and send a message to you to know more about you. Email with the family ask questions about what you want to know, ask questions about the kids and book a skype call.
It is now it starts to get a little bit scary and what everyone is a little afraid of; the first call and the interview with the family. Everyone gets nervous but just look well prepared, write down your questions, and do not be nervous about your English for the family know it's not your first language. Also be prepared for the family to ask challenging questions like:
• Why do you want to become an Au Pair?
• How do you handle stressful situations?
• Have you ever been in an emergency where children are involved? How did you handle it?
• How do you think you will handle home life?
• If the children start to mess with another child in the playground, what are you doing?
• What activities would you do with the children during the summer / winter?
But also questions about you:
• What do you like to do in your spare time?
• Tell me a little about your family and friends!
• What did you study at school?
• What are you doing now? What do you work with?
But do not forget that it is now you have the chance to ask all questions to the family, it's not just the family that will ask questions! Here are some questions I asked for the families:
• Why do you want an Au Pair?
• Tell me a little about the kids? What do they like to do, how •are their personalities?
• How's a regular day for Au Pairen to look like?
• I have two piercings, will it be a problem for you?
• What are the most important rules of yours that I should know about?
• Will I be welcome to join family days/activity’s even though I’m not working?
• How do your weekends usually look?
• What are your expectations for the year with an Au Pair?
• Why are you satisfied with your current Au Pair?
• When do you want me to come?
• What do you think about that the Au Pair will share it's own culture?
Some tips that may be good to know:
• Be honest with the family but also towards yourself. You earn nothing to lie, you should spend at least one year with the family so be honest, even if the family will not like the answer. If you lie, the family will find out sooner or later. Then you can also be picky when choosing a family, you feel that the family is not right for you so be honest and tell the family, do not think they would like an Au Pair if they know you will not be happy. I was picky and I have not regretted a dew!
• Those who say that is the family that is important and not where they live. It is not entirely true. For example, you're not a big city person, so do not go to a family living in New York or Los Angeles. After taking care of your children, you should be comfortable, but take the kids out on adventure in the city where you live. So, I was lucky enough not to be matched with any family living in any big city, because I'm not a big city person.
• Do not think of your English, because it’s awesome! And hopefully the family knows that English is not your first language so you should not be nervous that you can not make all the words. If you could not find a word, try to talk around the word, or explain the word to the family so maybe they may find the words you are looking for. I did this several times and the families were so helpful.
• Even if you like the family to want to talk to others, tell the family so they know why you removed them from your profile. And say you'd like to talk to them, though you're picking them up. It may also be that the family picks you away to talk to other Au Pairer that they still want to stay in touch with you!
• NEVER stop asking questions to the families, even when you have chosen a family. The more questions you ask the more, you will know about them, and remember there are no stupid questions. Remember, you'll stay with them for a year! Ask them to show you around the house, ask about the room you will get, your free car and who will pay the fuel costs. ASK ABOUT EVERYTHING!
In my opinion, the matching process is the most fun and exciting step on the journey to becoming Au Pair!